Who on earth thought it was a good idea to tell Harry that his own Father called him "The Spare"

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On the day he was born!

It seems really vindictive to me.

You can't tell a child that and not expect it to damage them for a very long time.

Do we actually know it was said, though? Because in her book, Diana was pretty damning of Charles for dismissing Harry because he wasn't a girl and had red hair. But she never mentioned anything about Charles saying he was a spare. Nor did she say that he said their marriage was over. Instead she said she felt the marriage was over. Claiming that he said the marriage was done and he was returning to Camilla would have sounded cruel and would have fitted her narrative better. So why not say it?

I just find these details that don't up frustrating.

You seriously do not think that William, the future king was not treated differently????

Somedays it might be a joke.

Otherdays it might be a nasty putdown.

Some days "are you actually my son" might be a joke.

Otherdays it might be a nasty putdown.

I think it is very difficult for us to say, with confidence, what it was and what it was not.

Exactly this. He was definitely treated differently, it was recorded somewhere I read. So William always was first, eg offered sandwiches first at lunch or whatever

Yes but siblings are often treated differently. To look at it from a healthy perspective you have to unpick what’s just standard sibling grievances (that can be without foundation when looked at rationally) and what’s solely down to royal practise.

Reports of Harry being the Queens ‘favourite’ with similar reports about Diana’s preferences tell a different story to the one pushed by Harry.