April 2025 Mounjaro Starters - Thread 5!

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Hope I’ve done this right, I’ve never started a thread before.

@qs90 hope you don’t mind me starting a new one for us but thread 4 was full and I don’t want to lose my crew!

I’m fine thank you. Never had an ED but this has given me a window into that controlled thinking. It’s not good. I think I’m just acutely aware how easy it is to slide back into obesity and determined not to let that happen this time. It’s trying to halt the weight loss without moving into a cycle of gain.

Only half a pound loss this week.

Week 27. I started on April 9th.
Start Weight - 21st 9lbs (303lbs)
Current Weight - 13st 8lbs (190lbs)
Weight lost this week - 0.5lb
Total weight lost - 8st 1lbs (113lbs)

I'm really disappointed to be honest. I walked 20,000 steps every day last week, and was in a calorie deficit every single day.

I think i'm more disappointed because of how I felt this weekend. When I'm in the house, alone I can see that I have lost so much weight, but this weekend I took my kids to Glasgow, and I don't say this lightly, I felt really, really overweight. Mentally, I felt the way I did when I was almost 22 stone. I know comparison is the thief of joy, but I felt so frumpy, I was wearing a new (cheap) coat in a size 16. It wasn't puffy or even lined, but I felt really big in that coat, it clung to me in all the wrong places.

I kept seeing all these slim women who looked so nice and I honestly felt awful about myself. I also felt like a giant - im almost 5ft 7 and I felt like I was 7ft tall and 500lbs next to these petite, slim women. I know I still have lots of weight to lose. I think im just trying to skip ahead and I know it doesn't work like that, I didn't gain all that weight overnight, so i'm not going to be able to lose it all overnight.

I think i'm just really disappointed and the end of my marriage is still having a huge impact on my mental health and the way I feel about myself in general.

I feel like im wishing my life away, wishing for another 6 months to pass because, maybe in another 6 months I will have lost enough weight to not feel the way I did this past weekend.

After the weekend I contacted my dentist - they do private work and I booked in for teeth whitening, botox and lip fillers for the beginning of December. I've never had any of these procedures before, but i felt so awful about myself that this seemed like a good idea to try and give me a confidence boost.

This is a heavy mumsnet message for 10am on a random Wednesday and for that, I am sorry. I maybe need to stay away from the scales for a few weeks and stop basing my worth or even my mood on what the scales are telling me.

I hope you are all having a good week x

Sorry you're still having such a tough time @Mumof2studentnurse Have you considered medication if you're feeling this low still? I've taken Sertraline for a few years, and honestly and truly it's a game changer. No side effects other than feeling tired and spacy for a couple of weeks when starting, which was a relief at the time, because previously I'd just felt so miserable x

@QS90 I've told myself that I would give myself a year, so, If im still feeling the way I do in 6 months from now I will explore medication. Right now i'm doing therapy work, trying to exercise, going for walks, reading, distracting myself, actively removing thoughts of him from my mind when they creep in. The more weight I lose, the better I feel about myself - so having weeks where i dont lose very much, doesn't make me feel very good about myself. I do hope to feel better soon though. x

Mumof2studentnurse
If you are 5ft 7 and size 16 you are definitely not that big!! 😘

I am still buying clothes that are way too big for me, it’s going to take a long time for our brains to catch up with our bodies. Absolutely go for the Botox etc, if that boosts your self worth. You’ve had an awful time with your ex and that’s bound to have an effect on your self confidence and self esteem. The best revenge you can have is to look after yourself and your health and come out of this awful time looking and feeling amazing!

Having said that, you probably need to get your head around the fact that no matter how thin you are, you will still have to deal with people being shitty to you and know that being slim won’t solve all your problems (I have had similar feelings)

I agree that you might benefit from anti depressants and possibly counselling because there might be unresolved feelings that don’t go away when you’ve got to your goal weight. You haven’t said if you have had a lifetime of being overweight and you’ve definitely lost a lot already, but I know from my own experiences that our self worth is often inextricably linked to what we look like.

