@evilharpy @Mounjaropen Well if you insist!!
I'm a reasonably good-looking woman (if I dare say so myself... but modelled in my teens so suppose it's not objectively a lie), however, being obese, while men still took an interest, they probably treated me as someone you can mess around a little bit, etc.
In fact, probably what really pushed me over the edge to lose weight was that someone I was really into wasn't into me, even though we got on amazing, and I thought 'you know what, I'm going to have a huge glow-up, and you will have to see me daily and explain to your friends that it was you that turned me down'. So far, so childish, I know... But...
This summer I'm a sporty size 8-10 with a deep tan and lovely biceps... And, low and behold, every time I've been out dancing, the attractive single guy in the group singles me out and dances with me all night, tries to get my number etc... Funny they didn't do this when I was bigger, eh? But it has felt fun being out in Spain or Italy, and being that woman at the end of the night that the gorgeous Mediterranean guy that women are eyeing up is slow dancing with. It's also been really funny how previously I thought I should be looking at guys 10 years older, whereas now the guys that chat me up are younger than me and objectively very handsome.
Equally, guys from years ago, we're talking previous decade, are suddenly inviting me to things, say 'we should catch up' etc. This will all be off the back of my profile picture (head + shoulders), as generally I don't post on social media. Heck, I've even been chatted up by a lady!
I am quite amused by this... As I really thought that bigger women and curves were all the rage now, being a healthy weight would have no impact on my romantic life etc... But apparently 'shallo Hal' is still very much a thing...
You'll notice that I use the words 'funny' and 'amused' throughout the post as it makes me laugh more than anything. I almost feel like I'm one of those lizard people, where people treat me like I'm the best thing since sliced bread, and I get to go home, pull my mask off, release and evil laugh and go 'hahaha, tricked you, I'm not the skinny girl you thought I was' 😈
For me the actual benefits are still being able to do lots of sports without suffering and not gving it a 2nd thought, and embracing my passion for fashion more freely and confidently, as well as long-term health outlook and much better quality fuel for my body.