Anyone else with alot of weight to lose?

[HenriettaPye]

Today is a big day for me, a turning point! I've always been 'big' however have just been getting bigger and bigger. I want to lose 6 stone- starting from today.

Anyone else in the same boat who would like to swap inspiration and tips? Today I've planned to eat healthily and go for a nice long walk

An AMAZING 46.9lb lost between us all!

Thanks, Henrietta, I make that, aaaah, around 93 packs of butter. Anyone fancy packing that lot into shopping trolley and taking a pic for us all to share?

I hope you do join us - it's much easier when you have people to complain to chat with and who will give you a slap support you :)

I'm sorry DS is so upset & stressed having to go back to school :( There must be an arse or two that you can KICK?? How old is DS?

Try to think about it like this - does it actually change anything when you eat? (other than the weight on the scales). No - otherwise we would ALL be very FAT and very happy... but we aren't :(

But I know how hard it is to change that :( I am only able to be 'so good' now, because for me, it isn't worth raising my blood sugar levels for 'crap' or a 'snack'. I need to keep it under control through diet and hope to reduce my insulin resistance and snacking or eating carby food wont allow me to do that. It's a curse & a blessing.

I just want to agree with all the posts about "those" conversations.

When I was much younger (and actually a lovely weight for me, just have a muscular, chunky shape), one of my stick thin friends was moaning about how fat she looked. Again. I just finally snapped and said "we both know that I'm much bigger than you, so if you think you're fat, what do you think of me? It's really rude to keep saying stuff like that around me." She didn't know what to say, and looked mortified. Never did say it again though!

I also think that being fat has been my rebellion against my mum. I love her heaps and we get along really well, but she's naturally much smaller than me (size 12 is big for her) and is very body conscious. I've never felt that I measure up to how she wants her daughter to be, so it's almost like I've sabotaged my own body just to make a point. (So you don't think I should be a size 14? What about 18? How's 22 grab you?)

Talk about cutting off your nose to spite your face! No more!

Sorry to blurt all of that out, but it's great to articulate it.

Miemohs I hope you get the support he needs for him x

I love this thread, it is great to have people who understand things so well!

I love our thread too Sirzy

Me three - best thread ever!

Sorry to hear about your DS Miemohs - one of my DDs has dyslexia and there was trauma at the beginning of every school year (esp primary) while we waited for her new teachers to get the information they needed about her support needs, and get their heads around what they had to do. Secondary was a bit better because not every teacher changed every year, and there was a lovely person in charge of additional support who we could go to and she made things happen. Is there anyone at your DS's school who would do that? Someone must be in charge of ASL - or failing that, his teacher from last year?

Oh Miemohrs, can totally relate to that. DS2 has autism and the start of school is always stressful. Not looking forward to September. The stress of it is partly the reason I stuff my face and am the size I am. Hope she gets the help she needs. What are the school doing to help so far?

I also love this thread. No judging, more understanding, we are all in the same boat and the load is getting lighter.

My inspiration today - I don't want people asking me when I'm due anymore, it's embarrassing for me and for them.

Day 4 of the shred done- its getting easier

Have a great day all.

You should never get on the scales between weekly weigh ins! I couldn't resist, and my punishment? I have put on two pounds since yesterday. Luckily I know that it is down to the HUGE saucepan of roasted tomato and courgette soup I made and ate yesterday. But there is a reason they suggest weekly weighs! It's obviously all still there, along with the water being used to digest it!
Feeling a little bit more healthier again this morning. The excercise I am doing at the moment is using a vibrating plate machine, doing squats and lunges.
Good luck for today everyone - one day nearer to the new us!

Well done on all the weight losses this week. I only started Monday so will weigh in next Wednesday. Feel I have been doing okay this week so far-for me it is all about habits so I am back to MFP daily and checking this thread to help me on my way.

Speaking about 'those' conversations -I was once at work and we were chatting away about pop idol (quite a few years ago) somebody made a not very nice comment about Michelle Mcmanus although it was about her singing or something she said, rather than her weight and we all chuckled then the guy sitting turned to me and said ..oh sorry ..no offense! :O

I was so embarrassed and baffled to why he thought that it was offensive to me until I realised he obviously saw me as physically the same as Michelle McManus and was obviously thought he was being rude by being horrible about a fellow 'overweight' person!!
Also I think at the time Michelle McManus was at her biggest and size 26/28 and I was a size 18 and I just remember being mortified that that's all people in the office saw when they looked at me -just a large girl the same as all other large girls! Still makes me blush and I never told anyone else in real life about it ! :(

How horrible Magenta :(

There was a twat bloke at work who used to him "big girls you are beautiful by mika" when he walked past me. . I was too embarrassed to say anything at the time. I was only a 16 then, now I'm a 20. So glad I don't work in an office now.

I really dont understand why my weight is important to people who dont care about me as a person. Why shoukd my being fat affect anyone in the street enough to comment? Ok I may not be attractive to them butas I am happily married I dont want to sleep with them so wtf.

I want to lose weight not to look pretty to some knobheads but to be healthy.