Big hug from me, this is a safe space for you to talk, and I think most of us will be able to relate to parts of your story.

😘😘

Hey @Mumof2studentnurse you are incredible. You've lost 8 STONE. that's a whole person on some people!!! You are rocking the whole capable single mum thing. I know some people will diss this, but I post a fair bit on Facebook about doing stuff with my kids and, especially on the early days, post split, I really got a boost from friends liking or commenting about how fab I was or looked or whatever. You've had a hell of a kick and don't underestimate the effect of that but please don't doubt yourself. Have you got Christmas figured out yet? Happy to hand hold through this first one if it involves time away from your kids ❤️

Thanks so much @Pepperwaggytail I was really slim until my early 20's and that's when the weight started to pile on. I worked in an office, done no exercise, and I didn't really understand PCOS, but the more weight I gained, the worse I felt, the worse i felt, the more I ate, leading to more weight gain. I met my husband when I was 24. After my husbands first affair, which i found out about when my son was a few months old, I went from around 16st down to 12st 4lbs and then fell pregnant again, and over the last 7 years gained more and more weight every year.

I think I will give botox and the lip fillers a try, to see if maybe if I like what I see in the mirror I will be a bit happier, or have more confidence. The weight is the biggest issue for me just now though - i just want it to come off. I just want to lose more. I know I should be grateful for any loss at all, i just felt like i done everything right last week - and the scales didnt agree! :( x

Thanks @RhaenysRocks - I have lost an entire person, you are right - but this weekend made me see that I still have stones to lose before I think I will feel normal sized and not feel so large beside other people and losing 0.5lbs in a week makes me feel like i will never get there (but i know thats ridiculous and I will get there) I dont have a goal weight, but I am hoping that in a couple of stone from now that I feel much better and wont be so upset about 0.5lb loss in a week.

I am not sure what will happen this Christmas, my husband is a very disorganised person, so as a small example, he was due to see the kids tomorrow but sent me a text at tea time to say he cant get the time off work so cant see them - everything is very last minute with him, so i dont expect him to contact about Christmas arrangements until a day or so before he plans to see them, so i will cross that bridge when i come to it. Thank you for your kindness.

I think i need to put all the weight stuff into perspective and think about where I was this time 6 months ago... and where I can maybe be in 6 months from now. x

@Mumof2studentnurse I don't think you need to accept his last minute thing when it comes to Xmas. You and the kids need to know what's what. They'll want to know where they 'll be, where Santa will find them etc. I suggest you work out what you want to do, are you seeing your parents etc and then tell him. Kids will be available on Boxing Day or whatever. My ex and I live a long way apart so we organise well in advance and kids swap over around 23/28th ish. The ones I'm without them I revel in a grown up, chilled time.

They will be with me for Christmas Eve @RhaenysRocks This is home so Santa will be coming here :) I just don't know if he will want to see them on Christmas Eve or if he will want to see them open presents on Christmas Day. Those are the things he will likely not mention until the last minute. It's difficult because to be honest, nothing he chooses will make me happy. If he asks to see them with me, it will hurt me spending time with him, playing happy families for that time - but if he doesn't ask to see them, it will upset me that he wouldn't want to spend that time with his children. It's going to be tricky, but I just keep thinking about what is best for the kids. He doesn't deserve to be a part of these memories with them - but my children do not deserve to wish their dad was there and for him not to be.
I will see what happens closer to the time. My hope is that by then i can be a good few lbs lighter and maybe feel a bit more confident and a bit better about myself. x

Obviously you have to do what you think is right for you @Mumof2studentnurse but 6 months seems a long time to be trapped feeling as you do, when medication could really help you to enjoy life. I only labour the point, as when I started, I was kicking myself over all the time I wasted feeling low, when in hindsight I didn't have to. At a size 16, you really aren't "big", and even if you were, that shouldn't be a barrier to feeling happy at least some of the time. Which suggests that the problem is more in your mind, rather than a symptom of being overweight in itself. Hope this isn't a lectury post x

It is not a lecture post @QS90 It's a very much appreciated post, so thank you :) It really has given me something to think about and I would be telling a lie to say that you are the first person to say this - I have had a couple of other people make the same suggestion.

