January Starters - Thread 11!

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Come on in losers!

Ooh @HeidiLite @PenelopePoweringOn @2025istheyeari fake fur always tempting! I also keep eyeing cute little leather jackets but now I’m finally small enough to consider them I think I might look ridiculous due to age. Will have to sneak in and try one, I don’t normally worry about dressing too young so it could work.

I love plum, have just ordered a Lindex plum cardigan and OGL Move long mermaid skirt.

@2025istheyeari Tbilisi, that's an interesting choice! We went to Georgia a few times when I was a kid, absolutely loved it, but of course it must be so different now. Very curious to hear what's it like.

@Aimingdown I think I've gotten to the age where I don't worry about dressing too young. I'm closer to 50 than 40, surely nobody would think that I seriously try to pretend I'm 18?
Life is short, wear what you want!

I adore a faux fur jacket but I just can’t. Short and curvy with a very short waist - regardless of size I look like a womble. I had one when I was in my early 20s (bought from Camden Market in the 90s - happy days) but even then my brother told me I looked like an ewok. Adore them on other people mind.

i got myself a fitted, I though rather chic proper waterproof coat for this autumn. My daughter told me I looked like a borrower.

@Aimingdown I can now fit back into my little leather jacket and I love it ❤️

Love chocolate brown, but has no idea it was 'in' - I am partial to a bit of leopard print. I'm currently sporting OH's hoodies as my winter clothes are up in the loft, and if I'm honest, I don't think any of them will fit me. Think I might go shopping on the weekend.

@BreezyPeer I met my husband online 15 years ago. With two very young kids, it was the best way for me to meet new people - I did require dial up to chat, a few of the times (!) so a bit of a different beast to now. Good luck - and try to enjoy it.

Jab day was supposed to be today - but I didn't. I did weigh in though, and remaining firmly on 9stone straight after the weekend. Happy with that. I have one jab left - I can't decide whether to start my new pen or not.

Would appreciate any thoughts from you all - it's a 5mg and I'm jabbing 2.5mg since last week. My aim is to come off completely. Do I start the new pen, and potentially another 10 weeks - or not, and finish next week....?!?!

@Thelittlestranger as you're on 2.5 already and planning to come off, you could give it a try and can always re-start if needed?

Need a little hand hold.

Casual meet up with friends in a pub last night. The conversation turned to weight loss, not initiated by me.

My “friend” launched into a full scale attack on my use of WLI using faux concern for my wellbeing as an excuse.

She is at least four stone overweight and is probably just jealous. I know this, but I am still so pissed off. I am not as able to defend myself verbally as I would be in writing but I did my best.

I pointed to a good friend next to me who is on HRT long term, therefore also “pumping herself full of hormones” and said “but you aren’t worried about her?”

Apparently I just need some kind of therapy and that will magically reset my hormone levels. The opinion of my consultant endocrinologist means nothing. 😡😡😡

I think I am angry at myself for not defending myself more effectively.

@Zempy is this the person you had problems with before?
I think I’d message her - say your upset and in the future you don’t wish to discuss this with her again.

She’s rude and knows it but thinks can get away with it.

What a cow.

@Zempy Totally understand why you that's upsetting but having seen two friends fall out over something recently after years, is it something you can move past? 'Thank you for your concern, but I'm very happy with my decision.' And move on. People will people - and if she is a good friend in all other ways, be delighted with your decision and ignore i reckon. If she's not, then, give her hell 😜

@HeidiLite that sounds very obvious doesn't it? Perhaps I see coming back on it as failure. And that's a whole other thing I need to wrap my head around.

