The No S Diet [title edited by MNHQ]

[Asuitablemum]

I've decided that I finally need to commit to losing my baby weight. I have 2 stone (ideally more to lose). But will just take it half a stone at a time. I am not really into crazy diets. So I've gone for the 's' diet which is basically eat sensibly diet! No snacks, seconds or 'sweets' (includes cakes etc ) except on days beginning with s (weekends and special days). So three meals a day basically. Does anyone want to join me or be my supporter? I lost 1.5 lb the first week, but then gained 0.3. Next weigh in is Monday and today I was 2.5lb lighter so I'm hoping I will have lost something. I am piling up a bit on the meals but figure that I need that to stick to it at the moment. Hopefully as I adjust I can make the meals smaller/healthier too. Looking forward to the weekend for a pudding and some wine!

Morning all. Today is weigh in day and the scale is showing 74kg. One week ago it was hovering aroun just over 75kg so I'm taking that as a 2 lb loss. I know it won't be like this every week once my body adjusts to eating less but it's motivated me for week 2.

Amazing loss coco, hope I do as well!

Since the news that we should be having 10 fruit and veg a day now, I've been trying to concentrate on the quality of my meals. Does anyone else find it difficult to fit their fruit and veg in without snacking? Before no S I'd have a couple of portions of fruit a day as snacks (as well as a million biscuits). Lunch today was 3 portions but I had to have a bloody HUGE salad which was well over half of a massive dinner plate, with a quarter of a quiche and some coleslaw. Now I'm too full to have my planned fruit, but I know that salad won't keep me full for long and then I'll want my fruit! I know it's all a bit daft and we should just try and eat as healthily as possible and not stress too much about it but.......

For my lunch and dinner, I try and fit a third of my plate with salad or veg. I'm not really fitting fruit in either. I don't mind too much as I'm not a great lover of it, but I've decided when I've lost a lot more weight and the weight loss slows, I'll add fruit onto my plate to reduce the carb/protein element and see if that helps. Or if you miss it, you could eat plenty of it on weekends.

Well done coco! Fab weight loss.
I generally do what Ariston does regarding salad/veg. For lunch I often have a sandwich, yoghurt and two pieces of fruit eg apple and satsuma. To be honest I don't count how many portions I have, life is too short and I get a good balanced diet overall.
Annoyed with myself today, had a small blip when making a birthday cake. Cut off the wonky edges and ate some. I have been so good all week but it was like a mini rebellion in my head! Just when I thought I'd moved past those days. I guess the good news is that it didn't lead to more sweet food which in the past it definitely would have done.
All together now... mark it and move on!

I tend to try and have 2/3 portions of fruit in my porridge for breakfast and see that as my lot for the day.
I'm not great at doing "proper" cooked veg as I prefer mushrooms onions peppers etc.
I am eating a healthier diet than I was before Christmas so that's what I'm focused on for now.

Feeling terribly guilty today...please tell me not to, it's my diet brain telling me off. It's an s day today, been at a party all day, had a 3 course meal, which I didn't go mad with, but then afternoon tea with cakes and I did have some. They were lovely. Now I know I am allowed them, but my head is screaming, look you'll ruin your diet. I shouldn't think this way, as I want the flexibility of the diet, to reduce my yo yo dieting of all or nothing. Didn't help that my fil said very loudly, ' I thought you were on a diet.' I told him he had put a lovely spread on and was enjoying it and he said that I can enjoy it but would have to pay for the consequences. I hate that people always seem to comment on what I'm eating or my weight 😒

Ariston the way I would deal with this is to compare it to my behaviour around food before No S.

Ie a situation like yours today I would have eaten until I felt sick and then eaten some more promising myself a new diet Monday.

Anything that is an improvement on that would make me feel proud of myself and maybe you could look at it that way ?

For me this is not a diet , but a tool to enable me to eat more like a "normal" eater. And for that it's working very well

Your fil sounds very rude

Don't feel guilty, it sounds fine! As two says, it's not about dieting, but eating normally and sensibly. And in my opinion, 'normally' includes some over indulgence occasionally. Just as long as it really is occasional.

