Weight loss for those with a 40+ BMI

[TrinityWaves]

Anyone else at the start of their weight loss journey with a BMI over 40?

I thought starting this thread might make me more accountable.

I'm 5ft 5, weigh 265lbs, I'm in my early 30's.

I'd love to chat to others in a similar position, almost all my friends and extended family are slim! (My DH is also trying to loose weight, lower BMI than me though.)

FatCatThinCat

Oh it is such a bollox isn’t it?

I’ve had more weeks like that than I can shake a stick at.

As lovely gibbons says above, it is the sleep (or lack thereof) wot doesn’t help. And in my case, seeing chocolate and eating it.

May next week be better for you - sleep and all.

I’m with gibbons and willing my chunks off in chunks.

Oh no FatCatThinCat! Sleep is so crucial (& elusive) hopefully it will fall away again once you’re sleeping. (& maybe lots of that it is just snot )

What do you use to track your weight? I have a free app called “happy scale” that evens out the weights you enter so it smooths out the artificial highs & lows. I’m not explaining it well but I really like how I can see the general trend even though there are blips in either direction.

Be kind to yourself, hope you’re feeling better

It’s been so long since I posted that I had to refind the thread! So glad to see you’re all still here! I’m just place marking now for further explanation of where I’m at later but already feeling cheered by the lovely chat!

Hi donteat

I’m using up a wild card for today - I made cake
Horrible sleep woke earlier than the kids so there was just hours & hours of morning to get through & I was too tired & too cold, the kids were a pain (I may be hormonal ) then went for a bracing walk in the torrential rain which normally makes me warm & happy but just got soaked to the skin & even colder

Just a slice of (un iced) cake & some extra cups of tea and cake mixture so not exactly wild but it felt better to relax into it today.

Tomorrow will be better (& surely the shivering has burnt some calories??! )

Hope everyone has good shelter!

Looked at the scale for the first time in years 116kg my bmi is now 41.
I feel like crying I've been on a vlcd for 1 week this is mega for me as I've always given up dieting after a day.
Goal weight is 68kg , weight loss surgery is getting booked for August.

Well I am officially the heaviest I’ve been in years.
I don’t know what’s wrong with me, I don’t want to be this size, I feel so unhealthy and unfit and yet every day all I do is sit on my bum and eat even though I’m not hungry.
I’m so annoyed with myself, I’m not sleeping well which means I wake up feeling exhausted and can’t face exercise and then I eat crap to stay awake- I’ve fallen asleep at 1:30/2 in the afternoon for the last few days and then can’t get to sleep at night.
I’m determined today is the LAST day like today, I will start to look after myself from the morning

questionable

I could write and mean every bit of your post.

I’m trying so hard not to eat rubbish.

Today has not been a good day.

Better day tomorrow.

You are in good company here queen 🌻

questionable - me too, I absolutely hate being fat with a passion but I keep falling off the wagon!

2.4lbs off since my post on Tuesday, I know most of it is water weight but it’s absolutely what I needed to see.
I’ve tried taking photos, just going by how clothes feel etc but nothing keeps me motivated more than seeing the scale move.

I’m seeing my parents and siblings for the first time since august last year in a few weeks time, I’m currently 2 stone heavier than the last time they saw me.
I know I’m not going to lose 2 stone in 4 weeks but I could lose 7-10 pounds and put a dent in my gain.
They worry about my health and my future wellbeing which I understand but have come to realise that the start of my weight problems originate from my mum commenting on me being bigger and did I really need an ice cream when everyone else had one, that sort of thing, from when I was about 9 onwards.
The reason I was bigger than my friends, I went through puberty early and from 11 I was all boobs and bum- I look at photos of me from when I was 14/15 and I’d give anything to be that size again but at the time I felt bigger than I do now purely because I was more developed than my friends and it was commented on.

Hey everyone. Keeping going here and finished 12 weeks of Fast 800. Mid way through week 13 and just hit 3 stone off. Great....only 6 more to go 😭😭!! No one has really noticed, and I tried to take some photos and I have to say I don't blame them - it's very unnoticeable! My belt is knotched tighter though and my coat is 'roomy'. But honestly - online photos suggest losing 3 stone makes you unrecognisably thinner. Nope, not here!

