Asking for Westminster Abbey, whether it was Harry or Meghan (I’m inclined to think the former) would have been all about “we’re brothers, grandsons of the Queen, we’re equals, whatever was good enough for William is good enough for me”. Judging by Spare, Meghan will have heard Harry whinging on about this from the beginning of their courtship, and of course it would have suited her to seek equality with William and Kate.
That’s why they have always and continue to reference members of the RF by nicknames and/or by their relationships to them (your brother, his grandmother, granny, Willy etc). They want to put everyone on the same level as them. “Modernize” the RF through some sort of democratic change.
All well and good and even laudable in modern day Britain…..except for this one family. You kind of get it with Harry, he has never had a choice. But Meghan chose this, as a grown woman (not far off double Diana’s age when she chose it). And she continues to choose it with the whole “I’m well aware young girls see me as a real-life Princess”, “linked not ranked” but also “Meghan, Duchess of Sussex” at every turn, securing titles for her DC because it’s their “birthright”. The sheer hypocrisy, so obvious. I don’t know how they expect anyone to take them seriously.