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Any Lardy fatties in their 50's want to join me in weight loss

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5NOV · 23/05/2021 08:57

Morning, I'm looking for some company in my quest to lose the lard.

I'm useless at dieting, I have managed to shift one stone since Christmas but I keep losing and gaining, rinse and repeat.

Anyone up for joining me.

OP posts:
Shehasadiamondinthesky · 02/06/2021 17:56

Yes please, I'm 59 and desperate to lose the lard before my 606h birthday in Feb 2022. I'm starting tomorrow and need moral or immoral support!!!

PioneerWoman · 02/06/2021 18:11

Welcome Shehasadiamondinthesky.

AnnaCharles888 would love to know how much weight and how long it took, if you followed a plan? If you don’t mind.

I am trying Fast800, proper food, the last two days I’ve eaten a lot of chicken, tomatoes and leaves, tomorrow is roast veg day. The weight is not dropping off fast but it is coming off. When people say it’s harder when you are older it’s true. I never thought I would have such a big spare tyre, used to be very slim.

7 lbs at a time is my mantra, otherwise I become overwhelmed.

jannyapple · 02/06/2021 22:43

I'm on day 5 of truly making an effort - saw my daughter today and she said oh mum you've lost weight
Really looking forward to weighing Monday .. I'm so hoping to go down into next number bracket ! Keep going everyone .. we oldies can do it lol just a bit slower with more aches and pains 😂

SunscreenCentral · 02/06/2021 23:51

Hello Lardy Ladies of 50ish
I am one of you. May I join your chat?
Turned 51 in April and I have 2 stone to lose. Weighed in this morning at 152.5 lbs.
My problem is I'm brilliant for two weeks and then it all falls apart after say a long weekend. And it can take months to drum up the willpower to start again Blush

I want this weight gone by 30 July.

PioneerWoman · 03/06/2021 09:28

Welcome SunscreenCentral.

That’s great jannyapple, same here, I want to see a new stone number on Monday too. Luckily this weekend is very quiet so I have no excuse for going off the rails.

wakeupnshakeup · 03/06/2021 09:36

Yay go @jannyapple that's the spirit. I was in bed by 9 last night, no desert or wine. Feel better for it. Out to do my steps shortly.. I've also signed back up to the davina workouts. I did a few back in lockdown and enjoyed them. Just need to be more consistent this time 😆 have a great day all x

Theforest · 03/06/2021 09:46

I'm 50 this year. Can I still join??

Don't know where to start really. Put lockdown weight on like a lot of others. Mainly because we are now able to eat as a family. But kids are fussy so we eat moredon their sort of food rather than ours. They won't be eat the food I prefer. Do you just cook separate meals??

I've done 5:2 before a few years ago which was fine and feel that is probably the best way as 5 normal days.

SeasonFinale · 03/06/2021 09:51

Again need to lose weight but seriously people with BMI of 23 on here is what puts me off joining in.

AnnaCharles888 · 03/06/2021 10:09

@PioneerWoman @wakeupnshakeup I decided when I turned 50 I wanted my old body back. It took me about 7 months and I ended up losing 14kg and have kept this off. To some that may sound not much, to others a lot. We each have our own journey. The last 3kg for me were the hardest. But what I was DETERMINED to do was not fall into another diet. Four years later and I eat completely and utterly normally without ever thinking about weight.

I tried many different diets, but either got bored with them or they required me to eat things I just don’t like (eg I know kale is supposed to be good for you but it always makes me think I’m eating a hedge). Here's how I started:

I created (and still create) my own food protocol for each day. That’s the first thing to do. A protocol is simply a plan of what you will eat and when you will eat it. The really important thing is you have to decide this ahead of time. You cannot rely on making this choice for yourself in the moment. We make poor decisions in the moment. Without a plan and faced with a slice of carrot cake (my weakness) I would always say yes when I wanted to say no. It was like someone else's hand was reaching out for the cake when I knew I didn't want it.

A food protocol is not a diet. A diet is restrictive (it’s usually something you’re told to eat), whereas a food protocol is something YOU choose. You can put whatever you want on it.

This is the bit that made me feel good. I got to decide. I was in control. But the only rule I had to adhere to was this: I would follow my food protocol, no matter what. Because part of the food problem was not trusting myself to do what I said I would. If you have a tendency to give in, make your food protocol really easy in the beginning. Make it something you are WILLING to eat, even if it contains stuff on there that you think you shouldn’t eat. Then when you start to trust yourself to be able to commit to your decisions, you can start to adapt your protocol further to make better choices. In fact you’ll find you’ll want to.

Other than that the only guidelines for the food protocol I would offer are:

  1. No sugar or flour (because they are concentrated foods that mess with your body’s function and its ability to use fat from the fat stores). This is important because it stops over desire - which is a main cause behind overeating. You’ll feel in withdrawal for the first weeks (I felt discomfort) but after that you get more of a connection with your body - ie it’s much easier to know when you’re really hungry.
  2. Eat a maximum of 2 to 3 meals per day.
  3. No snacking. At all.
  4. Go as long as you can between dinner and your next meal to allow for insulin to drop.