Morning 🌄 losers!
@Thelittlestranger Thank you for the positive story about OLD! I have a friend who met her husband on it and they are off round the world, exploring in retirement. It's inspiring- I'm just hoping for some good dates ( probably some good stories) and see how it goes!
@Zempy I might need to come over and have a word with your 'friend'. I am angry on your behalf. How dare they undermine the massive strides you have made to make yourself healthier?
Talking about jackets I have had my eye on a classic Levi denim jacket. I tried one on about May and I almost bought it but I'm glad now as it would rapidly have been too big. I am making a list of clothes I desperately want which is so different from 'it fits- I'll buy it' which has been my buying policy for years 🤣
Busy day at work stepping up into a different role as a CPD opportunity, just for today. Wish me luck!

Morning everyone. @BreezyPeer I hope you have a great time OLD!

@Zempy , that is awful behaviour from your friend. I hope you're ok this morning.

@BreezyPeer, you've just made me realise that I've spent a number of years buying things because they simply fit.

I'm going to visit family today which will be nice, day off. Yipee.

Thanks. Yes, it’s the same friend as before.

I wish I had just closed it down by saying I didn’t want to discuss it AGAIN rather than sat there defending myself. She genuinely seems to think she knows better than medical experts who have access to my bloods etc.

I am not going to say anything at this point, but this is absolutely the last time. If she does it again I will tell her it’s boring and she’s plain misinformed.

@Zempy have a handhold from me. Honestly makes me glad I’ve only got acquaintances nowadays. I think you countered it well actually. The HRT comparison is excellent. Don’t let her get under your skin today or in the future.

Feeling a bit better today and DH tells me I’m looking less like a corpse so I’m taking that as a win. I’ve got a busy weekend coming up (32nd wedding anniversary) and so I’ve started my packing for Malta. It’s taking a bit longer as I’m having to try everything on as the last few weeks have seen a change in shape although not in weight. I think this will be the last wear for a few summer tops though.

Have a great day everyone!

@Zempy urgh. I have little truck with her being jealous to be honest, it’s at best thoughtless at worst just a bitch. I hate people who knock others down to feel better about themselves. she’s a massive knob.

@BreezyPeer @PenelopePoweringOn yes re ‘it fits’ as my shopping criteria. Ideally it fits in the smaller size to make myself feel better.

i need to get up but I’m tired and work is in take over mode again so quiet before the storm. I yet again failed to break up my day with some movement. I have these amazing intentions but once I get stuck in, I spend 10 hours on the phone with barely a break for the loo and something to eat. Then I’m ferrying a kid around, making dinner and too knackered from my day. It is a me problem - my friends have similar workloads but are better at stopping at lunchtime/prioritising breaks. I do the whole blocking out my diary thing and I just ignore it! What an arsehole….

@jinsyay for not looking like the undead

@myladyjane doesn’t sounds like a you problem, sounds like you have too much to do.

Could you try a lunch time walk? Your entitled to a break, no one will notice if you do abd you’ll feel better for it.

Good luck @BreezyPeer
and glad you are feeling better @Jins

@myladyjane i spent an awful lot of time juggling a challenging work environment and ferrying kids around and I feel for you. It’s exhausting and there’s never time to do the things you want to do for yourself. I felt like I was on an exercise bike all the time - pedalling away like fury but getting nowhere. I’ve no advice I’m afraid as there generally isn’t a lot you can do except get stuck in.

I’ve got a quiet day planned as work has recommenced on the water pipe project and I forgot to get my car off the drive last night. They are great lads and will do all they can to minimise disruption but they’d have to cover two big holes in the ground for me. It’s DS2’s turn to cook so I don’t even have to worry about that!

I instigated a new system when DS1 moved out - DH and DS2 have to take responsibility for one family evening meal per week. DS2 has really taken it onboard and he’s done some amazing dishes. DH not so much but it doesn’t hurt for him to have to try.

@Thelittlestranger not a failure at all! You wouldn't think of any other medication this way. If you checked if you can manage without but symptoms came back then it was simply too early to come off and can try again a bit later.

@BreezyPeer I also met my DH online, we've been happily married for 15 years now.

