⭐️LOSE IT! July 2023. Summer Edition⭐️

[TheRealHousewife]

⭐️LOSE IT! July. Summer Edition⭐️

Healthy eating in the summer can be tricky to navigate. Summer barbecues, holidays, get togethers with family & friends makes it tougher to stay on track. No one wants to miss out on all the goodies on offer or be seen not joining in. However with forward planning and by setting your intentions you can mitigate any serious undoing of your endeavours. For example having a lighter lunch if you know you’re going for a slap up meal. Eat lighter the following day and keep hydrated to compensate.

Yet another new month will provide the opportunity to embrace a re-set and refresh to become a healthier version of yourself. These threads are for those who’d like to lose weight as well as those who wish to maintain; to encourage a healthy & varied diet and exercise.

As no one size fits all, members need to follow their own way of eating. This thread aims to offer guidance, support and a bit of hand holding.

We generally have WOW (weigh on Wednesday) day each week. However post and share your progress as often or as little as you prefer. Do what works for you.

The important thing is not to think of it as a diet (based on deprivation and unsustainable) but more a way of life (sustainable & enjoyable).

I calorie count based on a lower carb Mediterranean diet. I intermittent fast and eat twice a day. Im a long time healthy eater and overall I’ve lost over 3 stone. After having been on the wrong side of 12st Im now hovering around 9.5st. I had a blip a couple of years ago when my thyroid went wonky but now back mainly on track. Would love to wave bye to another half a stone 😬 The main thing is to never give up! Keep going!

Are you in😊 What food plan will you be following? What do you want to change and why?

Feel free to share your own links, tips & recipes!

@WeirdPookah Try not to be hard on yourself and look back with regret. That’s the road to unhappiness. Look forward positively ❤️

Good Morning … hope you have your brollies at the ready ☔️ Rain of biblical proportions is on the way!

Menu
Meal 1 - Mediterranean Omelette. Walnuts
Meal 2 - Chicken curry and rice.

Tea, black coffee and water.

Stay dry out there … it’s going to be very wet 💧

Yep, looks like another miserable wet day.

54.1kg this morning. Thank goodness things are back to normal. I must maintain an overall healthy eating plan over the summer holidays. 4 more days of the school run so I'll be down 5 miles a day on my usual walking.

Good luck to anyone weighing today.

Hope everyone has a lovely Friday🍾

@AutisticLegoLover Another good weigh in 👍. What about Walking Vids at home? That could get your steps up.

@TheRealHousewife thank you. I absolutely did enjoy the time we spent together for our anniversary and enjoying the food was part of that.

Last day of term today, I'm going to miss my 15 minute walk I do whilst waiting. Got the most horrible knot still in my shoulder, it's visible under the skin. Making my neck stiff. Been shopping this morning, not going to a walk, feeling pretty sore and grouchy. Going to wrap birthday presents when I finish my coffee.

B: Greek 5% yogurt, tinned pineapple
L: Thai green curry, cauliflower
D: Mini vegetarian toad-in-the-holes, broccoli, gravy (end of term tradition dinner!) having a jam doughnut too to celebrate end of term.

@TheRealHousewife I'll get my ball in action again as bouncing is recorded as steps on my Fitbit. Good fun and I can watch tv while doing it.

Ooooh doughnuts @WeirdPookah I love doughnuts!

Bless ya’ @WeirdPookah You've sure been in the wars ❤️. I really hope the shoulder pain subsides soon! We are like a deck of cards … one falls and everything else follows suit.

@AutisticLegoLover I did think about your TV bouncing 😬 But I didn’t think it would read right me asking ‘what about your ball bouncing in front of the telly box’ 😬

Everyone must be on holiday … it’s so quiet on here recently.

Hello all, not been in a place where I have felt able to post. Sorry!
i am exactly the same @Weatherwax13 i can’t eat and I feel sick all the time
down to 58.4 kgs this morning but hard to feel excited about it. I have realised my relationship is over and has been for years. It’s very scary.
The next few months are going to be tough!
hope everyone else is doing ok
i will check in when I can!

Oh my lovely @Ninjachicken I’m so sorry to read your update! No apology needed. Even when we realise a relationship is over, we can’t switch of the complicated feelings we feel. Rollercoaster doesn’t cover it. I wished I could help in some way. 💔😢

So sorry for not keeping up this week - life got faster again! I doubt I'll have a chance to catch up fully but my usual cheers go to everyone who weighed regardless of the result.