This all sounds so obvious, and it is, but it’s managing your brain’s reaction to this that’s the hard bit. And learning to manage food cravings (mine were at 8pm when I knew I was not hungry, but still felt the desire to eat) without resisting.

I have some tips on that, too, but start by creating a protocol that you COMMIT WITH ALL YOUR HEART to sticking to. Make it very easy to start with if that feels helpful - do not jump to a protocol of lettuce and Ryvita if you’re used to eating pizza. It's your protocol.

AnnaCharles888 · 03/06/2021 10:14

@SunscreenCentral Willpower doesn't work in the long run because there's just not enough of it to go around.

If you get rid of OVER desire for food you will find you no longer need willpower.

AnnaCharles888 · 03/06/2021 10:18

@ThinWomansBrain You raise a really good point. The more we obsess about something the more important it becomes. This is why resisting foods doesn't work in the long term. The more you tell yourself no the more the desire for that food creeps up. Your willpower keeps it in check temporarily before you ultimately give up and give in.

NotWhereIWantToBe · 03/06/2021 10:29

Can I join, please? Nearly at the end of my 50's and seem to have comfort eaten my way through every single lock down! I need to get back down to where I was before Lockdown 1, which means losing 1stone 9lbs, after which I would like to lose at least another half stone.

I was doing SW, but have decided to go it alone. Well, not quite as I'm asking to join in here! But anyway, from this week, I'm doing a sort of "cut back on the calories, eat less chocolate, up the protein, drink more water" kind of thing.

Fingers crossed!

RickOShay · 03/06/2021 13:15

I’m starting after the weekend. Impossible this week. Don’t go away Smile

SunscreenCentral · 03/06/2021 22:09

Interesting thought process @AnnaCharles888
I am doing something like that in that in the morning I decide what I'm going to eat, and I'm eating fairly healthily at the moment.
I've stopped alcohol for the moment because it messes everything up and so many empty calories involved.
Hoping to be down a few next week but it's a bank holiday here yikes 😬

jannyapple · 03/06/2021 22:45

@SeasonFinale I know what you mean but I have a few friends of varying sizes and the size 8 feels exactly the same about the size of her arse as the size 18 does so it's all relevant to ourselves - join in and just do you !
I've demolished a whole Ben and Jerry's tonight so now feeling shitty but at least it's all gone now

Chelsea567 · 03/06/2021 23:43

I'd like to join. 55 next week. Put on 2 stone over lockdowns. Really ought to lose 3. Have resorted to wearing massive t shirts and leggings. Wardrobe full of things I can't get my arse into. Confused

LunaTheCat · 03/06/2021 23:47

I am Nooming and have lost 5 kg - I am delighted - taken since late March but will still keep going!

jannyapple · 04/06/2021 08:14

@Chelsea567 same here 55 next month and aiming for 2 stone although 3 would be amazing ! Had a massive fail last night but can't turn the clocks back so I'll just move on ! Have a good day everyone !

Chelsea567 · 04/06/2021 09:14

@LunaTheCat what do you think of Noom? I'm debating getting it.

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Shehasadiamondinthesky · 04/06/2021 09:22

I'm starting on exante today. I need to lose a stone this month or I'm going to be so uncomfortable this summer.

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wakeupnshakeup · 04/06/2021 09:56

Morning all, done my morning davina workout 💪 only 20 minutes .. took me longer to work out how to stream from my phone to my Tv!! Feels good to be focused. 14k steps yesterday and will have another long walk this lunch time. Staying healthy with no wine and counting the calories on my fitness pal. Need to stay focused for the weekend which I fear will be more tricky.. 😮

PioneerWoman · 04/06/2021 10:52

Morning everyone, had a good day yesterday, lots of salad, feta and chicken breast for lunch, roast courgettes, peppers, onions and mange tout for dinner, no junk. I think my appetite has adjusted to eating twice a day and I am enjoying the food.

SeasonFinale I get what you are saying too but like jannyapple says just do you. Weight is a funny thing, I am lighter than my two oldest friends, very similar heights but they fit in much smaller clothes than me. I think it’s my body shape. It’s best not to compare and “run your own race”. Anyway you are very welcome whether you have 2 stone or 10 stone to lose.

AnnaCharles888 thanks for sharing, interesting tactics, I agree the brain does need retraining.

Going to struggle to fit in a walk today, that’s my biggest challenge, I should get up earlier!

CandyLeBonBon · 04/06/2021 10:54

Can I join too? Am also a lardy nearly 52 y/o with dodgy knees as well! Good news: have stopped putting on weight.

Bad news: can't shift it either.

No idea what to do. Have 18kg to lose.