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[SeatbeltExtender]

Hi

As my user name says this summer the Ryan Air seatbelt did not fit.
Yesterday I had to sit on a wooden deck chair and I found myself trying to Google what the weight limit could be

So tomorrow I start a diet.
So many threads on Mumsnet are for people much smaller than me
I'm 18 stones and 5lbs.

Please feel free to join if you are seriously overweight, please don't join if you are just averagely fat.

@Clutterbugsmum i think you have the right idea. Just focus on the next stone and it does not seem so daunting. I hate driving and if i have a long journey it really helps me to think I will just do an hour then I will stop for 10 minutes stretch my legs check my phone etc.

If I thought about driving the whole way I would never start.

I've had useless few days.
My DD is off to Uni on the weekend and I will have an empty nest so I keep crying/eating.
I also worry I have give her food issues as she is stick thin.

Good ideas! Thank you!

How is everyone doing?

I have found I'm comfort eating again.
DD being dropped to uni tomorrow and I'm facing an empty nest.

I'm finding it hard to think about the next few weeks

Hi @SeatbeltExtender I wish I could give you advice re comfort eating, it's something I struggle with a lot, I'm trying very hard to allow myself to feel my feelings rather than trying to smother them with food. It's very hard. The only thing I can say is try not to beat yourself up about it, it doesn't help. It's a blip, tomorrow is a new day, just make the best choices you can.

@SeatbeltExtender no words of wisdom here but sending hugs - I hope your DD has a wonderful time at uni and that you are feeling better about it all now could you plan some trips to visit her? I'm not close to my DM (geographically or emotionally!), you sound like a lovely Mum!

Your words about actually feeling feelings are really good @NoDishiForRishi many's the time I've scoffed cake etc because I'm feeling rubbish about something and it will (temporarily!) help me to feel better. I had an awful time at home from 10 - 16 years and essentially for most of it food was my only friend/ the only thing I had to look forward to. Now I'm going through a rough patch as an adult, I've fallen back into the same pattern of comfort eating

Uni drop off went ok ( for DD, at least)

Dieting disasters have occurred
But new dawn and all that
I'd like to look noticeably slimmer next time I see her.

How is everyone else?

I have a hideous cold so I feel like my heads under about 3 foot of water but I've had a nice weekend, we went to the seaside yesterday which was nice. It's weigh in day tomorrow. Not a day I look forward too.

Glad to hear drop off went ok @SeatbeltExtender hoping for easier days for you.

Hello

Woman, aged 50, 22st 13lb, 5'9"

Full abdominal hysterectomy
Nobdules in my thyroid
Eat rubbish but not tons of it to be over 300lb

Do 8,000 to 20,000 steps per day

End of tether

Feel I trauma eat

Hi @121Diet welcome! I definitely trauma eat, like I'm trying to squash down all the things I don't have the tools to deal with. It's so hard.

I like to get my weigh ins over and done with on a Monday so here we go,

Starting weight: 161.0kg

Goal weight: 72.0kg

Still too lose: 85.0kg (13.3 stones)

16/09/24: 158.6kg Loss: 2.5kg (5.5lbs)
23/09/24: 157.1kg Loss: 1.5kg (3.3lbs)

I'm pleased with that. It's a sheer effort of will at the moment and I'm really struggling with food noise and the urge to eat when I get low but I'm really trying to keep in the front of my mind how much I need to do this. I'm managing to stick to 12-1400 calories during the week so I can let go a little bit at the weekend, which is when we tend to go out and visit cafes etc. I'm only a couple of weeks in to this attempt and for want of a better phrase the 'novelty' hasn't worn off yet, its when I'm a month or so in that the real test will come as historically that's when i either power through or give up. Fingers crossed eh!

Hope this week treats you all well!

I weighed in at 18.8 today
Heavier than when I started the thread!

I know its easy for me to say but today is a new day, don't let the numbers get you down, as my dad would day its a marathon not a sprint!

I received a text about my blood results, they show that my folic acid is borderline, no medication is needed but I need to eat more dark leafy greens, good thing my Gousto box is quite broccoli heavy this week. I have started taking a multivitamin recently so that should help too. I'm in on Wednesday for a blood pressure check so I'll ask about the rest of the results then, I am assuming if I was diabetic or pre diabetic they would have said but I kind of want a human to tell me the results. Just to set my mind at rest.

