The thing that strikes me most is that respect is earned, not expected.
Sophie, Camilla, and even Kate all took time laying the groundwork. They’ve spent time getting to know their causes, doing the grunt work of opening car parks on a rainy day in the arse end of nowhere, listening to other people talk. And as a result there is respect from the public and the press.
meghan didn’t seem to understand that she had to work her way up. She would have to do the boring (yet crucial) aspects such as opening a community centre or a men’s shed, and in return she would be rewarded with the royal premieres. Again, this comes back time and time again to Harry being a shit husband.