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Bride having affair

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WorthyRoseWriter · 25/06/2025 13:32

Need advice…I’m organising a hen and have learnt the bride is having an affair, and she’s had previous incidents of cheating on him in the past. Groom is clueless. A mutual friend told me and swore me to secrecy. But I feel sick planning the hen, making all of our friends (working class mums) fork out for this weekend away, take time off work, sort childcare AND cover the cost of the bride knowing this. Plus the wedding is abroad, so we’ll all be paying for that too. Don’t think I’ve got it in me to sit through the ceremony. Quite a few random friends know (none of the hen friends, different group) and even a couple of her relatives. Feel so sorry for him. But if I pull out of everything it will raise so many questions, including from the bride. I’m kind of hoping it all comes to a head and he either finds out or she calls it off but it doesn’t look like that’s happening. I’m not going to be the one to tell him btw. What shall I do :(

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BoomerAllTheWay · 06/07/2025 22:23

Send an anonymous note to the groom. Problem solved.

OneQuirkyCat · 05/08/2025 16:42

The poor guy, that’s horrible.

As you’re (currently) MOH can you talk to her, find out where her head is at? Should she be getting married, is she planning to tell her H2B? Such a tricky situation for you - I’m sorry. Telling the H2B is probably her job though, rather than yours. I’d certainly step down as MOH though.

It happened to me, in the sense that I planned the expensive hen do, had all these mums arrange childcare for the weekend away etc… but it wasn’t until we were all in Cyprus for the wedding itself that the B2B admitted to me that she was having an affair. I tried to talk her out of the affair, suggested it was a last-minute wobble etc - no joy.

She dumped the groom while we were all away on the wedding holiday, a couple of days before the big day. All very confusing and upsetting for the parents, grandparents, the couple’s little girl etc. Not to mention an extremely uncomfortable holiday for all friends and family for the rest of the holiday, particularly for the poor guy who had flown out their believing he was going to get married.

I really wish I had known in advance, as I would have most definitely stepped down from duties and remove myself from the situation. I still can’t believe she had the brass neck to have a hen do, a wedding abroad etc knowing what she knew and what the rest of us didn’t.

Good luck OP xxx

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