Anyone looking to lose 100lbs plus... Part 6!

[honeysucklejasmine]

Hello, welcome to the sixth instalment (wow!) of the ‘Anyone looking to lose 100lbs plus …’ thread smile

If you want to read them (but by no means feel obliged!), the previous threads are here:

Part 1 www.mumsnet.com/Talk/weight_loss_chat/2812619-anyone-looking-to-lose-100lbs-plus-in-2017

Part 2 www.mumsnet.com/Talk/weight_loss_chat/2920520-Anyone-looking-to-lose-100lbs-in-2017-Part-2

Part 3 www.mumsnet.com/Talk/weight_loss_chat/3045244-Anyone-looking-to-lose-100lbs-plus-in-2017-18-Part-3

Part 4 www.mumsnet.com/Talk/weight_loss_chat/3193507-Anyone-looking-to-lose-100lbs-plus-Part-4

Part 5 www.mumsnet.com/Talk/weight_loss_chat/3271618-Anyone-looking-to-lose-100lbs-plus-Part-5

We’re a very friendly, supportive group, and all at different stages, but we’re all seeing some real changes in ourselves and our attitudes to food. It’s a long old road, but it helps to chat along the way

Collectively, we’ve lost an incredible…......... 🌟 1205.75lbs 🌟 since the start of the first thread in Dec 16, which is amazing!

We tend to weigh in on Fridays or Saturdays, but feel free to join in at any time, with whatever weight loss method you think works best for you. Some of us have lost more than others, but we're all in this together, so if you're losing, gaining or staying the same, it's nice to have some inspiration to keep going.

We’re always welcoming to newcomers, but as with the previous thread(s), I’ll add one caveat - we’re all here because we are trying to lose a LOT of weight. If you’re looking to lose the last half stone, or even two or three stone, this might not be the thread for you. Good luck with your goals, but you may find more support with in threads with people who have similar goals to you.

Thanks for asking Otter, the neurologist doesn't think it is anything too sinister but she is having an MRI to rule out anything awful. She has massive insomnia, so this may be a cause. Fingers crossed this is the case, I'm not dwelling on anything at the second as that is the path to madness!

Good news Strawberry. Hope you're right!

Thanks for thinking of me, folks. Feeling better today but a bit tender. Don't think I'll do any aerobics today though, don't want to take the piss.

Going to do some knitting to avoid the fuck off massive slice of marmalade on toast that I want to eat.

I feel guilty that I'm complaining when you have to go through all of this strawberry - hope it all turns out to be insomnia.

I had such a bad day yesterday - was a great with food and didn't go buy that chocolate. DH was meant to have picked something up for dinner but forgot so I shoved in two dubious jacket potatoes and then looked in the cupboard to find no beans or cheese or frankly any fillings at all. I ended up having a massive crying hormonal session at DH for about an hour at the ruined dinner so went to the supermarket and got paella and a lovely sticky toffee pudding with cream

Strawberry- let’s hope it is all down to her insomnia but you’re absolutely right in your approach by not dwelling on it too much, it’s out of your control and you’ll hopefully have answers soon

Moonlight- paella and sticky toffee pudding sounds like the perfect remedy to a hormonal breakdown.

I’ve weighed in a day early as it’s my birthday and I will be eating cake tonight along with a Greek takeaway.

After staying the same the last 2 weeks I somehow have lost 4.5lbs since Saturday! Which makes me just 0.5lbs off my first stone

Am really pleased things have fallen into place this week. Food wise is near enough the exact same as the last 2 weeks but exercise has been a bit more and i think that’s what’s made the difference so I will be keeping that up- after my cake and takeaway tonight of course!

Happy birthday Quandary! Enjoy your celebration.

Moonlight totally justified!

I'm due a small loss this week which I'm a bit disappointed by, but I've not been able to do much exercise as I've been ill. So hopefully it'll be better next week.

I know au said I’m ok with just maintaining but I had my dd’s birthday party and in the photos I look so heavy. 😔 Which shouldn’t be surprising as I’m still in the obese category but it was a shock to see myself like that and hopefully the shock I needed to get myself back in the game.

It’s werid as I know I’m heavy still but just seeing myself like that makes me feel as bad as I did at the start of this. The difference being now is that I won’t ignore that photo and hope it magically goes always overnight!

Sorry Fezzes that sounds shit. You've made huge progress so far though, that's not to be sniffed at!

Loss this week: 2.75lbs (!)
Total loss: 82.25lbs
To go: 30.50lbs

Ouch, I've put on 2.5lb never mind. Bump is getting bigger every day so guess it had to come soon.

Anyway will try not to have such a hormonal week and see if I stabilise for a couple of weeks.

honeysucklejasmine Thank you, although I’m feeling a bit shitty about it I will use it as a positive, plus it’s good to take notice of what you actually look like

moonlight you're growing a human! You are still in negative weight gain.

Fezzes sorry it feels crappy.