Huge hugs to you @Ninjachicken, I'm so sorry you're having such a difficult time. Please don't feel like you need to keep up with the thread, but equally know that we're all here if you need us 💗

2oz up today, still over 2lb under what my target weight was so I'm fine with that (I'm classing my TW as my ceiling weight now; if I creep closer to it I know to pull some different levers to get back down again. In theory!) I'm definitely going to try and stabilise where I am now, I'm feeling very comfortable with my physique. I've had a number of compliments this week about how I look trim, and a few people suggesting that I wouldn't want to lose any more - which I do agree with. I'm toning nicely with work and classes, and my size 10s are all now fitting well. I can't afford to size down again anyway so there we go 😂

School's officially out here now too, so let's see what the next six weeks have in store! We'd normally start with a takeaway but I've got bakers in the oven and a shift on tonight. Tomorrow we're having a party so it's all bets off! See you on the other side 😁

Hi @ImALittlePea You are such a busy working mum, it must be so difficult to find time for yourself. Here’s hoping you some sunny weather to enjoy the outdoors with your little ones! Have a great party and let loose 🥳 😬

@Ninjachicken I'm so sorry. Same here. It's going to take a miracle to save my marriage. I'm devastated although I realise now I should've ended this years ago.
Sending hugs and support. You sound as broken as I feel.

I'm sorry to read about marriages coming to an end, I'm sure it's extremely stressful.

I've had a good week, I'm glad the scale moved for me this week after weeks of plateauing. I took my daughter to the dentist this week and she was fine, I was stressed but put on a brave face. She had four baby teeth taken out, they were only holding on by a tiny thread but they'd become stuck due to over crowding. Anyway she was so brave and I pretended I was brave and smiled throughout but I think my inner turmoil sort of burned the calories! Sweaty palms must burn extra calories!

@Ninjachicken @Weatherwax13 sending you both oodles of love and support.

Things here are plodding along, maintaining mostly but that's because we have two weeks of meals out and added complexities. The 6 weeks holidays are always tricky but will be doing my best: much love to everyone.

@Weatherwax13 and @Ninjachicken I meant to post yesterday and got caught up with other things but wanted to share my story to give you some support. Potentially outing but nevermind. 10 and a half years ago my dad died of cancer and my husband left a few days later. In fact he was with OW the night after he died. We had two small children of 3 and 5. I was totally blindsided although we hadn't been happy due to his behaviour. He never settled into being anything other than being a single lad who thought he could continue to live his single life. He was abusive in every way possible but due to my upbringing I didn't realise until Women’s aid pointed it out. That's kind of by the by but 10 years ago I was having the best summer of my life with my dc. The freedom was amazing. The photos are amazing from that summer. Since then I've divorced the absolute fucktard and have been happier than I believed possible. When he left I was shocked, unsure what to do, didn't think I'd manage on my own with the dc, didn't think much apart from fuck fuck fuck. I've had a relationship since and have a wonderland dc from that and dated a bit but about 5/6 years ago I decided to stay single and it's been great. I was socialised to believe I needed a man to be complete/successful/happy. Utter rot. I am much better without one. I'd never have thought I'd have changed so much in how I accepted myself. I'm thinner, happier, independent, self sufficient and confident. Inconceivable at the point he left. I am so glad he left because otherwise I'd have had to kick him out or leave with the dc. The OW lasted longer than anyone thought but he's had 5 short relationships since, has gone from looking gaunt and grey-faced to looking bloated and unkempt. It's not very christian of me but it gives me some comfort to know I'm rocking singiedom and he's miserable and chasing women to fill an empty space. I'm sharing this to show how despite all that ending the relationship was the best thing that ever happened to me bar my dc being born. It seemed overwhelmingly scary and sad at the time but I've no regrets or lingering sadness for myself. It was life changing and life-giving. There's a line from one of my favourite films about preferring to be alone for the right reasons than with someone for the wrong ones. Some Kind of Wonderful I think. Allow yourselves time to grieve if this is the end of your relationships and treat yourself with kindness and with time you will be grand