I've moved my scales away from the bathroom and I'm going to try and take a week or 2 away from weighing myself. I need to focus on how my body feels and making choices that make me feel good rather than allowing the scale to decide if I deserve to feel good that day or not. x

Weigh and jab day
W28d1
SW - 13st11.8
CW - 10st7.8lbs (2lb loss this week)
total loss - 3st 4lbs
GW - 10st

Amazing work everyone. Where we are now to where we started is pretty amazing for 6/7 months in.

Checking in. 3.75mg dose.
SW 94kg
TW <70kg
CW 65.8kg BMI 23.4

I’m starting to look a bit too small for my frame. My hair is less thick. The weight loss continues albeit much slower.

I’m tempted just to stop as already on a small dose. But terrified I’ll get a huge appetite and regain. Then what, have to be obese to obtain it again? Or lie to the prescriber. The whole needing to be obese should be revisited.

I haven't updated for ages I realise! My sticky point did eventually unstick in August and my BMI is now wobbling around 21/22. So I'm no longer trying to lose weight and I'm just taking a dose of about 1.67mg every 10 days. That's 20 clicks of a 5mg pen. If I feel hungrier I do 25 clicks. I'm no longer weighing myself regularly or thinking about myself as on a diet or "weightloss journey" or anything. It's still a subject of conversation as now my two best friends as well as my siblings have gone on it, so it's interesting to see them go through the whole series of emotions and reflections we all did back when we were new to MJ.

I think I'll stay like this for another six months at least to try to "reset" my body to this weight and then see what my options are.

@Mumof2studentnurse i am so sorry you have had such an awful time. Please know that weight doesn’t define your or anyone else’s self worth. I think it may be an idea to think of what you would tell a close friend in your shoes, or how you would treat yourself if you were talking to your daughter in the same circumstances. Really try and show yourself some kindness. You have had such an awful time and deserve kindness and compassion. Quite often, the kindest people can struggle to extend this to themselves. Would it be helpful to generate a list of self care activities that you could work through that isn’t solely around how you look but more linked with how you feel? For example, I try and treat myself to a sauna and sea dip with a friend a couple of times a month as this is one way that I can manage self care that isn’t expensive and helps pick me up when things feel a bit much. I also love getting travel books (lonely planet) from the library and a coffee and just seeing if I can get twenty mins flick through whilst the kids are in soft play (if they let me 😂). Not big things.

sending lots of love - 8 stone in 6 months is incredible. Managing to navigate raising children after what that dick head did to you - incredible. Keep going xxx

Thank you so much for your kindness @SeaDippingandLattes Thats really good advice about considering what I would tell a friend or my daughter and it really helps me remove the emotion and apply logic to the situation instead. I know i will be ok one day and i tell myself that every single day - 'one day' just feels like its taking a long time to come.

Thats a great idea about some self-care activities not related to how I look. I am going to make a little list of things i know can help me feel better and make time to do those things. Thank you so much for taking the time to send your advice, I appreciate it :)

I hope your week is good and I really hope you are doing great on this journey too :) x

👆I think this thread is truly the best of Mumsnet. What a lovely group of people you all are. Supporting each other with such wisdom, kindness and just general humanity. It's so lovely to see! I'm really warmed by you all.

I'm so grateful I started MJ in April 2025, such random chance to stumble upon this wonderful gang. x

@Icebreakhell is there any help or advice available from your supplier? I’m nowhere near the point you are but I’ve swapped to Swift already as they have a really good reputation for support. I’ll book a call with them when I’m near stopping to talk about options - I think they’ll let you restart within a certain period if you need to. I feel like having that safety net might be really useful for me!

