Obese? Wanting to join a friendly thread ?

[SeatbeltExtender]

Hi

As my user name says this summer the Ryan Air seatbelt did not fit.
Yesterday I had to sit on a wooden deck chair and I found myself trying to Google what the weight limit could be

So tomorrow I start a diet.
So many threads on Mumsnet are for people much smaller than me
I'm 18 stones and 5lbs.

Please feel free to join if you are seriously overweight, please don't join if you are just averagely fat.

potty you have done brilliantly! Well done.

Not heard of an online coach will look into that. It is obviously working for you. My gym used to have regular meet ups with the staff , we completed a big card each time which was assessed and gym routines were made more challenging every few weeks. I was surprised when I re-joined 20 years later that it isn't the case now, you're just left to your own devices unless you pay for a PT. There isn't any real structure to what I do so do need some advice.

Petra, hope you are okay, sometimes you just need to shelve things that cause stress, to take the pressure off, for a while. Are you still clocking up the steps? Spring is a nice time to be outside

@CakeFace1234 my partner and I split a year ago and I haven't really felt myself since. No motivation to even look in the mirror, and dressing my size (18) in loose, comfy outfits rather than trying to lose weight. Plus no real appetite however the weight has just stuck on. Baby steps!!!

@CakeFace1234yeah I found similar with the gym too! There are quite a lot of online coaches around so if that’s the route you’re going down then have some intro calls with a few to see who feels right. The one I’m with specialises in PCOS and women’s hormones and I’m not on stupidly low calories either, and in terms of movement all I’ve done this year is steps (if I was a gym goer pre starting with them though they would’ve done a gym plan for me/if I want to join the gym they’ll add me a gym plan in too). My friend is using a different coach and she’s also done well this year but hers is very gym focused (4x a week plus cardio sessions) and the way we check in/get feedback is different too.

I’ve hit 9kg off since 5th Jan today 🥳

@pottytrainingdd that's fantastic!

@Petra42 it's tough! I really liked this thread for a bit of moral support from people who understand.

I've been in Barcelona for a few days - seat belt and seat were slightly looser than last time I flew so that's good. Even had a little tail on my belt :) Ate and drank a bit more than I'd like so back on sensible eating today.

I loathe seeing myself in the mirror at dance classes - which I absolutely love apart from the mirror bit. The instructor this morning was about 5'0 and tiny and I'm 5'10 so would probably feel lumpen even if I was a size 12, which I am very definitely not!! Everyone is lovely though and I do enjoy it.

The gym makes me eat more healthily - salad for lunch and we're having steamed salmon tonight. 11 days till dd's wedding ... I'm sick of hiding behind things when the camera comes out.

petra, so sorry to hear about the last year for you. You are right - it really is baby steps. I remember the lovely Deborah James saying that at any time in your life where life seems too hard, try to achieve one small thing that day. Even if it is just making the bed every day - so, when you get into it later, you will thank yourself. Look at something as simple as that as an achievement. One day at a time.

potty Will look into that. Thanks for the info.

mumwith I love Barcelona and sounds like you had a great time. I know what you mean about mirrors and photos though although dance classes sound great fun and a more interesting way to getting fit.

Hi all, just checking if anyone is still around else ill join a new thread. I finally bit the bullet and weighed myself and ive gone up to 102.2kg. I've never been this high and the reality of how I look is really hitting home as I can see how wide im looking. Im doing around 15k steps a day though the weight has just crept up with me finishing the kids cereal or dinners, so im stopping all that.

Very disheartening but onwards I go! How is everyone?

Hi there, I am still around - but maybe join an additional thread if it is more active and you need the motivation as it has gone a little quiet here.. Well done on the steps though, that is a lot per day.

I feel your pain with the increased kgs. I am in the same boat and, as a result, am feeling very bloated and heavy. My waist measurement is growing as that is related to pre-diabetes. So am making efforts to be more mindful with sugar and carbs.

I did read that a poster had lost 11 lbs in a month with low carbing. I think that is June's challenge for me.