Hi everyone, do you mind if I join as well? I have been reading this thread all week and have found it so motivating, supportive and real. I have been overweight/obese my entire adult life and now in my 30s it has just hit me that I won’t get to redo my 20s as a slimmer person and I feel I have held myself back from experiences and even relationships because of how I look and how it makes me feel about myself. And if I keep going the way I am then that will be the next decades of my life as well, only I will be bigger and bigger. It honestly makes me cry to realise that and while I cannot change the past, I do need to change what I eat and do now if I want to have any chance of a different future. I have also exactly 100lbs to lose to get to a BMI of 25 (96 to be exact).

I have never been successful losing weight despite many attempts and I do tend to binge eat a lot, particularly in secret during the day when my DH is at work and I am home alone with the kids. I love cooking and eating out and that is a big part of our week so I will need to find a way to change my habits and choices to something healthier. I’ve tried MFP in the past but I do get fed up with inputting everything in after about a week and just go back to my usual eating patterns. I think I will try to focus on changing my habits first before addressing the actual calories to see if that might be the best way forward for me. I love the KOKO motto as I usually try an all or nothing approach despite it never working.

This week I will focus on drinking water instead of coke and creamy coffees and not eating after dinner in front of the tv. I will try to be more mindful about why I am eating (if I am actually hungry or just bored) but I will not stress about the food I choose.

Thank you for reading and please know just how amazing I have found you all!

Oh. I need to lose 100lbs. Easy.

I havent ever been this big :(

I have no motivation. Am poorly so find excise difficult and love food.

I have no hope

I won’t get to redo my 20s as a slimmer person

That's very self-aware. It's taken me losing 100lb to think in a similar way. Having finished having children, I have recently started mourning having never been a pregnant slim person. But I can't change that now.

Looking forward is the way @LondonLassInTheCountry. It's definitely doable to lose your 100lb - why not give yourself a target for 2019?

I didn't think about calories for the first 4 or 5 stone of weight loss, so don't worry if MFP isn't Your Thing. It may be helpful instead to cement in your mind what healthy eating looks like and so make wise choices accordingly. Some changes I made to my eating habits early on was:

• realise that it's ok to not eat a meal if I was not truly hungry. There's no need to eat 'just because you should'. This was particularly evident at breakfast and I more-or-less stopped eating breakfast.

• decide to only eat at meal times, no snacking between meals

• ensure at least 2, but aim for 3 full portions of vegetables with lunch and dinner.

• start of with recognising and acknowledging aspects of your meals that are carbs. Work out ways you could replace them with non-carb alternates and so have more meals which are just lots of veg and lots of protein.

• Cut sugary treats. This has been key for me truly understanding the concept of "treat" and that it should be a rare I indulgence, not a daily insurance.

Good luck!

I'm weighing in a day early as going for a curry not staying on plan tonight.

I've only gone and earned my third charm!!!
42lbs off - that's three whole stone, 19kg or, if you prefer, roughly the weight of an elephant's heart.

Not being strict with myself for a few weeks seems to have jump started my metabolism again.

I'm back :(
I really need to sort this out. My journey has included eating until I was 18st 4.5lbs and realising it was a dreadful way to be. I joined SW and lost 5st 6.5lbs. I was 1st 12lb from target and then blew it. At every new stone I said I'd stop and change my eating habits and today I weighed in at 16st 2.5lbs. I will never be this heavy again. I have very few clothes that fit, my body aches and my mental health is shit again.
I really hope I can join here and support you all and stay strong in return. I use food as a comfort, hobby, entertainment, everything except fuel for my body.
So first target by next Sunday is to get back in the 15st bracket. I'm having veggie noodles and salad for lunch and SW recipe shepherd's pie and kale for dinner. I'll then have a banana near bedtime. I'm going to follow SW just now as I know that eating plan and I cook using fresh ingredients.
Start weight- 16st 2.5lbs
Goal - 11st
Lose - 72.5lbs
Loss so far- 0lbs

You can do anything for just one day right?

Hi fatloser . Your meals sound lovely. I have just had a couple of duck eggs and a slice of granary. YUM. Thai green curry for dinner.
Have lost 2lb this week-was doing really well till Friday when someone dropped a load of surplus sandwiches off in the works kitchen. As I was at a low ebb I partook. Better early in the week. Even refused fish and chips Monday.

Going to give myself Christmas Day though and boxing day off. If I have to make the food I need to taste it to make sure it is OK...

Well done Frogletmamma! Strawberrypig that is great, I love the idea of the charms.

Welcome Fatloser. Can I gently suggest you don’t set yourself more than a pound or two target for your first week? Logic being it doesn’t always happen even if it has before and then you start feeling like you’ve failed. I used to lose 6lbs or so first week on previous attempts, this time it was a pound. But on all previous attempts I gave up and this time I haven’t. It takes as long as it takes, some will do it quickly, others will take longer. Doesn’t matter as it’s not really any easier maintaining, it’s just the same really, needs working at but you get used to it and it just becomes more normal.Just start and KOKO.

Londonlass there’s lots of hope and you can still eat things you love. Just a little bit less and not everything all the time if yi7 see where I’m coming from .

Coffeeand rainbows, sounds sensible to start with those changes. I think by the time we get to the weight we’re all starting at most of us will have a history of failed diet attempts, see food as good or bad and ge really have quite a screwed up relationship with food. Some of us may never get to where some of our slimmer friends are with our relationship with food but if we can improve it and control it more rather than food controlling us then I think that’s pretty ok personally.

