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Hi

As my user name says this summer the Ryan Air seatbelt did not fit.
Yesterday I had to sit on a wooden deck chair and I found myself trying to Google what the weight limit could be

So tomorrow I start a diet.
So many threads on Mumsnet are for people much smaller than me
I'm 18 stones and 5lbs.

Please feel free to join if you are seriously overweight, please don't join if you are just averagely fat.

Welcome @Katypp! Michael Mosley's podcasts (or indeed any with him on it) are all very informative too - such a sad loss. Well done on your progress so far!

@Seaitoverthere yes, I really wish DM had gone ahead with the op, it would have made a massive difference to her quality of life. It honestly makes me frightened to see her almost crippled now whereas only 10 years ago she was mobile, independent etc. It sounds like you're doing really well with your ongoing physio I suggested to DP that he could go back to the gym (after his extensive moaning about not losing weight) and he pulled a face and said he was "too busy" whilst parked on the sofa staring at his phone which I'm guessing means he doesn't actually want to go back

Sending you best wishes @NoDishiForRishi my friend lost a baby at 20 weeks, this was 10 years ago and she says even now the loss still hits her like an avalanche sometimes. I hope the specialist trauma team can help you - and a bit of derailment sounds entirely understandable in the circumstances! I'm well aware that this is easier said than done, but maybe you could plan a few non-food related treats to look after yourself in future - nails/ hair/ massage/ a trip out? Personally I like a pedicure but rarely have the money and spare time for it, sadly!

Morning all - it's my weigh day.
I have gained a pound and am quite disappointed as I thought I'd been quite good.
Oh well back to the drawing board!

Off work this week so today's non fast day will incorporate fish and chips and ice cream 😂

That’s annoying @recklessgran . Keep the faith, weight loss isn’t linear and you have probably hit a day when it is on the higher point of the weekly fluctuations.

@NoDishiForRishi I’m so sorry, that’s tough. I read about the certificates and thought that they are really good. Really pleased you have a referral now and hope it doesn’t take too long.

@EvangelineFox he doesn’t want to exercise does he and find ways to deal with his negativity for now knowing that it is a him problem and not a you problem.

@Katypp that’s a great loss. I feel I may never get out of the 15s at times but felt like that about the other stone brackets too! I am liking the idea of fasting for 2 days now I think about it, might try that and use the Cook Food lunch pot things that are low calorie and have 2 of those on fast days to make it easy. I think incorporating less healthy meals every so often to non fast days is sensible as if you have them every so often they don’t feel forbidden which seems to increase their appeal.

Quiet day for me today as ignored what physio said about building up distance slowly and instead of my mile loop yesterday I did 2 miles and slightly regretted it towards the end. Did a spur of the minute lane swim this week as saw there was a space still. 54 lengths and held my own in the middle lane so was really pleased. I struggled to do breast stroke legs pre op and now it feels normal which feels so good.

@recklessgran what a shame, it can be so dispiriting when you think you've been 'good' and the scales don't reflect that hopefully it will all balance out next week.

@Seaitoverthere well done on the walking and swimming! DP definitely has an issue if I take any time for myself - for exercising or for socialising - for me now it's a real treat if I even get a couple of hours for a coffee with a friend (this happens maybe once every three months!) and then he has a good moan about it anyway.

My mind is absolutely fried today... feel like I'm missing things on my 'to do' list left, right and centre I just can't keep on top of work/ kids/ life admin/ cleaning/ cooking etc etc. I missed an important call today as I was on the phone when they called and didn't recognise the number - called back when I realised and sent a text, but no reply - now I'm panicking about the consequences! I really wanted to take tomorrow as holiday just to try and get things straight in my head but my co-worker (there's only two of us on this team) is off next week and has loads to do before she goes, meaning I couldn't take it. Also means next week will be even busier for me covering two jobs

Oh @EvangelineFox , that sounds so tough 😢 What about booking time off once your co-worker has returned?

I can’t imagine what it must be like to have a DP who has an issue with you spending any time for yourself. I think maybe it is something he needs to get used to as from my perspective that isn’t normal behaviour. I would be really worried if my DD said her partner was being like that . I hope I haven’t over stepped the mark saying that.

