I’m too tired to explain it to you again tonight Mycat , but @MrsMaxDeWinter did explain it all very well, and much better than I can.
I will l just say, When you grow up in a colonised country you learn two ways of being, two ways of moving through life. You have your own culture - and for some colonised people it’s what has survived of their own culture (colonisation is not a kind process) - but you also have to learn to live and breath and move through the coloniser’s culture. It’s profound.