I’ve said it before and will say it again. Never too early to think about maintenance and don’t hesitate to take regular breaks throughout to give yourself a break, view it as a tool in the toolbox. As time goes on you’ll develop more strategies to deal with things and they will evolve over time. A revelation for me was that friends who I thought effortlessly maintained there weight basically don’t and have to work at it. At that point I felt the playing field level somewhat and I felt less resentful about the whole thing.

Moonlight you are growing someone so it will go on but just keep thinking about the week you get to meet them and lose stacks of weight in one go. At the end of the day you could have just said sod it and eaten anything during pregnancy but you’ve chosen to be sensible and it will definitely pay off in the long run.

Fezzes sympathies it does suck but you will get there, you’ve lost a lot and can absolutely get the rest off when you’re ready.

Thanks for the welcome and advice!

FATEdestiny I completely understand mourning not being a slim pregnant person as my sister (a very slim person) has recently given birth and documented her entire pregnancy with beautiful bump picture updates on social media, something I never did because I didn’t like the way I looked in them. It seems like such a superficial and silly thing to be jealous of but I really am sad about it. I can’t change it but I can do something about myself now so I don’t feel like this again. You’re changes are pretty much exactly what I have thought I need to work on so I will start to bring those into my life from now and make them habits.

strawberrypig that’s so inspiring to see you reach 3 stone off! Well done!

Hi fatloser those meals sound lovely and you are already over 2 stone down from your highest weight so you can do this!

Post I totally agree with improve my relationship with food, I would love to feel freedom from the guilt and over analyzing of everything I eat and have eaten.

Thank you all!
lost: 0lbs
to lose: 96lbs

Very late (!!) Sunday end of week weigh in from me:
Loss this week: 1.2lbs
Total loss: 96.2lbs
To go: 8.8lbs

Nice to see a little movement on the scales but don't know if it'll stick as in the middle of major medication changes. I'm still eating at a relatively high amount of calories (1850) and aiming for half a pound off a week which is very hit and miss. Medication won't be sorted for at least another six weeks so will hold fast till then.

That's great that the neurologist is optimistic, strawberry. You are definitely right not to dwell on negative thoughts as that will only upset you and get you nowhere. Fingers crossed you get some answers soon Congratulations on your milestone and new charm.

Moonlight, you have done so well to limit your pregnancy weight gain so please give yourself credit for that! What were you hoping to happen in the third trimester? I'm not sure it is realistic to have no gains at all.

Well done on your loss and your milestone, Quandary. I have had weeks of staying the same then a whoosh and I think what has happened is that fluid retention (menstrual cycle, more salt than usual, etc) has hidden small losses for a couple of weeks then suddenly resolved to reveal a big loss. The number on the scales looks objective but it contains a lot of arbitrary information too. Happy birthday and hope you had a good day

The photo sounds upsetting, fezzes It's hard when it's such a very long path.

Welcome coffeeandrainbows and LondonLass and welcome back Fatloser. You've had some great advice already. There's some debate about whether no snacking full stop or planned snacks is best with fashions for each in dieting culture. I have three planned snacks a day with smaller meals as this suits how I organise my schedule and stops me getting so hungry that I binge. I think people who haven't had a problem with binging don't get the latter point which leads to the 'debate' about whether snacking is a bad thing or not. I don't think it's bad or good, just a way to organise your calorie intake. Snacks I have are half an avocado with lemon juice, fruit, Aldi baked pea crisps, popcorn, weighed out nuts or fruit and nut bars. I think experimenting with what suits your body and learning from the results is the way to go. You don't need to know everything and do everything perfectly from the start. You can learn and adapt as you go.

Well done on everyone’s losses, great to see such resolve at this challenging time of year.

I lost another 0.5lbs taking me to my 2 stone award. I didn’t think I’d get a loss this week so very pleased - going to be very strict this week and record my food again to see if I can drive a bigger loss. 5 more weigh ins to get the next half a stone plus maybe a bit spare for Christmas.

Great for start.

Another thank you for that - I don't know what I expected in the third trimester but as you say, its not realistic to say that I would not gain at all. I was kicking myself as I knew it had been a bad week in terms of snacking on sugary things but in the end, I was exhausted and hormones are flying everywhere so will give myself a break.

But well done on your loss and KOKO through medication changes.

Hope you are all having a good week so far.

Hi you lovely group of inspirational people!

I’ve been lurking on these threads for a while but I think I need to stop lurking and have some accountability.

I started losing weight in February this year with 105lbs to lose, weighing in at 17 and a half stone. I lost a few pounds but gave up over the summer and basically put it all back on again. I weighed in at the beginning of October at over 17 stone again. I’ve been on a mission since then and I’m determined to keep on keeping on! My current weight is 16 st 0 pounds, so 14lbs gone, 91 to go. It feels incredibly daunting but I know I just need to keep going. So here’s to keeping on track!

Just realised I added wrong! 21lbs down, 84 to go - still daunting but already sounds better