There’s some info on various maintenance plans here https://monj.co.uk/mounjaro-maintenance-pharmacies/

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that’s really helpful - thank you!
I’ll order in the next few weeks. Un

SW 16st 8.2lb BMI 43.2
CW 13st 1.4lb BMI 34.2
TW ?? 10st 7lb
(Have adjusted BMI now to account for a 1" shrinkage ☹️)

Good news that the increase to 3.75mg has given me a little boost in the form of a bit more appetite suppression and 4.4lbs has come off over the last 2 weeks. I might be able to cope with the coming snuggly season if it continues.

Had some blood tests done and cholesterol is now raised. Think this can happen with weight loss although thought the MJ is supposed to lower it? Diet is pretty good but not really tracking saturated fat. HbA1c is perfect so no longer worrying about diabetes.

Agree with PP, you are a lovely lot - don't want you all to disappear now lots of you are at goal so please keep updating. It's so helpful to know what lies ahead in maintenance.

Agree with others that this is such a lovely supportive thread.

have started two weeks of half term and am hoping it is better than the summer which I barely survived. We are going away for the second week so should be a lot easier.

-2.4lbs for me this week.

I need to purchase a few new items winter coat, decent raincoat, boots but I hate spending money on myself. Also need a few new bits for work which I don’t mind getting ruined (I’m a nanny).

hope everyone has a good weekend.

Week 28, my third week of 2.5 (I was on 5, then 3.75)
Ive not made good choices this week, a combination of a weekend away with friends (no alcohol but lots of carb heavy food) and having stressful week with illness (Covid for me, a new illness for one of my DC)
yesterday I ate some chocolate because I fancied it, but then I couldn’t stop and ate more even though I didn’t really enjoy the first bit that much, it definitely felt like my old way of eating my emotions completely unmindfully!

I am at a healthy bmi now so I’m just 2.5-ing it until my pen runs out, hoping to lose a few extra lbs for a buffer, but I am worried about slipping into old habits once I finish.
I think exercise could be the key here as I tend to eat healthier when I’m putting the work in at the gym, I definitely need to tone certain areas.

I agree this thread has been so supportive and it’s been great to read about the different thoughts and feelings we’ve all experienced in the last few months, I’m happy to keep on updating even if it’s not as regularly.

SW: 207lbs
CW: 152lbs
loss of 55lbs in 28 weeks

Hi everyone,

I weighed in this morning after a week away and 4 meals out (although 2 were eating on ferries rather than nice meals!!)

SW 13st 7
CW 10st 5
GW 10st 7

BMI 22.7

Very pleased not to have gained while on holiday. I reduced my dose down to 3.75mg. I would like to hit 10st 4 to give me a buffer but don’t want to keep losing - I’ve definitely got some hair loss and I’m tired and a bit flat on 5mg. I also can’t drink at all so I’m officially tapering down now. Plan for next week is to eat well, lots of protein and cycle to work every day. I really want to focus on toning now. I am delighted by how everything is going but I’m nervous about increasing cals - I feel like I don’t really know how to do it without adding in more ‘treats’… maybe I could reintroduce cheddar I’ve hardly had any since starting MJ.

@Mumof2studentnurse I’m sorry you’ve been having such a tough time. You’ve done incredibly well and I think you will start to see the changes more easily now your weight is lower. I started at 13st 7 with a similar height to you and once I hit 12st I swear I could see every pound melting away. I’m trying to do more self care stuff too. I got my hair coloured and get my nails done regularly which helps my self esteem a little bit. I agree with the others though - we are so much more than a number on the scales and you sound like an amazingly strong woman and conscientious mother which is so much better than being skinny.

I love coming onto this thread too and am also hoping we all stick around 🌷

I agree it’s a lovely thread 🥰

on the back of the bra discussion I did a boob or bust re measure. Have been wearing a 34E but post 2.5 stone loss am now measuring as a 32F or FF 😮. Just wondering how others got on?

having spent 4 weeks on a plateau I suddenly had 2lbs off today 🤷‍♀️ taking me into the 23 bMI range which was nice. Not sure it will last but lovely to FINALLY see some movement.

have a lovely week all 😊