This is one of the main reasons I initially had sympathy for both Harry and Meghan.
It’s clear that there is so much that he didn’t tell her prior to them getting married, because he genuinely didn’t know it wasn’t the norm. The RF way of life was all he had ever known at that point, and his path had been so smoothly glided by the minions around him, he thought it was normal, given he’s not the sharpest tool in the box.
As an example, to Harry it was standard behaviour that the RF observe the hierarchy behind closed doors as well as in public. Meghan telling him this was odd, then him allowing her to parody her curtsy to the Queen on Oprah illustrates his lack of understanding of how the RF are perceived by the general public.
I’d bet there are thousands of examples like this which show up daily in their lives. Meghan being American meant she had no real understanding of British culture or what it meant to be a woman marrying into the RF, other than wearing a crown and expensive dresses (£50k couture gown for her engagement pictures?!?).
Where they lost me is that instead of listening to their advisors, the two of them only appear to take advice from each other. The pair of them are an incendiary and toxic combination; Meghan who is estranged from every member of her family other than her mother, and Harry, who is on his way to successfully estranging himself from his family due to his behaviour since getting into this relationship, where his whole life before it seems to have been discarded as bad (other than the privileged bits!).
The two of them can’t seem to comprehend that the RF was built on hierarchy, and for it to function successfully, it has to continue that way. Harry is the equivalent of Andrew, Anne and Edward in his generation, but really most comparable to Andrew in status as he has no Royal role, of his own choice.
I’ve said it on previous threads, but mention it again here due to its outcome. The worst thing Princess Diana did was to treat William and Harry as equal, as they never would be. The kindest thing she and the rest of the family could have done would have been to prepare Harry for a life of supporting William from his position as younger brother, and to defer to him in status.
The behaviour Harry exhibits now is as a result of this equal treatment started by Princess Diana, and continued by a RF who were paralysed by how to treat Harry and William after her death for many years afterwards. Harry cannot comprehend that he is not the same as William.
William was extremely lucky in meeting Kate; and to think he nearly threw it all away when he dumped her a few years into their relationship. He’s so fortunate that she took him back. Her and her family have shown him what it means to be a loving supportive family, albeit one which also has huge material wealth (self-made). I suspect with the support of his in-laws he is raising his DC in a similar way to the Middleton children, which can be no bad thing given the way the whole of the Middleton family have conducted themselves since becoming close to the RF.