Puppy changed mind 😭

[Mummy289]

After saving months for a £2000 Maltipoo I’m getting cold feet. Come here for different prospectives so please don’t hate me but tell me the truth, as I feel like a horrendous person..

Puppy is from a breeder, saw her at a week, lovely put deposit down. Very excited…
Puppy is 4 weeks old and still has the pinkest nose I have ever seen, I have googled the breed with pink noses and as shallow as I am it wasn’t something I really wanted and after saving month for a particular breed feeling a little upset. Mainly upset with my self that it bothers me.

I’m a previous dog owner last dog passed away earlier this year at 15. Dogs are fantastic and hard work, have a family and wanted like our previous dog to do everything together but worried about the amount of sun the dog will take before getting burned..

Im not fussed about liver colour, some pink etc. This is pig pink, dog is white too….

I know this is what you get for a cross breeds. I feel so many people have cross breeds and it’s not happened to them.
He is a beautiful put, but I’m concerned to get over the pig nose esp as his not cheap.

Presumably she didn't have three children 15-odd years ago, though - very few rescues will re-home to families with young children.

I can’t be the only person that would look how a pet looks. Even cats there are different breeds, why bother is no one cared?

Yea I didn’t. My first rescue was my uncles dog that was a rescue but he could no longer keep as was living at gosh.
we had her the last few years of life.
however when I lived with my parents we had 2 rescues. Both mixed both lovely.
our issue is the younger one. And before then when we looked (rspca) they literally told me we would never get one and they had a massive waiting list, really sus as only had pure breeds too.

Is the Breeder a Show Kennel
Show Kennels Breed for show and sell the remained of the litter as pets But will keep back maybe 2 for show .

No OP most normal people aren’t about how it looks (which is probably a good thing because I think most of these poodle crosses are quite ugly!) what they look for is the right breed/cross breeds/rescue dog that fits in to their way of life.

People live different lives, there are sedentary dogs that suit sedentary people, active dogs that suit active people, working dogs for those that need a dog to do a job. I think for most people looks come quite far down the list

To be perfectly honest you get behavioural quirks with dogs from breeders, getting a dog from a breeder isn’t a guarantee of a ‘perfect’ issue free pup.
We have had/have three rescue dogs and every single one of them has been/ was very different in the way they settled in. We don’t regret any of them.
My stepson paid a fortune for a dog from a breeder, as did another dog walker I knew. One of our rescues certainly had a better temperament than the dog walker’s dog that came from a breeder.

Why wouldn’t you want to give a dog in a rescue centre a loving home?
You wouldn’t reject a potential partner simply because they had previous relationships, every one of which would make them the person that you were attracted to.

Well we don't know that do we ? she just siad that she has had a few rescues. I am sure as she has adopted before they would know situation etc. so would have a fog suitable for her. there are rescues that do home with children all yoi have to do is your research. fostering and volunteering helps aswell working with the charities.

I don’t care. I don’t care in the least. I have had countless cats in my life, and I’ve never seen any of them before agreeing to adopt. I love cats. I don’t love a particular aesthetic to make my life look picture perfect. I just simply love cats, I love what they bring to my life and I love that I can give them a safe and loving home. I don’t care if they’ve got 3 legs, two heads, 1 eye and I don’t care if their coat doesn't fit in with my colour scheme at home.
Thankfully, my DS and DH are the same as me. Just animal lovers

can't be a show kennel if they are breeding unregisterable crosses

that's only one rescue in the whole country 100s others to look. also the pounds aswell
reach out and volunteer with them and Foster too helps big time

I've been there, OP. If you aren't ready, you aren't ready, and that's ok. No puppy will be your previous dog - they're an addition to the family rather than a replacement - so if you need more time, take the time you need.

not necessarily read the link I have posted

It sounds like you have done loads of research. We couldn’t find a rescue either. None of the places we contacted about dogs or cats even got back to us! I assume it’s because of younger children. But it’s a shame.

We have a Maltipoo and she has all the good traits that you mention. Just in case though the downsides are:

She is very needy and even after a 2 hour walk still wants to be entertained.
She has loads of separation anxiety and it’s difficult to leave her in the house… although this has got better with a feeling safe routine that we do.
She is very clever and this can make her a little ‘naughty’.
She doesn’t eat dog food… she basically starves herself for three days before she’ll eat anything that isn’t chicken or steak! I don’t feed her chicken or steak but plenty of owners fall into that trap.
She is very mouthy. Doesn’t bite down but gets her teeth involved a lot.
Eats pencils, pens, sliders, sandals, dirty tissues, some rough fabrics, bites wooden furniture, eats wicker and rattan if she can.
She is tiny and agile and so will jump over and on everything. She will not follow the rules unless you are in the room and she is a tiny quiet ninja so she can sneak to other rooms to get what she wants easily.
She learns what she wants to learn and what benefits her!
She loved a wee on a duvet cover and toilet training took forever, every now and then she’ll have a nostalgia wee on the carpet.
She hates the rain so will choose to poop inside rather than stay in the garden to do her business.
She has a very sensitive stomach so as well as not eating, she will get a bad tummy a lot if she snaffles the wrong thing - cat biscuits, anything with carrot.

