Anyone else with alot of weight to lose?

[HenriettaPye]

Today is a big day for me, a turning point! I've always been 'big' however have just been getting bigger and bigger. I want to lose 6 stone- starting from today.

Anyone else in the same boat who would like to swap inspiration and tips? Today I've planned to eat healthily and go for a nice long walk

Sorry another downer from me today. Was bad yesterday so have been trying to be extra good today. Was at my mums and said that one of my aims to lose weight is to get a Vivien of Holloway pencil dress and feel ok in it. I figure I would need to drop to a size 16 to 18 to do that.

My mums answer was that I should not aim for too much.

Now bearing in mind I am 22 on top and a 20 going into an 18 on the bottom I thought this to be a fair and achievable aim.

I come home tell my husband and he says. Well thats just how you are isnt it, your metabolism is slower than mine (he eats a fair amount but is slim)

It is nice that he doesnt care I am big but a little faith that I can do this from someone in my life would be nice. If everyone thinks I am going to fail anyway whats the point.

That's awful. Family should be supporting as encouraging :( if you had said you wanted to be a size 8 I could understand it but not size 16.

We know you can do it!

Exactly Iknewhousework- WE know you can do it! And we will be here supporting you until you do!

Thanks. I know they are not trying to be mean. Especially dh. I said that I was smaller when I met him so I know it is possible. He said "were you?".

He doesnt see my size as a problem. Which is lovely. But I am doing this so I have a better chance of being around to have a long marriage. Yes I would like to look in the mirror and feel better about myself but that isnt my driving force, my health is. I really need them to see that and not keep suggesting take away for dinner.

I am trying to either make substantial but healthy meals for dh dd and I or I am feeding them regular stuff and cooking for myself as well. I am not subjecting them to live off rabbit food forever.

Doesnt help that have just started af and I want to binge on chocolate and it is taking everything I have not to already.

Iknewhousework I bet you anything you can do it! That is a fantastic and really achievable goal. Having such a clear picture of what you want (and the reward all in one) will be all the motivation you need.

I will keep checking this thread, looking forward to your post in the not too distant future with you wearing your gorgeous skirt.

Henrietta - I'm glad you are going to do that for DD :) I 'suck up' being in photos, purely and simply because I know how sad it is not to be in them later on. I grin and bear it.

Iknew - :( It's hard isn't it. It is lovely that your DH loves you whatever your size and accepts you (doesn't keep trying to 'make' you diet) perhaphs he's just trying not to put any pressure on you?! Your Mum... I suppose it depends on what she is normally like. I think that we often 'hear' one thing, when something else was actually 'said' or 'intended' - and maybe she was trying to be supportive - even though it didn't feel like it to you. On the other hand, she could be a right cow that needs a good slap telling?!

Anyway, try not to let it drag you down!

Maybe when you talk about weight/clothes etc they lose sight of the fact that you are doing this for your health?

Perhaphs you will have to be rather blunt with DH and next time he suggests a take-away ask him if he wants to a Chinese (curry/f&c) or you here in 20 years time. Don't be pissy, but do be clear! Would that work?

She isnt a cow, she is my best friend. I dont think she meant anything by it other than it is a long way off and a very long time to keep motivated. Esp at 1lb a week.

I comfort ate asparagus. Is that weird?

Iknewhousework, it's just a thought, but are they trying to be kind? Maybe what they want to do is reassure you that they love you whatever your size, and they haven't realised it's not a helpful response. Could you explain to them that what you need is their belief that you can achieve a healthier weight, and what will work best for you is their positive encouragement? Or is that a no-go conversation?

I too am looking forward to you posting the picture of yourself in your pencil dress, looking and feeling healthy and full of life.

She isnt a cow, she is my best friend - well there you go then :) Assume all comments comes from a place of love - even if you don't understand them at the time.

LOL at comfort eating asparagus

How long before you get your cast off?

I like proving people wrong so maybe it is just a weird kind of motivation

That's so sad cq :(

I've had a bit of a down day today and I nearly returned to my old ways when I'm down and comfort ate. I was going to suggest a takeaway, chocolate and wine. So glad I didn't and I now feel a lot better and none of the guilt I'd have had if I'd had that stuff.

Good for you issac. I am still fighting the urge. Might have an early night tonight and start a fresh tomorrow.

When you feel like giving up- remember why you started in the first place!

There will always be someone who tries to sabotage your efforts.

