Oh my giddy aunt! What a day! I'm posting it here because there's not another soul on earth that I can share this with.
Out of the blue I got a message this morning from a former lover who I last saw 38 years ago!!! We are facebook friends but nothing else. He now lives in California but was back here visting an elderly parent. He'd been looking through old photos and found one from when we worked together and did our PhD's, age 23-25 and sent it to me. How young we all looked... (wistful). He said he was going to be visiting the city where I live, and did I want to meet for a cup of tea?
I'd assumed he would be with his partner, but he'd made this trip back to UK on his own, and so when I met him it was just the two of us. 4 hours of reminiscing about people and times and events, catching up with 38 years of tales of marriage, kids, divorce, re-marriage, work, big life changes, values...
He was a work colleague and fellow student but we were also secret lovers all those years ago, both of us in other relationships but madly and passionately in love with each other. We then broke each other's hearts
He moved to California, I couldn't/wouldn't go with him and ended up marrying the wrong person. He came to my wedding.
What a fantastic afternoon (and no, we didn't have sex or kiss or blur any boundaries), it was just really wonderful to reminisce and 'connect'. Especially because it will most likely never happen again. We did talk about the time we were together. He said that I was the sexiest person he had ever been with
I still remember how good it was!
He now lives in rural California, is active, lean, fit (with muscles), spends his time working on outdoor ecological projects and eats a mostly plant based diet. I don't think I've ever been more pleased that I've been on this MJ journey for the past year and could turn up looking slim and healthy!
Be reassured that we are both very happy in solid commited relationships, and we won't start any kind of online emotional interaction. But if there were multiple universes, there would be another me and him who would have made different decisions and would have had a different adventure.
I will play John Maryn's 'Solid Air' as a final memory. And then back to normal life as a 64 year old grandmother. But a considerably lighter one than I was this time last year.