Kate Middleton - Lucky Life

[MrsMaxDeWinter]

Kate really has had the life of a lot of women's complete fantasies hasn't she?

Born into a well off middle-class family

Received private education. Hobbies. Makes great connections at university eg William

Financially supported into her late 20s and beyond

Works for a few weeks at Jigsaw then never worked another job again.

Pictured clubbing and falling out of taxis when most her age were working thankless jobs.

Can pay for cosmetic surgery eg Botox and hair treatments. Has amazing clothes.

Marries a prince.

Lives in a luxurious beautiful houses paid for by the inherited wealth of her grandmother in law, her father in law, and by taxpayers.

Never done a boring / basic job in her life, has no financial worries ever.

On paper it is so much better than my life !!

I've had to grind my way out of a poor upbringing, educated on scholarships, and get into higher pay brackets like most do!

@stuntbubbles i don't believe it would be easy, as the heir to leave, but it's not impossible - kings have abdicated before and there is always someone willing to take their place. Certainly if you look at our royal family, there are plenty of people within it who are happy to be working royals and take the tough with the smooth. Presumably because there's more smooth than rough. Sophie Wessex springs to mind - she knows what a normal life is like (she worked in PR iirc) and clearly prefers life as a Countess!
Williams younger children can certainly live private lives if they choose - Harry could have, if he'd not gone down the American celebrity route and selling his soul to Oprah snd Netflix. I'm sure his family wouldn't have been thrilled, but I suspect they would have accepted it eventually and quietly supported him because most people love their children and siblings. They certainly would have preferred it to what is currently happening.
It's a dysfunctional family and it comes with certain expectations . But it also comes with many benefits.

I assume you're posting this in response to the MM thread.

The point is - Kate doesn't bitch and moan and sell stories while painting herself as a victim.

The nice thing is she seems happy and enjoying her life. You can have a privileged life and be miseerable and/or entitled. I'm thinking about my old boss and his very unpleasant DDs.

I don't think she has an easy life at all. Whilst she may have had a nice upbringing, from the moment she was linked to William her life changed.

She will always be scrutinised now. Whatever she says, does, wears, how she behaves, her body language - will be picked apart by people.

My personal opinion of her (and knowing a handful of people who've met her) is that she's a down to earth woman who wants to do good. She's a great hands on mother, she works non stop for various charities, and she does it with a smile on her face.

I think she's a real asset to the Royal Family.

No, she just sends the 'palace source' to moan on her behalf.

@nookierookie

Well firstly we don’t tend to hear much from Kate that isn’t scripted so we have no knowledge of how she feels about the life she leads or whether she has any ‘complaints’. This passivity may appeal to some, I’m sure, and will undoubtedly have helped her transition into our archaic royal institution but I don’t consider it an admirable trait. I also don’t equate refuting false narratives about oneself to ‘complaining’. Whether Kate acknowledges her early and current advantages is neither here nor there – at least not to me. What the OP has sort to do is raise the case of hypocrisy by asking the question of why one individual’s privilege is acknowledged and accepted without criticism, while another’s is met with extreme censure. So far no one has been able to successfully and honestly answer this question. Because the disagreement is merely partisan. And – is so often the case when MM is thrown into discussions – a distraction from more serious wrongdoings/issues that ought to be our primary concern.

She does have a job
Gosh, it must be tricky to handle a job on top of her royal frolics. Hopefully her boss is understanding and she has some kind of flexitime arrangement.

correction: sought - not that I’m being pedantic 😅 But we don't need anymore distractions.

@Marulatree

But isn't that the whole point. Kate doesn't speak out, because she knows overall that her life is pretty cushy and she is best served keeping a very low profile about it, whereas Meghan doesn't seem to acknowledge publicly that actually her life is pretty cushy by objective standards.

Both women have been subject to unacceptable press intrusion, focus on their family life etc. One complains, one doesn't.

Frankly, if Kate spent more time complaining about it, this would make the case for republicanism much stronger, which she knows. People would drop her like a shot if she said, repeatedly, effectively "you guys paid for my wedding, I have palaces and staff, but I hate my life and the intrusion that I get. I want to be celebrated, I want to speak my mind on things. This is just awful". People would think that Kate was spoilt.

