Puppy changed mind 😭

[Mummy289]

After saving months for a £2000 Maltipoo I’m getting cold feet. Come here for different prospectives so please don’t hate me but tell me the truth, as I feel like a horrendous person..

Puppy is from a breeder, saw her at a week, lovely put deposit down. Very excited…
Puppy is 4 weeks old and still has the pinkest nose I have ever seen, I have googled the breed with pink noses and as shallow as I am it wasn’t something I really wanted and after saving month for a particular breed feeling a little upset. Mainly upset with my self that it bothers me.

I’m a previous dog owner last dog passed away earlier this year at 15. Dogs are fantastic and hard work, have a family and wanted like our previous dog to do everything together but worried about the amount of sun the dog will take before getting burned..

Im not fussed about liver colour, some pink etc. This is pig pink, dog is white too….

I know this is what you get for a cross breeds. I feel so many people have cross breeds and it’s not happened to them.
He is a beautiful put, but I’m concerned to get over the pig nose esp as his not cheap.

@Mummy289 you just sound like you’re not ready yet to me. Maybe think how you would feel if the breeder backed out? Would you feel relieved?

@Supermand thank you.

Keeping ANY dog separated from your children, rescue or otherwise prior to an introduction would be tough.
Also most rescues that I have used do home checks and allow you to meet up more than once.
What do you think decent rescue centres do? Just hand over the dog?

Wow.

What if your dog lost it fur because of disease? Maltese are really prone to hypothyroidism which, amongst other things, can cause excessive hair loss. Which, tbh, you would know if you had done any research at all.

@Killingoffmyflowersonebyone I meant personally I wouldn’t ever buy one! I literally had a read disabled dog that I did care, which is evidence in its self I wouldn’t do what you say! You’re just picking on any thing I say. I have lived looking after a dog with high needs don’t make me seem like a a hole. Like I would give up on a sick dog because of how it looks. This is about a dog I don’t own yet, I was paying for a choice, it was that part. Now you can moan how is it different. Like I should imagine people would be happy here to buy a dog with hyperthyroidism And hairless.

I actually have a guinea that’s having treatment as lost lots of hair. (Ovarian cysts) yeah I wouldn’t of bought a hairless guinea, but I would keep one and make its better 😃

Some of us buy dogs or rescue them because we like their personalities and what they bring to the family. There is more to a pet than its appearance, just like there is more to a person than their appearance.

But that appears to be something you can't quite grasp.

Meeting a dog a handful of times wouldn't be enough for me to trust welcoming it into my home with my children. I'm sure you can appreciate a puppy is a whole different kettle of fish, yes they're nippy and can be boisterous, but that's to be expected and just puppy behaviour.

Health issues were also a big deal to me. I wanted a dog from fully health tested parents to minimise the risk of certain conditions later down the line. It's doubtful I'd be given that guarantee for a rescue.

I think it's mainly because you've chosen a dog that has a 50% chance of being everything you've said you don't want, but whenever anyone points it out to you, there is some counter reason why it isn't a problem.

Then there's the looks thing. I get that this is an important part of the process, but it should be alongside whether the dog meets your needs. In your case, it appears to be the primary consideration.

Of course, I am aware that things can sound one way despite being meant another, and at the end of the day, it's entirely your decision.

Taking on a rescue cat is very different from taking on a rescue dog though.

I grew up with rescued cats but would not consider taking on a rescue dog, for reasons of temperament. The risks are very much greater with dogs.

Not feeling able to cope with a rescue dog does not mean someone isn't an animal lover.

Indeed, just as on MN if you buy a pedigree puppy it means you aren't a genuine animal lover 😏

Thinking about it, I'd take this thread as a sign of some responsibility.

You are aware of how big a commitment taking the puppy would be and you are feeling unsure now about it.

It doesn't really matter whether the reasons are shallow. If you consider walking away because the dog doesn't look as you expected, now is the time when it is ok to do it.

Which is absolutely not the same as buying a dog that was bred specifically to be hairless. There is a massive difference.

You’ve missed the point. I didn’t mention rescue dogs-I mentioned appearance. Nobody mentioned rescue dogs or cats in either my post or the one I quoted.
My post was about not caring about an animals appearance. She wants a certain aesthetic over having an actual dog in her life

I don’t care if their coat doesn't fit in with my colour scheme at home.

I actually wish I had considered this more, as my dog is practically the same colour as my wood flooring and if I haven't got my glasses on I keep falling over her 🙈

🤣🤣🤣

It was more the comment "just animal lovers" that I responded to tbf.

But isn't that true of a lot of pet owners anyway though? The aesthetic. Like some people favour certain colours of cat - even when they go to a rescue, they'll pick a ginger or a tabby over a black one etc. What's the difference?
People who rescue dogs have a preference for a short coat or a long coat, everyone is biased in some ways so why is she being made out to be evil and wicked for not liking a pink nose?

@PyreneanAubrie thank you. I appreciate it.
I have literally looked after a dog for 15 years through thick and thin. I expect my question was poorly written, I’m guessing it bothers me as I don’t have the connection with the pup. My old dog to me was gorgeous, however there was prob people who thought she wasn’t that beautiful as people have different prefences. I picked and researched the breed, I’m actually not fussed on colour of the dog, yes I’m struggling with a bright pink nose, no other colour or a 70 % pink wouldn’t worry me. I didn’t feel good about it either. It’s just got quite nasty and like I hate animals because I had a preference for my self.

How many other people have googled "maltipoo with pink nose"? 😂

I did actually think you were ridiculous at first, OP, with it just being nose colour, but actually I can see they do look quite different. I also think I've seen the particular "piggy" pic that's turned you off!

My advice would be to visit again in a week or 2 to see how you feel as he will have so much more character by then and you may well see past the nose or it may even have darkened 😊

@CellophaneFlower once you see it you know. Bless I bet the most amazing pooch however it wasn’t what I expected and really does look like a totally different dog.
I think I will wait like you say. Honestly I’m not worried about some pink, light brown a mix. I don’t care about the colour of the pup. Thanks for looking

I understand how you feel. A loved dog can never be replaced. We waited three years before getting a pup after our previous dog died (and I actually did turn down a puppy that didn't have my preferred colouring 😆so I'm just as controversial as you are 😁). Sometimes it is honestly better to wait and be sure you are getting the right dog.

@PyreneanAubrie thank you darling. See to me, getting it right is important as this little bubba is part of our family for years, we won’t get another. I want to make the right decision it needs to be right as won’t be replaced.
Yes you don’t choose children, but you carry them for 9 months (if not adopted ) it’s completely natural to fall in love with your own baby. Personally I don’t feel the same love for other people’s children as my own… children and pets feel are different. I also have fertility issues and felt lucky just to get my children ❤️

Honestly, if you're not sure about this puppy I'd say wait. The right one will come along and it will be worth the wait (it was for us ❤)

Don't get the dog. If you wanted it you would be excited and counting down the days.
It will be a mistake for you and the poor animal.

When we decided to get our cat. We were both working so couldn't have a dog. We couldn't get a kitten cause that's pretty mean when we were working too.
We found a two year old cat for £50 someone didn't want. We were nervous thinking maybe he wouldn't like us. As soon as we saw him we just took him home no questions no doubts. He's 13 now and I love him more than anything. I hope he's with me for many years yet. Next time I think I'll get two unwanted moggies. Fancy myself a black cat or two maybe. People don't want them because of how they look,

This sounds to me like the dog owner's version of "the ick". Probably because you aren't ready yet.