And no, not all incidents of violence are abuse.
Not all incidents of violence are even wrong.
There are 1000s of nuances and circumstances in every situation which would indicate whether an incident was wrong or abusive or not.
Of course the response would be horror and revulsion if this was being reported between W & C, or W & M, and if you can't tell the difference between the two it's you who has a serious problem with abuse against women.
Not those of us who can tell the difference between argy bargy between brothers and male violence towards women.