@AutisticLegoLover ❤️

@AutisticLegoLover thankyou so much for the encouragement. I'm so glad you took control and found happiness and independence. I did similar after my first divorce from an abusive H. But then dived too quickly into this marriage. Conditioned as you pointed out. And in my case conditioned to be abused too. Just this time in a far more subtle insidious way. Boiling frog.
I'm ashamed that I think we're going through hysterical bonding atm. That'll change when we're home in a few days and I think I'm going to explode with rage once I'm on safe ground.
And rightfully so.
At least I see the reality of it. I'm not kidding myself.
Thankyou for reminding me of what I do know underneath. You're really kind to take the time 🩷
Mustn't fall prey to sunk costs fallacy.

Thank you so much for all your support everyone. It means so much. And thank you for sharing your story @AutisticLegoLover it is good to hear that life will go on
it is very scary but it is actually me who has come to the realisation that i cannot stay in this marriage. For many reasons which basically all add up to the fact that I have slowly been chipped away at until I have been crushed. I feel like there is nothing left of myself. To have made the decision is liberating but terrifying. Moving forward and telling him is going to be hard
thinking of you @Weatherwax13
agree about sunk cost fallacy! Often it is easier to stay, to leave requires strength and courage. It sounds like we both need a new chapter to begin

@AutisticLegoLover So glad you are happy and thriving what a wonderful story of strength and resiliance, your DC are lucky to have you!

sending hugs @Weatherwax13 and @Ninjachicken

I had a pretty good weekend food wise and was rewarded with a weight of 64.8kg on Sunday morning. Hoping that elusive number 4 stays around!

Thankyou @Allthegoodnamestakken
@Ninjachicken being the one to call time is going to be an incredibly tough conversation. I wish you strength.
I've already reconnected with my psychologist and have appointments booked.
H says he's going to start therapy too with a view to us then having marriage counselling.
My feeling is this will serve as a route to breaking up rather than saving the marriage.
It's all too late for me.
In terms of weight loss news I'll post next week when I'm in possession of scales again. I've been able to eat again so we'll see!

Good Morning

That’s a great weigh-in @Allthegoodnamestakken 👍 Well done and fingers crossed the numbers stay in your favour 👏

@Weatherwax13 It sounds like you’ve stated to navigate the inevitable path ahead in a realistic and positive way. Wishing you well ❤️

Menu
Meal 1 - Minestrone Soup. Almonds.
Meal 2 - Cod, peas, carrots and side salad.
Tea, black coffee and water

Exercise
Session 1 - Hand weights
Session 2 - Yoga

*started not stated 😣

I'm plods along this week. Eating as good as I can. I'm pleased with food choices this week so far.

Sending you both strength and support @Ninjachicken @Weatherwax13 ❤️

Inspirational story @AutisticLegoLover you're evidently a very strong character!

Well done @Allthegoodnamestakken! And to @DownUdderer for the plodding - sometimes it's the best way.

Our summer holidays have started off as a very mixed bag. Our celebratory party on Saturday was a lot of fun, despite it being rainy all day - the kids still played out in it and didn't seem to care a jot. Unfortunately something quite expensive in the house was broken by accident, which can't be helped, but has really blighted things (not least because the promise to contribute to its replacement seemed to be a false one, which is very disappointing). It's not stopped raining since so we're a bit bored at home, hopefully it clears up soon and we can start to make the most of all the local places we can visit.

Food wise, I'm not too far off track, considering. I did finish off some leftover open bottles of wine on both Sunday and Monday, but I'm not drinking any more now until the weekend when I have a lunch date planned. Especially because my mood is a bit grey, it's what I think I want but actually the last thing I need.

Yesterday's meals:
Lunch - sweet chilli houmous, cheddar and vegetable wrap, with some crisps
Dinner - 1/2 pizza, wedges and onion rings
(Hmm ok, in hindsight - quite a way off track really 😬)
Tea, water and 3 glasses of wine

Today:
Lunch - cup-a-soup special with a dollop of sweet chilli houmous
Dinner - baked potato with either beans and cheese, or a veggie bake and veg
Tea, one cappuccino (had some barista training at work so felt rude not to taste my efforts 😜) and lots of water. NO WINE.

Really hope the holidays start to improve soon, otherwise it's going to be a VERY long six weeks 🥴