Anyone looking to lose 100lbs plus... - Part 4

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Hello, welcome to the fourth instalment of the ‘Anyone looking to lose 100lbs plus …’ thread

If you want to read them (but by no means feel obliged!), the previous threads are here: Part 1, Part 2, and Part 3

We’re a very friendly, supportive group, and I think we’re all seeing some real changes in ourselves and our attitudes to food. It’s a long old road, but it helps to chat along the way 

Collectively, we’ve lost 869 lbs since the start of the first thread, which is pretty amazing! 

We tend to weigh in on Fridays or Saturdays, but feel free to join in at any time, with whatever weight loss method you think works best for you. Some of us have lost more than others, but we're all in this together, so if you're losing, gaining or staying the same, it's nice to have some inspiration to keep going.

We’re always welcoming to newcomers, but as with the previous thread(s), I’ll add one caveat - we’re all here because we are trying to lose a LOT of weight. If you’re looking to lose the last half stone, or even two or three stone, this might not be the thread for you. Good luck with your goals, but you may find more support with in threads with people who have similar goals to you.

Hi nick I find the calories in calories out so hard as I have health limits on what I can do in the gym.

Going swimming for the first time tomorrow couldn't face it before due to size and the fact it took me an age to get a costume to fit and when I did it was a 22 even though all my other clothes are 18s

Lego I agree with the others and think you should discuss with your doctor how you are feeling because you sound ever so low and that mindset is highly unlikely to be motivating.

A couple pointers though

• You ARE alive and you have time to change your health
• Living at home in London at 30 is fairly normal so don't worry to much about that!
• 30 isn't old (or so I tell myself!)

Think about what will motivate you? Is it to have good health? Is it to have a fitness hobby and meet people? Is it to meet a partner (if you don't have one already)?

Lego I bet you have achieved more than you give yourself credit for. But if you are this low as others have said perhaps a chat with your doc might help.

Currently biting my lip to stop crying on the bus home!

I just never saw my life turning out like this at 30. I thought I’d have or done so much more and up until last week genuinely didn’t care about being 30, it was just a number but it suddenly seems so significant and I’m just so sad I completely wasted my 20s, they’ve just gone and I’ve done nothing.

I didn’t want to be fat and 30 more then anything, I wanted to be on my way to a much lower weight and look into the possibility of having a baby on my own (I’m just not bothered by a relationship at all) and I didn’t do it. I feel like I’ve let myself down massively and I don’t know where to go from here.

I’m genuinely grateful to you for listening (reading!) my blathering on. I needed to let it all out

Oh Lego, you sound so low. I agree it might be worth talking to your GP. You might not be where you want to be right now but you are motivated to change and that counts for an awful lot. I remember feeling extremely low before my 30th, my life wasn't where I wanted it to be at all. And then a few weeks after my birthday, I met my current (not so Dear tonight) partner and my life now is completely different. Lots of love to you

Lego you can make the changes, do not feel like all is lost. 31 is only a year away and you can do it now to be on your way to fabulous by then! we can support you through it. Start tomorrow with something simple like going for a walk after work and cutting down your evening portion and step it up one bit at a time!

Lego age is just a number. No life is ever wasted think of all the people who love you.

Been a good day today c.c well under limit been to gym and kept my head with a stressy day at work with 1 very demanding boss!

Sorry, just getting around to updating now

Ds is fine thanks, he wasn’t hurt thankfully.

So what actually happened was we were in a waiting area and ds was happily wandering around as they do at that age. He walked past this man (maybe in his 70’s) 2 or 3 times as the man was sitting next to the toys, so he kept going past him, the only way he could get to them.

Each time the man looked at me and I said sorry as you do when your child is doing that kind of thing.

Anyway on the last time, as ds was in front of him, the man suddenly shouted at him, will you just behave, and lifted his stick up and wacked him on the back.

I straight away said, you don’t hit babies with your stick.

He said well you should control him.

I then just repeatedly said you don’t hit babies with your stick (bit in shock this actually happened and pretty much speechless) picked up ds.

The nursing staff were just looking at us. I approached them and told them that I didn’t want to wait in there with him and they gave me a beeper. I literally had tears in my eyes through anger and biting back my tongue. I was ready to go mental but I knew I could react that way in front of ds.

Anyway, had my appointment and didn’t see the man again.

I’ve been so angry all day and feel like a shit mum for not doing anything more for my son at that time. I called 101 for advice and am seeing someone tomorrow.

I know there’s not much they can do, but at least I feel like I’ve done something to defend ds.

I still don’t get what on earth happen. I don’t get why the man didn’t just say to me can you stop ds walking past me/or moved himself away from the toys. He wasn’t behaving badly at all, just wandering around, not that his behaviour excuses what this man did.

It’s completely surreal, and that bastard probably hasn’t given this a second thought whereas all day I’ve been cuddling my baby and thinking how on earth could someone do this to a baby.

I know this probably isn’t that bad really, but I feel very shook up.

Anyway, it was great to be able to vent on here!

Lego, I hope you feel better soon. This is such a hard journey but at least we’re in it together.