I'm sorry to hear about all these stories of inconsiderate/rude people you have all encountered. It's interesting that I don't really have any stories like this - I think possibly because I have been big all my life (15 stone at 16 years old), I am comfortable with my size and either that comes across to others, or I am less sensitive to what they say. It is good in a way, as it means that I have less emotional issues, but it also makes it harder to lose the weight, as I have less motivation. I also think my mental body image of myself is of being smaller than I am, which doesn't help either. But it is all academic anyway, as I WILL lose the weight this time, like all of us on this thread.

And to that end, I have been swimming again this morning, 2.5km today so a 25% increase on Tuesday's swim. My ultimate aim is to be able to swim 5km, maybe next spring as a sponsored thing. And I officially joined SW yesterday so have now made a financial commitment to the weight loss as well. Roll on next Weds for weigh in :)

I'm so glad I found this thread with like minded people. I still don't even know how I stumbled across it as I'd never been in this section on MN before. It must have been fate that I linked to something and found this on the day I had just weighed myself and started on my diet. Its only been two weeks but I wonder if I my resolve may have weakened by now if I didn't have this thread to log on to and chat with my 'slimming club' buddies! It really is motivational for me - LayMizz I love that you have said one day nearer to the new us - that's a great way to look at it

THANK YOU Henrietta for started the thread and doing the weekly weigh in's

I know you shouldn't but I weigh myself every day but I don't actually count it until official weigh Wednesday. When I have dieted in the past I used to weigh myself twice a day! So it looks like I have put on 2 pounds worth of Nandos and chocolate from yesterday - oh dear!!

My thought for the day is - I want to be able to walk past shop windows and not feel awful and like I want to go back home and hide when I see my reflection!

MissElodie - a watched scale always gains! (See my post)
Are you following a particular plan? You would have thought I won the lottery this morning; I found a pack of sugar free polos that I had counted with my WW points for Monday and I had only eaten half the pack, so can finish the rest today!

I have a Versace black leather jacket that I last wore 10 years ago. I bought it in one of the Elton John Auctions. I estimate I need to lose at least 6 stones to wear it. I have hung it on the outside of the wardrobe so it's the first thing I see in the morning!

How horrible magenta.

I too have been asked when I'm due. However I'm ashamed to admit that instead of admitting I was just fat, I mumbled that I had another few months to go and quickly walked away.

People who have never had to struggle with their weight just don't 'get' it. My best friend is getting married in 8 weeks and is currently eating one meal a day because she so 'desperately' needs to lose half a bloody stone! Try needing to lose 7!!

And my parents quite often tell me how awful I look. In the summer when I wear vest tops my mum often comments about 'the size of my arms.' She just doesn't get it, she's told me numerous times that she doesn't understand why I'm so fat as neither her or my dad have ever been overweight so I don't carry 'the fat gene'

I can relate to everything said on here. I'm sorry about all these horrible things that have happened :( I've had my fair share as well. I love being able to talk to people in the same boat here.

I love this thread too, thanks so much for starting it Henrietta

I've just got back from the gym where I did 1hr 40 minutes and 12 ish minute walk there and the same back (and a bus ride there and back too!)

I've been asked if I'm pregnant when my 3month old baby was in plain view. Wtf?!

Henrietta comments from mum hurt a lot, don't they? I feel like I don't want to give her the satisfaction of being able to tell me how much better I look. Then I feel like an idiot for thinking that, and a bitch, because I love my mum nd she has actually been a wonderful mum, just has her own issues.

I so don't want to pass my problems on to my beautiful daughters.

Strangely enough, my arms are pretty good given my size. My arms are probably the only part of my body I like.

My mam once made a comment about my arse looking like two beach balls battling to get out. Has stuck with me for ages, very self conscious about what I wear.

I love my mum to bits, she's probably one of my closest friends, and I don't think she is trying to be nasty, she just doesn't get it! She has never had problems with her weight, has had 5 children and at her biggest (38 weeks pregnant with TWINS!) she weighed 10 stone. She thinks its just a case of me cutting down what I eat and do a bit of exercise and it will b fine! She just doesn't understand the struggle I have!

By contrast, my mum had the same problems as me, which included not talking about food or bodies, so although we were in pretty much the same boat, it was off-limits. Even to the point that we once pretended not to see each other buying biscuits in a supermarket once!

For the last few months I've been tracking my progress on this site, which has been fun:

www.bbc.co.uk/news/health-18770328

When I started I was Micronesian. I'm now East Timorese. When I reach my goal I'll be most like someone from Madagascar (Madagascarian? That doesn't look right.)

This is such an interesting thread. My son told me last night that my mum HAD noticed I'd lost weight last time he was here and she mentioned it to him. He told her that I don't like talking about it. She is thin to the point of being very scrawny.

And also last night he said "god mum, you're quite thin" - I don't think he's looked at me properly for a few months (teenager!) and although 'thin' is definitely inaccurate, I'm still a size 18, it was nice to hear.

I was happy with my weight at 12 stone and size 14 tbh. I can't wait to be that size again.

And pmsl at pretending not to notice each other buying biscuits!

It really is as much about what goes on in your head as well as your mouth isn't it?