Anyway - the only thing I can say is keep going. However fast or slow it comes off. And it's boring and dull and hard, especially now we can see people and everyone wants to meet for a drink.

One pound. Half a balloon. So one 🎈 a fortnight.

Not as quick as I’d like. The only thing shrinking is probably an earlobe.

1/10. Must try harder.

Grumpy rant - you don't need to read!

Urgh had a spiral here - hurt my hip (wonky pelvis) which means I need ibuprofen which I can't take on an empty stomach so OMAD goes out the window, plus hormonal disaster boobs massive etc, so after 3 WEEKS of sticking to it and 3 DAYS of not great choices I am half a kg heavier than when I started

I'm so fed up of seeing I've eaten 1400 calls a day & dropped 3 kg ina week/I'm far far lighter than you but I am so vile I must have surgery right now type posts (not this thread just in general)

I know I need to focus on sticking to it & ignoring the scale because it always takes 6 weeks for my body to react but I'm just so bloody frustrated (& want to stamp my feet & shout NOT FAIR )

Well done everyone doing so well here sorry to be negative but I'm trying to keep myself honest by not quitting the thread...

Fat hand reaching out gibbons

Truth is the best thiing - negative or no. If we lie to ourselves we achieve feckall and may as well ham into a pack or three of yumyums.

I hear ye.

I thank god today is not a weigh day as my belly is at beach ball proportions with the bloat.

Wow @chalkyc2 well done that's awesome! 👏👏👏

Thanks SheldonesqueTheBstard stupid period finally started so upside less doom downside migraine 🙄
Hope your beach ball is deflating!

chalkyc2 totally amazing! And I really hear you on 3st loss not being visible- I lost 18kg last year & no one noticed, my clothes all felt the same barring my big winter coat funnily enough. But it makes a huge difference to your heart, your disease risk, your joints etc etc so it is worth it 🎉🎉🎉

Starting weight 116kg I'm now 113kg since last week because of keto. It's really hard not one treat has passed these lips my initial goal is just to reach 99kg then progress from there . A healthy bmi for me is 70kg so a long way to go

3kg is amazebaws 👏🏼

Wow Likeroses 🥇

Cutting out sugar(y tea) and bread, it helps dramatically!

Does anyone else just "zone out" from eating high calorie foods?

I will get in from a hectic day at work, start cooking dinner, be thinking about dinner and work and tomorrow and then manage to eat at least four chocolate biscuits as I'm going or a big chunk of cheese in a zoned-out state, not eating mindfully at all, not really counting and then zoning back in again, after its gone.

I don't do quite as you describe spring but if I enter the kitchen after kids bedtime or DH takes the kids out I auto pilot "treating" myself to food - too many years never getting a moment child free I think
I am retraining myself!
-to make a tea & nothing else if everyone is out
-if I have to go to the kitchen late evening I have to go in do what I need to do & go back out - if I look at my phone & zone out I eat

Could you maybe try to get into the habit of cutting up an apple before you cook so you can munch on that?

@Likeroses Go for it - I have/had similar stats - started at 118.5 and just now down to 99kg. I need to get down to 65 really so work still to do! I've been doing the Fast 800 - so a bit keto but with lots of green vegetables!!

How is everyone getting on?

I'm doing much better feeling focused etc & the scale has shifted back (a wee 🙄) bit.

I have sacrificed two of my cups of tea so I'm down to only two a day but as I can't drink cows milk & the oat "milk" is all carbs it seems the only solution (& bonus is it means I fast until dinner)
Woe betide any child that interrupts my drinking of either precious cup 😂

Weekend is always a challenge particularly cooking a pile of pancakes for everyone else!

1 pound off after several weeks of plateauing. I think my head is back in the right place again as I'd got a bit what's the point.
If I focus on not eating shit I can not my pre lockdown weight in two weeks. That'll feel like a bit step to tick off

That's great that you've broken your stall pinkart it's so hard to keep plugging on when you're not seeing a change - you should be proud of yourself.

Small goals are good - I hit one of my mini goals today & it feels great (& weirdly made me immune to pancakes )