@Mysticmaiden I’m so sorry to read that you’re struggling too. Do you find it comes and goes? It sure does in my job. Calm for a while and then it kicks off again.
I worked in the NHS for a while so I can relate a bit. I always felt that nobody listened to us. We would all be screaming out for support, lots of promises would be made… and then nothing would happen. Constantly chasing our tails. Clinical v non clinical arguments. I felt genuinely awful towards the end because I knew the patients weren’t getting the care they needed. Thank you for doing what you do; it’s incredibly difficult within that structure.
Your poor friend. Going back to the NHS, they are great in an emergency but the preventative care is just not good enough. I hope she’s ok and recovers. You are a good friend.
I have a relatively active job but don’t do any specific exercise. I hate exercise, always have. Never been into a gym and don’t plan to! We have a 7 acre garden that enables me to do a lot of walking and faffing about outside! Sorry, sound like a wanker saying that but it is what it is.
I don’t calorie count, don’t have breakfast, have some form of protein and salad for lunch and then dinner is whatever we are eating as a family. Spaghetti bolognese, chicken curry, jacket potatoes with tuna and salad, salmon with potatoes and vegetables, chicken burgers… standard family meals. I eat lots of fruit. I am pretty disinterested in food though, don’t ever think about it and spend a lot of time opening the fridge and closing it again!
Re your current situation, I think you should cut yourself some slack. You’ve got a very busy life, 2-3hr commute, full time, stressful job, (husband? Children? Pets? Elderly parents?) worried about friends… plus, we’re women so we have all that hormonal shit going on.
Don’t know about you but I always have quite a heavy mental load going on. Right now I can see there is a tea stain on the wall, a cadburys wispa wrapper under the table (which arsehole did that?), my son is shouting on the PlayStation, my daughter just asked for roast potatoes, my husbands nose is whistling, and I’ve remembered that Amazon have left a parcel on the wall so I better get it… it’s just a lot, isn’t it? Plus the thought of work tomorrow and all the bollocks that comes along with that. Then we have a function here in July and then I’m thinking ahead to the rest of the year… OH GOD STOP!
Some weeks are just a bit shit and I’m sure that is reflected on the scales. I detest those weeks where you KNOW you’ve done well but still the bloody scales haven’t moved. Infuriating.
And breathe!
You know, I found 12.5 a bit meh actually. How long do you have left of this 12.5? I think there might be a shortage of 12.5/15 so maybe see if you can order a 15 just in case?
You’ve clearly got a lot on your plate so I don’t think you should add any extra pressure on yourself with exercise. 2/3hrs commute plus 8-9hr work day… then coming home to go back out again to do some wanky gym session… no no no no no no. Chill. Keep doing what you are doing. If you’re in a deficit, you will lose. If you’re unsure, you could always see if you need to make your deficit a bit bigger? Right now though I would just concentrate on getting through today and then tomorrow and so on. Keep drinking tons of water (I think this has really helped me), eat good nutritious food, prioritise everything (that wispa wrapper can fucking stay there all week for example) and just take it a day at a time.
We’ve got a lovely group here and we’ll all get through these highs/lows/frustrations together. Nothing lasts forever; good or bad - and that’s a positive thing! Everything always works out in the end. Lots of love x