I'm not saying that it is right. I'd be quite happy to see the end of the royal family (it's just what you replace it with that gives me pause for thought). But the reality is that if you give a set of people massive massive unearned privilege on the basis of circumstance, you don't want them to complain about it.

On this score, it is actually Prince Harry that is the biggest moaner and lots of people have cut him a lot of slack because he lost his mum. They are now fed up with the narrative - everyone is entitled to have difficulties, everyone can struggle. But frankly, he also needs to grow up - there are millions of people whose lives are a struggle and who don't have his privilege.

I take it that on mn we're not allowed to mention the thing about her marriage that would have 100% LTBs on a relationship thread?

His wearing a velvet jacket over a turtleneck is fair game, though.

Me too, a round of (lucky) applause for OP

Exactly this. OP you're just sounding very jealous I'm afraid

The only thing I envy Kate is her clothes budget.

So much of her life in terms of always looking the part and saying the right thing must be a bit like acting and the lines blurring, between Catherine the person and the role The Princess Of Wales.

Even though our papers don't print unauthorised photos of the children, other countries certainly do, Australia for one. Stories of the nanny having to pull the children out of a park because of paparazzi,

All the scrutiny on the children, their behaviour, their outfits. The Daily Mail Kate's Cuties nonsense.

I don't think she had a gun to her head no, but I don't think you really understand til it's actually happening to you.

They at least had a BIL/SILin the boat with them for support til they didn't and it must feel like betrayal

Totally agree. And won't being in a high profile spat with one of the oldest institutions in the world - and a family which is nearly all that your husband has known - risk damaging your own and his mental health again?

I'm not a psychotherapist, and perhaps someone on this board could advise, but is conflict and risk-taking good for the psyche and good for personal wellbeing? Shouldn't Meghan focus on staying well, in every respect, for the sake of her children. Isn't peace and reconciliation good for emotional growth?

Horrible for their kids that M and H are intent on risking making enemies. What a horrible example of having healthy relationships.

Kate turns up and does the job. She has been doing it for most of her adult life. In return, she deserves the perks. The difference is that Meghan took the perks and gave up the job. If she pays back in full then it is ok to complain for the rest of her life if she can keep it going. Otherwise, she is just greedy and fuelling the rumours about her being a mean girl.

This!! Dear god I have been a single parent on benefits and I still would never have swapped for her life. Boring, no pulling a sickie with the media speculating, being slagged off by people she has never met... the list is endless.

No thank you!

I think

She wanted it badly and knew exactly what she was getting into.

People saying they wouldn’t want this life have a real lack of imagination. Must be major perks in it since Prince Andrew tried so hard to hang onto it and even MM and HM wanted to be ‘half in’ (ie enjoy the perks). Also there were some foreign royals recently stripped of their titles—they definitely weren’t too happy about it!

Some folk are luckier than others .
You have a well paid job
You live in a prosperous safe place
Billions on this planet do not
Do you feel guilty because you are luckier than billions of other folk?

Wouldn't swap my life for hers for anything. I have a nice home, I'm married to a good man who adores me, I do a job I love, and I have healthy, happy kids who aren't growing up in the eye of the world's media.

Nah, she can keep her gilded cage.

But that's the thing @MadameSzyszkoBohusz . You have a nice life. Plenty of people don't have what you have and so the life Megan and Harry are moaning about, would be a dream come true to millions!
Obviously, no one has a perfect life all the time and no doubt there are aspects of royal life which are tricky. But there is also so much which is great and there should be some appreciation of that.

And does MM think we all came firm in the last shower if she expects us to believe for one minute that she knew nothing about Prince Harry and didn't google the TF like mad!

Personally I think she does a boring job every day. I’d find it so tedious. But she must think the benefits outweigh the negatives

What I envy more than anything of the super rich is access to the best health care/ doctors there are.

She doesn't seem do many boring jobs - she does work she's really passionate about like all her early years and maternal outcomes work. Plus her sporty commitments - the sailing regattas and presenting the trophies at Wimbledon each year don't seem boring at all!