Just a little update 1stone down today after starting WW a month ago. It hasn't been easy, definitely times I wanted or want to give up! But this has made me so happy this morning

So I've been mostly sticking to the WW programme for last month. Things that have helped me (in case useful for anyone else)

• only weigh once a week and always the same time. Some weeks I go up but then the next time it might be a bigger loss so try not to loose hope on a week by week basis
• not having the foods that got me into this mess in the first place in the house. Though I have children so not entirely possible to eliminate all chocolate and treats!
• not having such a massive goal. 2 stone by Xmas felt a big enough goal for me, I'll certainly be pausing over Xmas and then hopefully looking to restart if I got to goal and want to go a bit further. If I said 4 stone up front I personally would loose the will to live along the way in the early days

Sending positive vibes to you all

Lost 2.1lb and in a week that has included hotel breakfasts, 3 course dinners and fish and chips, I am pretty happy with that.
I have however stuck to my two fast days in between the revelry and have walked a total of 26 miles, so that helped.
Next week am back at work so business as usual.
@Minnie888 I did WW on and off for years. I loved the original points plan (1990s?) and lost quite a lot on that and attending meetings. I loved that there were no calories to point and quite a lot was free. However I found that every time I rejoined, the system seemed to be more complicated and restrictive than the last time so eventually I've given up on it. I am glad you are getting on with it - it's great when a system just 'clicks'.

Thanks, that’s encouraging. I had a Quick Look at their website last night. I was put off by an advertising ‘conversation’ in which one person said to the other that it would be okay to have fast food like grilled ‘nuggets’ . This is what put me off SW. the whole ‘you mustn’t eat an avocado but some processed low calorie crap is fine’.

I’m 5 foot 3 and 13.4 so we are very much in a par. Perhaps we can encourage each other.

I'm not sure how much I weigh but I'm size 24 and had to have a seatbelt extender on a plane this week.

I've never dieted and I don't know where to start.

@AutumnMagpies I must admit that's the bit I don't like. I've mentioned before that I don't buy into the whole spray oil thing- it's like eating plastic. And I'm not keen on the amount of processed meat it steers you too - ham and chicken mostly. But on the other hand I still make good choices like normal oil but the tiniest amount I can get away with. And falafel being very aware it's 'pointy' but not a bad choice. A good sign is I've cut down on the chicken nuggets and fast food though..... having points works for me because I can make an informed choice over a chocolate bar or sweets not both and portion control so it's a treat but not lots.

I'm unsure as to whether it is still ok for me to chat here as I have started taking mounjaro?

Just a quick one from me as I'm very achey after helping at DTS2's sports activities today. And I didn't even run, oh dear - just supervised!

@Seaitoverthere I'll definitely try to book some time off once she returns, I think I have 3 days left to take. I took a couple of days in December last year to declutter before Christmas I don't usually tell DP about those days off either because he just gives me a hard time that I should have been doing XYZ, despite him doing precisely nothing for hours on end whenever he can... he couldn't even be bothered to make dinner today, expected me to start cooking when I got home at 5.30pm after 5 hours on a freezing sports pitch after he spent all afternoon on the sofa

Well done on the weight loss @Minnie888 , sounds like the WW system is really suiting you! I'm the same as @Katypp, did WW many years ago (1999 I think!) and understood it completely then, lost a couple of stones. When I've tried to go back it just doesn't click any more, and then yes, saying you can't eat too much of things like avocados but you can eat tons of their cereal bars seems a bit hypocritical... I really enjoyed the meetings then but the ones I went to more recently just weren't as good, I think the consultants (if they still call them that?!) don't even have had to followed the WW plan themselves any more...

Back into routine today. In bed with coffee after 30 min Walk @ Home routine (2 miles walked) and getting ready for fast day.
@EvangelineFox I've got leave left to take too - you've reminded me to check how much. Menu today is:
B: Bagel thin with Cheddar spread and chopped tomato
L: Sweet potato and squash soup
D: Chicken curry and microportion of rice
S: Hot chocolate if I have enough calories left (800 in total)
Good luck today everyone!

Morning all!

