Anyone else with alot of weight to lose?

[HenriettaPye]

Today is a big day for me, a turning point! I've always been 'big' however have just been getting bigger and bigger. I want to lose 6 stone- starting from today.

Anyone else in the same boat who would like to swap inspiration and tips? Today I've planned to eat healthily and go for a nice long walk

Heres some motivation for you :

Get hold of one of those reusable supermarket bags or cloth reuseables.

Take it to your scales and fill it with 1 stone of books or magazines.

Now go and put it in your kitchen. Every time you feel like a snack, Pick it up then carry it round for a minute (if you're up for it, walk up then down stairs with it)

Isn't it great to be able to put that stone of rubbish down again?

Can I join you lovely people? But I must warn you all - I am hard work, weight-wise as have struggled most of my life and especially recently. I've been trying to seriously lose weight for 2 years but have put on 3.5 stones (and was 1.5 overweight anyway)! I seriously think something is up with my hormones or similar (am peri-menipausal). I've been to the doctor and had loads of tests but her conclusion was that perhaps the vlcds I've been on in the past have messed up my metabolism . She also said that I should perhaps just except being this size as I don't look like I struggle with my weight (I'm a size 18-20 and 5ft 6.5ins ).

Anyway, I have reached the end of my tether (well that happened some time ago tbh), especially after a beach/pool holiday having to steal myself everyday to wear a swimming costume in public and just feeling the worst I have ever felt about myself. I have a wardrobe full of lovely dresses in size 14 and that is all I aspire to - not super-slimness.

Apologies for the mega-post but I so need to lose wobbliness, particularly my stomach which gets in the way when I bend over, and my ham-hock arms. Oh and the rolls of back fat. And the huge boobs. And the wobbly thighs. And I'd quite like to re-aquaint myself with my collar-bone. But I need help please and maybe I can share some of my 33 years' experience of dieting (sometimes even successfully!)

Well,I've put 2 on this week. Heaven knows where that came from.

clarinet from that I was from Tonga...and I still am!

That's a great idea LayMizz. I will be doing that tomorrow for sure!

Welcome moonshine :)

Don't let it get you down over. It'll soon come off :)

Moonshine - Hi & welcome!! I think most of us are 'hard work' so I wouldn't worry about that

I have tried all sorts, I'm currently low carbing and have lost almost 3 stone (lowered blood pressure and my blood glucose is now in the normal range, it was in the diabetic range in Jan). It's great because you never have to be hungry. If you want to give it a go, come and join us on the Bootcamp threads OK.

When I first stated LC in Jan, I happened to have loads of bags of de-icing salt around, everytime I lost the equivalent weigh I put it in a pile... it was great watching it grow & trying to lift it :)

Thanks all for the welcome.

Chipping - tried lcing for a little while and didn't work for me sadly, as I thought it would be my 'magic bullet'. 5:2 didn't work either. Nor calorie counting. But ate 3 huge meals a day on hols + alcohol every night and snacked on crisps and didn't put any weight on at all. And I can easily put on 3-6 pounds on overnight from 'normal'/lower cal eating

Something weird is definitely happened to my body, don't know if it is 'righting' itself a little (I've been taking some vitamins/supplements which I'm trying in desperation) so may revisit old methods.

moonshine - I don't want to bang on about low carbing as this is not what this thread is about :) and I don't want to get kicked off but I just want to say this first.

I would have said exactly the same as you in January. Word for word! Then I got diagnosed with diabetes, posted on MN (what else is a girl to do), read pages and pages of stuff on diabetes and discovered how much success others were having low carbing. BIWI couldn't stand watching me tearing myself apart and posted on my thread - I read the Bootcamp threads, completely resisted it - it looked far too much like deprivation to me and I was worried about how it would affect my blood glucose levels etc etc but finally I saw sense, read John Briffa's book (escape the diet trap) and thought it was worth a go for 10 weeks. I lost 26lbs the first 3 months. Blood pressure better but not great, blood glucose top end of normal and cholesterol down. 3 months later bp/bg/ch all normal. I'm still losing weight doing it and am much happier.

So anyway, if you fancy another go at it - it might be a bit different to how you did it before, you know where to find us :) If not, good luck whatever way you choose.

Oh and I am still (despite losing almost 3 stone) Tongan and a quick look at the chart tells me I should learn the language - I'm going to be there for a very long time!

Im a Tongan! Shameful.

I don't know why my mam is so bitchy about my weight. She forgets she was once my size and the only reason she lost her weight was because she was having an affair.

DH wants to get a take away tomorrow night hmm

Or even.

Welcome moonshine, glad you have decided to join us! Official weigh in day is a Wednesday

Good idea about the stone of magazines- will give that a go tomorrow!

I need a slap on the wrist- I've been a bad girl tonight...I ate half a large pizza from dominos!

Getting nervous about our camping trip. There's a group of us going and I know there will be the temptation to eat and drink in ridiculous quantities.

Will also be difficult to calorie count with no kitchen scales.

I'm going to try and be really good though. I don't want to stay the same/gain on Wednesday when I've tried so hard today and yesterday.