Count to ten, then disappear for 10 minutes to tell us on here.

Just keep thinking how truly miserable you felt a while back, that's why you started this new life and way of eating. Everything new takes some getting used to. Think how freaked you felt on your first day at secondary school; such a massive change and step up from Primary. Once you got used to it it was ok though!
We can all have off days.
Those who fall haven't failed.
Just don't fail to get back on track!

Ahhh thats lovely LayMizzRarb

Thanks IKnew. I hope the feeling passed for you :)

As dh is off on Monday, we've decided instead of going out for dinner tonight like we normally would, we'd have a quick chicken stir fry and perhaps go out on Monday as we don't know where we're going yet. Normally, we'd eat out on both of the days. It's the little things that add up, eh?

I didn't get chance to do the stone in books in a bag yet but will definitely do that today. Maybe even the 1st 6 I've lost would be better just to see what I've got rid of.

I still ache from the gym on Thursday but going to go again today then when dh is back from work, we're going to Tesco to stock up on healthy things. Anyone got any nice plans?

Have a great day all :)

Aw, Henrietta, that link is lovely - absolutely sums it up. I think that no matter what size you are, if you let that happiness and love shine through then the photos will be beautiful.

You can always just do head & shoulder shots!

Thank you all so much for last night. Without you I could have so easily jacked it all in.

I stuck fast last night and this morning I am full of wanting to prove everyone wrong. Even if I can only make a size 18 that opens up a whole new world of shops I can buy clothes from and should give me a buffer against that morbidy obese bmi.

I will do it. It might take me a while. Pcos may make that even longer but with this much weight to shift it was always going to be a marathon rather than a sprint. Here is to the brighter, lighter future for us all.

Urgh, so angry with myself. Thought I'd be sneaky and weigh myself this morning, 2 days earlier than I should, and showing a 1lb increase even though I've been good all week. Now all I can think of is "stuff this, eat cake"

Need to pull myself together, been good so far. I do have nearly all my weeklys left so won't blow it massively, but I don't want to use them when I'm feeling like this.

Lego, ignore ignore ignore.
Youll go insane and/or sabotage yourself.
Look at the bigger picture.
Are you eating well? if so then it will pay off in the end.

I had a McDonalds on Thursday. I did not enjoy it.
The fries were cold, so I returned them and waited for warm ones. Then the burger was cold and had clearly been sitting there for a while so I brought it back. I got a fresh hot one and then burnt my tongue! (someone sending me a message there I think!)

It wasn't worth it but I thought what the hell, one bad choice does not define me. So I am still eating properly, and meal planning with healthy options. I refuse to say I am being good or bad. I just make healthy (or not) choices.
Skinny people eat badly some days too. They just don't eat badly every day, hence being skinny.
My reslolve is to make more healthy choices than poor choices.

I think this is the difficult point isnt it. It is sinking in to us and everyone around us that this is the way things are going to be for a while. Motivation dips. But if we all push through we will come out the other side and get some fresh resolve.

Lego. You lost 7lb last week. Some of that was probably water so you are just evening out a bit. Whatever you weigh in at on monday is more realistically fat you have lost. Half a stone of fat! Thats brilliant. Keep going

I think the weather isn't helping too - I'm sitting here in my kitchen having cleared up lunch, and I've had a piece of battenburg cake which shouldn't even have been in the house. I keep thinking of all the stuff I should be doing but all I can hear is that second piece of cake calling me.

It's so miserable outside I'm craving sweet things. That's how I manage to put on two stone last winter. I need rainy day coping strategies. I will remove myself from the kitchen and go and brush my teeth.

Hello all,

I went way off track yesterday and back into binge mode urgh! It could have been worse but luckily my DP had already eaten some of the things I was planning on stuffing my face with!!

I can feel my resolve weakening already and its only early days! I think IKnewHousework you are right it just seems like a massive task but I need get my willpower back and get back on it.

I imagined myself slipping back into my old ways and then coming back to this thread in a month or so and seeing everyone being positive and doing so well and whilst I would probably have put on another stone!! I so don't want that to happen so I'm making sure I stick with you lot

Well done Issac and IKnew for resisting the urge!

Henrietta thanks for posting that link. I am exactly the same as you and I think about it a lot that there are probably about 3 photos of me with my kids . I'm going to make a conscience effort to take some. Hope you got some nice birthday ones!