After a pretty shaky mental health week I am pleased to report a small loss. I won't lie, I'm
surprised by it as I've fallen back on old habits a bit this week but I'll take it! I'm going to go through my gousto orders and remove anything that's a lot of prep or takes too long to cook, I just haven't got it in me at the moment, especially not at the end of a long day. Simple, relatively low calorie meals that take about 10-15 minutes are the way to go for me.

Speaking of mental health, I was referred to the specialist maternal mental health team and heard back from them at the tail end of last week, I've had my initial assessment and I'm now on there system and have my 'making sense of distress' appointment on the 31st so they can put me on
the waiting list for the right team. I've realized this week that I've been dealing with what I can now see are very obvious symptoms of PTSD for so long that I've almost completely normalized them in my own head, I can't remember a time when I've not been operating on some level of fear or panic, like I'm waiting on the other shoe too drop. I feel hope for the first time in a long time.

Hope you are all doing well!

@Orangesandlemons77 Well done on starting mounjaro!

Starting weight: 161.0kg (25.3 stones)

Goal weight: 72.0kg (11.3 stones)

Total Loss: 5.1kg (11.2lbs or 0.8 stones)
Still too lose: 83.9kg (13.2 stones)

16/09/24: 158.6kg Loss: 2.5kg (5.5lbs)
23/09/24: 157.1kg Loss: 1.5kg (3.3lbs)
30/09/24: 155.5kg Loss: 1.6kg (3.5lbs)
07/10/24: 156.1kg Gain: 0.6kg (1.3lbs)
14/10/24: 155.9kg Loss: 0.2kg (0.4lbs)

I'm still gaining weight despite my best efforts. Back up to 15st 6lbs this morning.
I'm getting desperate now so today I've ordered a Tefal soup maker from Amazon which was on special offer - that will be coming tomorrow.
I've decided a fresh soup diet is my next attempt at weight loss. I already practice intermittent fasting so eat between midday and 8.00pm only. I'm going to try a bowl of soup for lunch and another at dinner time followed by a small high protein low carb dinner. If this fails it will be mounjaro for me too I think..
Thoroughly fed up to be honest.

I think I have some PTSD as well and it might have been linked to comfort eating. maybe getting some help with that might help with the eating NoDishi

Here's hoping! I definitely eat to comfort myself.

I won't go on about it, but mounjaro has really helped with this.

Well done on the loss @NoDishiForRishi, and I hope the counselling is really useful for you - I was thinking earlier about DTS1's explosive meltdowns and how I've been on edge really since he was born. We are looking into an ADHD diagnosis for him as it fits many of his issues but oh, the meltdowns honestly it sometimes felt as though I was living hour to hour just trying not to let him explode. I will say that he's much better now (at 9yo) but he does still have a ferocious temper, he's just (generally) better at keeping it under control...

Enjoy the soup maker @recklessgran, it's definitely coming up to soup season!

Didn't get to weigh in today as DP wasn't in work as early as usual, and I couldn't face him commenting on it. Hopefully tomorrow instead

I wonder if I'm the only person who has set up a thread and gained weight?
I'm now 18 stones and 10lbs.

I can't seem to function

I've had many, many false starts over the years and will probably have more lapses to come. I think you just have to concentrate on the bigger picture on weigh-in days and try not to let a gain knock you sideways - easier said than done, I know.

No you aren’t @SeatbeltExtender , it’s happened to a fair few people over the years I have been on MN. I think focus as said above focus on the bigger picture. For now just try to get one day done and you can worry about the rest later .

@recklessgran that sucks. It can be so hard can’t it . I have just had my meds increased so I know I am going to have weeks of going up a bit or maintaining before I start going down again and I have only lost 3lbs of the 7lbs I put on after restarting mid September. I declined a 3 week course of steroids today as thought that would be even worse for weight gain and opted to double anti inflammatory and increase dose of other meds.

@Orangesandlemons77 that is great Mounjaro is helping . I did ask Rheumatologist today whether any of his patients who has tried it has had any relief from inflammatory arthritis as have read of some people who have but that hasn’t as yet happened to any of his patients but not many are on it.

@EvangelineFox that sounds really tough with DTS1