Roses are red, violets are blue, sugar is sweet, you can't have any - you're a Slenderista! Join us to lose 7lbs of February flab

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Welcome to the new Valentine's edition of the best thread on MN™ where we encourage and support each other to lose 7lbs in a month (though that happens so rarely maybe we need to change our USP!)

Link to the January thread here

Everyone welcome, new and old

I’m not sure what you mean keep, I look at mine and I see net average and goal, my net was 1622 and my goal was 1700?
If you’re managing to keep active I’m really surprised you’re not seeing a loss.

koko did you have a high day which pushed up your average for the week?

I think you'd really struggle on the BSD. If you could get through the first week or so it might be amazing for you, but remembering your shakes etc., I think trying to stick to it might make you really stressed and miserable.

You're doing BRILLIANTLY to keep your cals to 1400, I would focus on keeping that up for now! It'll become second nature soon enough, and then you could think about switching it up once you're really confident.

I think we all remember those days fondly, but hey if it was a real loss it would have stayed off! Never did for me that’s for sure. Maybe we were way more bloated as young things cause it must have been water weight.
For what it’s worths what worked for me in the last 10 days -

1. I stuck rigidly to 1700 cals this week or as close as that made no difference.
2. I got around 10,000 in every day, sick or not I did a few hundreds steps marching on spot repeatedly over the day. No gym, no strenuous exercise
3. I drank 2.5 litres of water/tea no milk
4. Minimal alcohol and where I did have alcohol I had no snacks with it
5. I put my weight into the Fitbit app daily and waited until Sunday to see what my average was as that’s what I considered my loss

I was down 1.7lbs average over the week, I was just shy of 3lb lighter than the previous Sunday but I’m focussing on averages now. I think you have to stop looking back, it’s not helping.

I’m glad you thought it made some sense keep, why not try follow that idea for the next 6 days, although not at 1000 as that’s too low and not sustainable. Write down the steps and put a tick beside each one as you achieve it.I’m on day 2 of it this week, let’s see if I get an average loss by Sunday - I should if I follow those 5 rules and so should you. Write down if you don’t hit a rule on a day, so it’s not a fail one/fail all mentality and aim to do better the next day.
Only a invitation not a summons 😉

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"Wow! Amazing loss hair! How did you manage it? And on a birthday weekend too?!"

My boyfriend was cheating on my, I found out and kicked him out. Have only eaten about 4 things since Friday as I constantly want to throw up.

Woooo

Oh hairspray. I am so sorry to hear that. You must be broken. Sending love. Xx

Oh hairspray I'm so so sorry

Oh shit Hairspray. I am so sorry. What a total fuckwit. That's just awful.

Oh hair that's awful

Please look after yourself and try to eat. Lots of hugs and xx

Really sorry to hear that hair

I’m so sorry to hear that hair, you poor thing. His loss, the louse😡

Oh, Hair - that is truly awful. I am so, so sorry. What a dick.

Sending lots of hugs xx

Thanks all I really appreciate it. Our lives are so tangled up it feels like it is going to take forever to extract but he is at his mums now, she is so angry at him too.

I feel like I am worth so much more than that, I think if this had happened two or three years ago I wouldn't have left because I would have been scared of never finding someone else. But losing the weight has given me so much confidence and changed how I feel about myself so I know I can find someone who will be loyal to me.

Yes, you can! You absolutely can! And you are right - you are worth a lot more than that. I'm so glad you're moving forward, though I know it is a horrible place to be right now.

Hairspray you will totally get over this. I honesty felt like I'd had a vital organ removed when I broke up with my DP and it was a rough few weeks but I got through it. You will be fine in time

Holy shit Hairspray I'm so sorry, you've spoken a lot about him on here and I'm as shocked as I can be as a more or less stranger on the internet. You two have been together for absolutely yonks haven't you? How did you find out? You don't have to answer that, just really hope you didn't get some kind of horrid shock on your birthday.

I must say, in the last paragraph of your last post you sound absolutely incredibly strong. To already be looking forward is incredible. to you.

And if it's not hideously insensitive to say, congrats on the new low

Oh no hairspray that is an absolute gut wrencher. What an utter tool

You will get through this, promise, though it is one of the toughest things you'll ever have to do. Try and eat something, even just a little bite and look after yourself. I hpe you have RL people round you too.

Have a massive hug from all of us though

Thanks guys, your support means so much to me right now, I don't have a lot of RL friends that I didn't share with him so I am struggling to vent anywhere as people are all just "but he was so lovely I can't believe it?!". Which is true but not exactly helpful!!!

Yeah Quim Every cloud...

We were supposed to be going for dinner and I had booked a reservation using his number, I don't know why just couldn't think of my own at the time I think. He was sorting something upstairs and I went to check the reservation details and it was just all there. Messages, pictures the whole nine yards, new "training" at work was not training! Been going on for bloody months... Kicked him out on Friday night and then told my mum, unplugged the phone and internet and just came up with a plan.

I am glad I am moving in the next few weeks because it will give me a real fresh start. His mother has been totally amazing, and she can barely look at him, my own mother has been a PITA and keeps flapping about and making it about her.

We had been together for 6 and half years and I thought everything was more or less perfect, both families have been expecting a proposal for the last year or so. We met at uni when we were 18 and 19, he had his flaws but I thought he was a genuinely "nice guy" clearly I was wrong. He begged me to take him back but I don't want to, I feel like I have been punched in the gut and I have wasted the last 6 years on a total knob.

I waver between angry, sad, and bloody frustrated that I have to sort out splitting our belongings and savings and all the other admin stuff.

P.S. her name is "Claire" and she sounds like a total slag very mature

Oh fuck hair, what an absolute arsehole of a man. Big hugs to you and grrrr to him

We were only saying on here last week how smashing he sounded. It just goes to show you never can bloody tell! I've had similar happen to me and it was a total total shock. Horrible times. But you will come through, stronger and wiser and happier.