Oh OP, this is making me a bit panicky. Are you sure this is the right thing to do? However much he wants to be with you, you are effectively taking control of the rest of his life. He will have to be more than laid back but incredibly passive to accept this. It’s a bit disrespectful really.
I think you shouldn’t wait until Valentines Day to do a themed reveal. I think this is too big a decision to make it forced and contrived like that. I think you should have a chat to him about it asap. Then hopefully he will be on board and you can get on with enjoying planning the event.
What if he can’t get leave from work?
What if there is some people he wants to invite but that decision has been taken out of his hands.
what will he say to his friends about it? Will he be embarrassed to tell them? I’m not sure it’s the cutesy ‘guess what my fiancé has done now lol’ thing that you think it is. It’s a lighthearted joke but will he be a pissed off that he is the kind of butt of it because it’s not really light hearted. It sounds a bit like something characters would do in a zany sitcom.
does everyone invited really know except him? I would worry that people were sniggering at me a bit.
And they are all cool with it?
I guess the biggest thing to prepare yourself for is if he says no. What will you do? Will you light heartedly accept his refusal? Or will it cause problems in your relationship?
it’s such a gamble. Are you sure it will be taken in good humour that you are envisioning?