@Zempy ooh makes me angry. I would probably list all overweight related health conditions and say that you are sooooo worried about her. Mounjaro risks are generally short-term, treatable, and less common.
Obesity risks are long-term, progressive, and strongly linked to premature death and disability.

@myladyjane we hear you. And honestly that's one of the main reasons why I teach the classes - I simply have to go if I have it in the calendar. It's hard to make time.
Maybe some smaller bursts of exercise? You can do quite a bit at home in just 15 min, easier to squeeze in than a 2 hour gym session.

@HeidiLite I would love to, but it would go badly with the wider group. She says she focuses on “being fit” rather than her weight. She swims once or twice a week. I’m not getting sucked into it with her.

I think, “not this again, I think my consultant knows more about my health than you do, I’m not going into it again” should be enough for her to back off.

Hopefully!!!

Good luck @BreezyPeer and enjoy the day!

@Zempy I hope you’re ok today, why do people feel it’s ok to treat friends like this…

@Jins glad you’re feeling better, me too! My plan for the day is a nice walk in the sunshine then a visit to a friend who had a masectomy last week. I need to do some interview prep ( through to final stages for 2 jobs yay!), but I really cba today!

Weigh in for me and after plateauing for quite a few weeks, I’m at my lowest weight since my early 20s if not before! 10 stone 10/ 68kg, making a 5 1/2 stone or 35 kg loss, and 22.8 BMI. I’m still gobsmacked to be honest. These last few pounds are taking forever but I have increased the calories and only want to lose 3 more to give me a buffer. I’m on my last 10mg one before titrating down, think I’ve got 3 more weeks and I’m spacing the doses out a bit more, it’s been a week since my last jab and I still feel ok supression.

@PenelopePoweringOn have a lovely day off and hope work not too bad @myladyjane . I have stopped getting up early to swim the last couple of weeks as I’m exhausted, need to find my mojo and get to that gym as well. Seems to be a lot going on at the moment, that’s definitely a me problem though. Hope work calms down and that you can find some time for you.

ETA @HeidiLite, my exercise guru, do you have any suggestions of places to find 15-20 min workouts, I think realistically I may be able to manage those!

@2025istheyeari ooh congratulations on your lowest adult weight! Same here.

For exercises, check youtube: Caroline Girvan or Toya and Juice both have a lot of 15-20 min videos - strenght, cardio, abs etc.

@HeidiLite true words. Right, I think I won't start the next pen. Last jab incoming 😬

@myladyjane I usually do exercise first thing, or I procrastinate. Which I'm doing right now - but I'm about head out to run the dogs. I also had to start prioritising me - work was priority for way too long. I also work much better after exercise.

@0ncemorewithfee1ing congratulations!! Your BMI is lower than mine. I stuck at 23/23.5.

This morning's weigh in with Renpho put me at 8stone 13 after 8 days of 2.5mg. Happy with that. No offence taken at all.

That's wonderful @2025istheyeari , congrats!

@Zempy your 'friend' sounds more frenemy at this point. I think you need to find a way to say light hearted things to her when in a group setting, such as "Oh stop with all the WLI hate now Maureen, you're beginning to sound like you're jealous/a broken record/ etc" so that it highlights to all the others what she's doing without you making a big deal about it. That way, hopefully, the others will start to back you up with this if she keeps going on about it.

Good luck with the online dating @BreezyPeer 🍀 That would scare the life out of me now for sure! 😂 But then I'm a 🦖 that would probably be cancelled or arrested nowadays for pinching DH's bum in a nightclub; things were very different in the 80's! 🤣

All the coat convo made me go and try on my lovely Max Mara wrap coat. It actually wraps again instead of struggling to meet in the middle, yay! It was an absolute steal many years ago (cashmere, fully lined) and when I gained weight I tried to find similar again in a larger size and it was no longer lined and the price had rocketed. I tried their teddy bear coat when I was larger and couldn't send it back quick enough when I saw how effing awful I looked in it! 🤣