That's exactly it. Carole and her mother before her had a more typical upbringing. Comfort wasn't guaranteed.
The concept of noblesse oblige guarantees that there is a pay back. Royals spend much of their time understanding and tuning in to people who do mundane jobs and voluntary work. They focus on the shared values and the community enhancing attitudes. Those who do appreciate the Royal work recognise something genuine in what they are doing.
In a sense, and living aside a public school boarding education the like of which Kate had, Royal life does shape its members to be empathetic and appreciative of other lives. Harry was said to be very skilled at being empathetic and approachable and respectful, whilst on official visits. One poster write on a thread how good he was with her child when they were very ill. Partly because of his upbringing, I expect, Harry is said to have told people that he wanted to live in Africa and have Archie running around in the village with the other children there. He appreciated core, wholesome values. And he liked simplicity. A poster added a link to an article which covered this information about what he had said about living in Africa.
Something changed and he is living in a 14 million pound home, which is grossly too big for his family, polluting the planet and indulging materialistic whims with £1,000 cashmere throws draped over the chairs.
Generally, royals don't feel sorry for themselves. Their upbringing gives them a sense of being fortunate, more fortunate than others, and needing to be strong and uncomplaining because of this. They will be looked after financially, so they must keep going in recognition of their advantages. This attitude is largely summed up in the word: ' service'.
I would not like to be Eugenie and Beatrice. It is not their fault, what their dad might have done, but they have to be aware of him being slated and ridiculed every day. Their fashion sense and, once upon a time their beauty , was derided in the press with journalists slagging off their clothes and what these didn' t do to enhance their looks. Their mother had equally been dragged for being hopeless with money and vulgar. They don't do documentaries justifying themselves and dragging their detractors. It's not the done thing.
In this country, we don't expect royals to moan about their lot in life. Public school life has something of an echo of that. Teenagers put in huge hours revising, because it is expected, and lead quite duty bound lives, but are brought up to believe it will be worth it.
It's a shock for a lot of people to see Harry and Meghan moaning their heads off.
Can't you have a life of service which just involves service and which doesn't mean you have to put yourself at the front of what you say as a visual example of having been wronged?
The government, long ago, ensured that the British royalty has no actual power, so you don't need to attack the Royal Family to ensure that nobody in Britain is going to be racially abused. The royals don't have the actual power to harm anyone. We have race equality laws in Britain. Any grievances ought to be pursued via these.