Thanks Chipping. I briefly troubled the boot camp once but was the thread failure and slinked off.

Anyway, onwards and upwards. I'm a Samoan - but have been a Tongan and everything else down to a Papua New Guinean (albeit for a nanosecond) this century

Oh and thanks Henrietta - I started yesterday so shall weigh in next Wednesday with my first official week +/-lbs

Mia I am noy a fan of low carbing in general but it seems it may be ideal for camping. No counting and bbq meat all round.

That's a good plan IKnew. Will probably be the easiest thing to do. I'm only away for 3 days so should be ok with low carbing for a few days

Sorry I didn't get a chance to check in yesterday, but I've lost 1.1 kilos hurrah! (The 0.1 is clearly very important, no rounding down here!)

I love reading through everyone's posts, great inspiration and reflection. Someone mentioned up thread that they don't want to pass on their issues with weight to their beautiful daughters. That thought is at the front of my mind so often too. I really want to get in sync with my body and the best way of eating for me, so that my girls don't grow up bring constantly aware of my dieting / body issues / feeling low because of my weight etc.

Daily inspiration: I want to wear dresses from Monsoon.

I love the stuff they sell but it only looks good on nicely shaped women.

Welcome moonshine.
I've been calorie counting and though others feel treats help them I've found the opposite works for me - no treats, no time off. I find if I have one treat, I just crave more!
However above all I think (imho that is!) one of the most important factors is having your families support, esp those that live with you. My dh is 100 % with me, all the meals we have allow for my diet i.e fish pasta and veg, I just have lots of veg and v little pasta etc. We have lots of big family bbqs at my parents and since they cottoned onto my diet dad always throws a bit of salmon on the bbq for me. Evenings are alwaus my downfall but dh helps make sure I only reach for healthy things!

Every time I dieted before I did it in secret, ashamed of myself and never, ever told dh what I weighed. This time I sat down with dh and told him how unhappy I felt with my body, together we weighed in and I weigh in with dh every friday and record it on a chart we made. For me, this has been the absolute factor which has made the difference this time - I don't feel alone, ashamed or embarrassed.

Not sure that helps as everyones experience is different, my point is you have to find the personal thing that works for you and when you do, hold on to it! [Smile]

Daily inspiration-

I want to be in photos with my children. I take loads of photos but very rarely allow people to take photos of me, as I hate what I see. It makes me sad that in the future my children will look at their baby and childhood photos and won't see me.

Henrietta that is exactly how I feel. I don't even have pics of me with my boys as newborns in hospital. I wouldn't let anyone take any.
When I think about that now I'm gutted that I didn't allow anyone to capture those magical first moments

YellowCanary - well done for sharing with your dh. As I get older I do actually care a lot less about what people think, like to have a bold dress/make up/jewellery style/habit but my one sticking point is talking about my weight to people's faces. I just couldn't tell my dh my weight, which is totally ridiculous as he is supportive (if somewhat unthinking when he eats delicious, but smelly, huge portions of nice dishes in front of me). And I can only imagine the whispered conversations about my having put on so much weight as I can see the way assess me surrepticiously.

But you're right, it's finding your own way which, for me, looks like I will have to do food my food.

I also agree re: photos. I have even deleted photos by dcs have taken of me because I look so disgusting and huge - even when slimmer I am so not photogenic anyway!

I used to feel that way about photos, but just lately I have lost a good friend to cancer, and yesterday heard about someone who I used to know from our old school gates - she was on holiday with her DH & 2 boys and her DH has drowned. Absolutely awful. Both families had young children and I just think, imagine if anything happened to me - I want my children to at least have photos to remember me by.

They love us even when we don't love ourselves.

Sorry for such a post but I'm really feeling today that you should live every day like it might be your last, cos you just never know. And that includes looking after ourselves so that we are here for our kids for a long long time to come.

I want to be a granny, a great-granny and a MIL from hell so I am taking these steps to make it more likely.

Oh CQ, that is tragic. Sorry to hear about your friend as well.

I too hate my photo being taken, however this holiday I've allowed DH to take a few photos when we are out and about so our DC can have some of me.

I think what is helping this time round is that DH is doing the diet with me. He isn't doing WW but he is making more healthier choices. I've managed to persuade him not to have a take away tonight so we are having some chicken tikka steaks with salad and a baked potato.

oh thats so sad CQ and makes me feel incredibly guilty. If i was to die today my children would have very little recent photos of me with them. I have quite a few with my son in his first year, as my weight wasnt so much of a problem then (still fat but not as much as I am now.) However in my daughters whole existence I have very few. I have one when i got home from hospital (which I hate) and a few taken on her christening day (which I also hate.) I didnt even get any taken with her last weekend on her first birthday

So I have decided tonight I am going to put her birthday dress on, and her badge and get my photo taken with her, to keep in her memory book. And tomorrow when we go to the farm I will also get in on the pictures. And when my DS starts school in 2 weeks I will have a photo taken with him too, so in years to come he can look at them and see me there.

I remember a friend on facebook posting something once about it, so had a look back through the old stuff and found the link- its a lovely article if you have the time to read!

The Mom Stays In The Picture