You've been doing great. Don't let a rude comment put you off

Ariston if it makes you feel better I have had birthday cake and a large Chinese meal today! I really enjoyed it. I am just telling myself that this is better than being out of control all the time with my eating. You have made so much progress so don't let a silly comment get you down.

Thank you everyone for your support. I know that although I did over indulge, it was not out of control which it would have been in the past, so yes that is a positive step. I was nervous about today and not trusting myself. Oh dear I have so many issues with food! My fil annoyed me and he is thin and helped himself to loads. He loves to brag about how slim he is. That is fine, but please don't comment about me! My dieter brain is planning to undereat tomorrow to compensate for today. I know that is a recipe for disaster! I need to listen to Posie and mark it and move on, not punish myself. I know I need these days so I learn to cope. Thanks again everyone 💐

Ariston my ex fil came to visit me 10 hours after having my 5th child at home.
He said "good now you can lose that baby fat"

Safe to say I learned very quickly not to worry about what he said

So hard when others around you are not supportive and don't understand how difficult it is for those of us who struggle with our eating. Just look at where you've come from Ariston and how much progress you've made. You do not need to compensate tomorrow, just enjoy a normal S day.
I hope you don't mind me quoting oolala from the NoS forum again but she has posted an amazing supportive post for someone who was struggling, these are some of her words:
"You are SO MUCH MORE than this dilemma and your true worth cannot be diminished by ONE IOTA over your eating. Your true worth is SACROSANCT."
I intend to remember these words when I'm struggling. We are all worth so much more than our issues with food

Twofloorsup ** Good grief what is wrong with some people?!! Good job you managed to rise above it, stupid man

Two that is awful. I do not understand some people 😡
Very good quote Posie. I do define myself by my current eating situation. It is wrong and I'm trying overcome that.

It was a long time ago and it just makes me laugh now.
It's so difficult when your life has been defined by your eating habits to leave that behind.
I had a chocolate bar from my hamper today and already I'm battling with myself over whether to have another tomorrow.
I think maybe it will get easier with time ?
If I'm right Ariston you started this new year like I did , so relatively speaking that's a very short time compared to how long we've had disordered eating habits ?

Twofloorsup yes I completely agree with giving it time, absolutely. I am learning that if my weight loss stalls for a while, a few months even, then that's OK because at least I am able to eat with moderation in the week, which is so much better than before NoS. Same with my weekends, if they need to be about eating for now then so be it. At least on a Monday morning it is a clean slate.
I am trying to be kinder to myself, not easy following a lifetime of feeling guilty for being overweight and for overeating.

I agree Posie and it's nice not to be on the all or nothing see saw

So this weekend I have learned that Reece's chocolate makes my heart race and makes me feel sleepy.
If it wasn't for the fact that my son bought me a hamper of it I wouldn't choose to eat it.
Time to share said hamper with the small people I think !

Oh dear I've not done so well today. Too many Ses! I might delay weigh in for another week as I don't want to get discouraged.

Can't be that bad surely Posie ?

I've felt a bit out of control to be honest and I'm not sure why. Just had the urge to stuff my face with rubbishNot a nice feeling and I haven't felt like this since Christmas.

I'm just awake from a sugar coma - from one bar of chocolate

Would have taken much more than that previously.

Remember what you always tell us , mark it and move on

Thanks twofloorsup I will try I think also that although I stuck to my three plates in half term they were definitely more calorific than usual as we ate out a fair bit. So maybe that set off my eating trigger. Back on it tomorrow, also back at work which always helps.
Good to hear that you are finding the chocolate very sweet, its great when your tastes change

I'm also back to work tomorrow and as much as I've enjoyed the rest (as much as I can whilst packing to move) I'm really looking forward to getting back to routine.
I'm currently sneaking my leftover Reece's into the other kids lunch boxes so as not to offend the one that bought me them !

Ah bless good idea, very tactful of you! Hope all the preparations are going well for the move. I appreciate your support this afternoon, was feeling a bit down about it all.