But… children love her and she loves children, and if you go to the right park you can let a gaggle of kids entertain her and just chill!
She costs very little in food.
She is portable and adorable.
She loves everyone and everything.

The teddy bear look does need constant grooming so actually our Maltipoo gets a lot of close cuts instead! She’s still gorgeous though and the tail!!! So cute!

However, if you aren’t feeling the bond, and are worried about the little pink nose cutie then it’s not too late.

I think they meant that you allowed the dog to fall so far into dementia when there was no need

My last lad , the one who didnt have my whole heart, also developed dementia , as well as gone blind and deaf. Luckily he never went to the stage of soiling himself, because the day he refused to step of the doorstep for his walk, which whilst were very short, getting shorter by the day, he still wanted. That day was the day I made the vets appointment, He had had enough and it was time to let him pass.

Comes across as a bit insulting and shallow plus £2k for a crossbreed. I hope your kids don't read what you said. But then maybe you touched a nerve, and I need to chill. I think need to leave getting a new dog for a while.

I think you are right to step back and really think about your decision before you commit to the pup .
Many owners regret getting the puppy after the pup exhibits normal puppy behaviour
You can't know how the dog's personality will evolve, as we don't when babies are born!
You have considered the dogs needs and how it can fit in with your life as your late dog did
I'm wondering if you are fixated on the dogs nose as you're still grieving your previous dog and no other could match up with them, which is completely normal.
Perhaps this just isn't the right time for you as a family.

Thank you. My faith in the human race has been restored somewhat.
I swore off cats after our last two (of six) had me in bits at the vet. But no doubt…
Same with the dogs, you provide a good and loving home for an animal that previously didn’t have one and your life is made so much better in so many different ways.

I will admit to buying a brown settee for our brown dog, but only after he ate the previous three sofas. Funnily he didn’t eat the brown one.

A potential partner (if I were a single parent) I'd keep separate from my children for a long while before I introduced them. This obviously isn't possible with a rescue dog.

Of course there are many lovely rescue dogs and not all will have behavioural issues. I spent a long time researching breeds before I picked my pup as wanted to do all I could to avoid certain traits/behaviour. It was of course not a given, but I made sure I had a good chance of getting the qualities I wanted, then I could train to enforce these. With a rescue, it wouldn't always be apparent immediately of any issues and I'm just not willing to subject my children to this.

@Mummy289

of course most people do, ignore the wails of shallow etc

there sre loads of dogs. Whether you buy from breeder or rescue one, why shouldn't part of that decision be how they look?

id never have a hairless dog 🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️

@suki1964 my dog still enjoyed her walks and food. Also she always had colitis which never helped so did have issues any way on and off. The vet had new things to keep trying and we were having tests to make sure it was nothing else. It god bad towards the end and obviously she mad the difficult choice. After trying nappies etc.
yes I was after a certain looking dog, but all the judgements that have come off this,
-won’t walk the dog
-won’t have time for the dog (yet I had time to care for a high need elderly dog)
-will give it up as to much world
-and now put my previous dog through torture not putting her down sooner!
-not researched
-won’t have money to pay out (trust me paid thousands to try and make my older pup better and see what was wrong).
All these judgments from a post asking about looks when buying a dog.

@AutumnLeaves24 I’m with you would never have a hairless dog. I feel really awful now. 😭

My guess is that you’re still mourning your old dog so subconsciously have found a reason to reject this one. That’s fine, just tell the breeder and think again next year or the year after.

I won't take on a rescue because I have elderly cats and need a breed with a low prey drive. I also suffer anxiety so I need a calm breed that isn't bouncing off the walls all day long. I wouldn't cope with a high energy dog or a yapper. With a purebred puppy from a reputable breeder, I know what I am going to get.

I'm glad that having rescue dogs has worked out well for you but not all of us are suited to a rescue with unknown history.

It's partly as you mentioned it's a poodle cross. On MN only thick, callous airheads buy these 🙄

@GFBurger omg thank you! That’s amazing!
the food thing would drive me a little potty 🤣. Have 4 fussy kids so can imagine this happening with the puppy too 🤣.
The puppy stage was so long ago for me. Forgot the fun of it.
My older dog did anything for food which helped with training but can’t imagine how difficult it is if not interested in food. Thanks for your comment. :)