Can I join please?
F: 56, 5'7, 16.10, BMI 36.6.
I am physically disabled so can't exercise much. I 'm a Carer to 2 YP with additional needs. ExH walked out on us so I'm going through Divorce.
All of which meant I'd reached 20st in 2016. I had roux en y barbaric surgery (NHS after 5 years on waiting list). I got down to 10.10 but ot made me so ill. I needed blood transfers for iron & will needs meds for rest of life now. Plus it didn't work long term anyway (hospital told me 40%+ regain all weight in time).
Not to de-rail, just in case anyone is considering- it is not an easy / reliable option.
I'd like to lose 3st by end Jan, then another 3 by next June but that's too fast for my body so I'd like to be 4st lighter by then if possible.
I do well on low carb but I eat out of stress & frustration most evenings.

Can I join in, please?
5'10", used to weigh 9-10 stone, but just dug out the scales and I'm the heaviest I've ever been -19 stone 3lbs.
Mid 50s, multiple health problems and can't exercise due to injury.
😱

I've shrunk! Seem to be 5'9" now with a BMI of 39.7.

Welcome to @WafferThinMint @isthereaway @121Diet

I've realised that I really won't get very far with weight loss/ improving my lifestyle until I can work out how to carve a bit of time for myself... I lost a couple of stone during lockdown as I was furloughed and had time to exercise, eat healthily etc. Now the DC are back at school, I'm back at work and it's made me gain around a stone a year!

Welcome @WafferThinMint and @isthereaway !

I've been to the doctors this morning and the nurse talked me through my blood test results, I'm not diabetic or pre diabetic so that's good news! My cholesterol is fine and my thyroid is fine too. Some came back as abnormal but 'expected' so I have a telephone consult on Monday to discuss them. I do have high blood pressure though so I've been sent home with a monitor and I need to fill in a diary for a week. Well just have to see how it goes.

Have you tried the NHS app? I like it, you can see tests results etc.

I have @Orangesandlemons77 that's how I knew they were back. I just didn't want to be googling numbers and worrying myself. I have to think about my blood pressure now 😂😂. Gotta laugh eh? It is really handy! I just wish my doctors would utilize it fully!

Morning

Hope everyone is doing ok?
I'm trying to come to terms with an empty nest.
I want to be noticeably thinner next time I see my DC

@SeatbeltExtender It must be very hard, lots of love.

I have my telephone assessment with the mental health team this morning. I'm feeling nervous. I've kept a lot of this bottled up for a very long time and tried to deal with it myself, thinking that if I could just put enough distance between myself and the trauma then eventually I'd be ok. But I can't outrun it. It's with me everyday and I have to learn how to carry it so it doesn't destroy me anymore than it already has. I know I'm a damaged person, I just want to be a functional damaged person.

@SeatbeltExtender it must be very hard getting used to an empty nest - 18+ years of arranging your life round another person and suddenly you have time on your hands. When my DC leave home I'm going to cope by getting lots of pets so at least someone is happy to see me when I get home! Seriously though, I hope you can make the most of having time to yourself to do things you enjoy (and maybe have been putting off, hobbies etc?) and look forward to seeing your DD again when she's home from uni at Christmas

@NoDishiForRishi I hope your appointment goes well today, and well done for facing up to it. I've had MH therapy a couple of times to try to sort out my feelings about my childhood and it did help me to see things more logically. It hasn't really helped with the eating habits yet (maybe I should have gone into that in more depth) but was definitely worth doing, I will have my fingers crossed that it's helpful for you too.

This weekend's job is going through the fridge and getting rid of any mouldy past its best veg, with the aim that if I can see everything there, it'll help me to eat more healthily. Or that's the idea, anyway...!

Thank you @EvangelineFox ☺️

It went well, I need to be referred on to a clinical psychologist as they suspect that I am indeed suffering from PTSD. As weird as it sounds it was nice to have a professional confirm what I've known for some time. I'm not ok and I haven't been ok for a long time.