Personally for me that’s helped us understanding my weight issue is about it being my protection, to blame for everything that wasn’t right in my life. I think we all know why we’ve allowed ourselves to become like this and the hardest part is making peace with that and then the weight will follow.

Fezzes omg! I think I'd react same as you. Seething with anger but keep it in. What a complete arsehole. Age is no excuse, you do not assault people with sticks. Ever. I hope 101 are helpful tomorrow.

Lego when I was 26, I was round a friend's house. It was about November. We were sinking a bottle of wine. She was upset that her husband wasn't ready for kids. Her bff had had her first and was pregnant with number 2, and she was feeling left behind. She was working shifts, their household income wasn't great. I was upset that I was single. Had always been single, my whole life. Plenty of male friends, so I told myself, it's not your personality, it's because you're so fat. Must be. Depressing stuff. Anyway, we pledged to make one change and see what happened. She'd ask her dh one more time, then put it to rest for a few years. I said I'd try online dating (I really must have been drunk).

She found out she was pregnant at New Years. I went on my first date with my now husband in February. She's now got two kids and has a leadership role at work (she's a HCP) with regular hours.

I married my date 14 months later, had DD 10 months after that and DS 19 months after that!

My point really, is that both our lives are so completely different from what they were. She thought she'd still be trying to convince her husband to have kids, working an awful shift job and just getting by. I thought I'd still be fat and alone, working all hours and hating my job (teacher). I don't work, I'm not alone, and I'm only a little bit fat.😉

But one small change was all it took. One conversation with her husband. One registration on a website. With all our other flaws and problems, those one small actions changed our lives. Snowball effect.

It's like Fezzes said yesterday. 365 opportunities. Don't worry if you miss 364 of them. Take #365.

Oh Fezzes, what a horrible thing to happen I know people on here are quick to say it and he may just be a vile man but I do wonder if he has Dementia?

Lego, I’m so sorry you are struggling and agree with the others, time to see your GP.

I”m keeping an eye on thread but a lot going on here atm. My neighbour is sadly coming to the end of his life. Him and his wife don’t have grandchildren and have been like grandparents to mine so it’s very sad and I’ve ended up in the middle of their children who have a difficult relationship. Think I always knew I would and it’s not easy but I think we’re getting where we need to be.

Thanks everyone, I kind of hope that man does have dementia as at least it explains his behaviour plus then hopefully he’ll have to be checked over by his gp.

Anyway talk about #365! I’ve not been doing my exercises for the last week, I’ve not been feeling it and honestly just lazy.

But back in again today, I’ve just walked 1 mile. Not sure if I’ll have time to fit in my dvd but my goal today is a minimum of 3 miles.

Hope you’re feeling a bit better today Lego.

I weighed in in trepidation after a 2 week gap because of half term. I've had chips and sausages and have kept active but missed a swim session etc. I was expecting to be disappointed...

I've lost 3lb across the 2 weeks!
Total of 7 lb in 6 weeks now
7 1/2 stone to go!

The machine gave my body fat at 47% too. Apparently over 32% is bad. I'm a walking health risk aren't I!?

I so hope I can beat this.

That is brilliant ScaredPad! Weight loss is a funny old thing.

It's not an exact science is it? Some of it may have been wate weight from my period and i "really " lost the weight a few weeks ago. Either way im encouraged to keep going. I alternate with being pleased and being terrified of the battle ahead!

A random question about getting rings resized.

I have weird hands where I don’t have knuckles to help keep my rings in. Now they are very loose and if I shake my hand they come off.

So when is it best to get them resized? I’ve still got a long way to go and really don’t want to not wear them (wedding and engagement rings) for such a long time.

Also can can be resized a lot smaller (like 10 stone later) and still be ok??

Hello ladies, hope you don’t mind if I join in? I’ve 98 lbs to lose, just willing to go the extra two to join

Would love a place to check in and give and receive support along with other like minded dieters.

On a low fat, 1300 calorie/ day plan, this works for me, I’ve tried low carb, low bloody everything, but I used this method before and lost 102 lbs about 6 years ago. I let life get in the way and put most of it back on, so need to stop being ashamed of that and just do something about it.

Welcome Callme

I don’t think we’re that strict on 100lbs but you could always water load that 2 pounds on 😉

Bobbing in to tell you some advice I got today.

Do any of you use Tassimo or Dolce Gusto?

Dietician told me to completely ditch my Tassimo as pod drinks are just full of fat and sugar

I hadn't really thought about it so in case I'm not the only one

Good news today! Had cholesterol tested 6 months ago and told I was boarder line needing to go on meds as it was high. Had it retested this week and it's dropped. Not toatly to normal range but heading in the right direction and I've only really changed my habits last 2 months so fingers crossed in 6 months time it will be in normal range.

Good day today eaten well and been to the gym.

Welcome call me.

Fezze Lego I hope you've both had better days today.

Well done nickname! I possibly have cholesterol problems but they left that blood test off (🤔) and I have to get myself back toi the Dr. It's why I joined this group. I'm anxious I may already have some artery damage.

What changed have you made? It's obviously worked!! And well done.

I've been 6 weeks! Ij got some borderline results they weren't worried about but I obviously am....!