Puppy changed mind 😭

[Mummy289]

After saving months for a £2000 Maltipoo I’m getting cold feet. Come here for different prospectives so please don’t hate me but tell me the truth, as I feel like a horrendous person..

Puppy is from a breeder, saw her at a week, lovely put deposit down. Very excited…
Puppy is 4 weeks old and still has the pinkest nose I have ever seen, I have googled the breed with pink noses and as shallow as I am it wasn’t something I really wanted and after saving month for a particular breed feeling a little upset. Mainly upset with my self that it bothers me.

I’m a previous dog owner last dog passed away earlier this year at 15. Dogs are fantastic and hard work, have a family and wanted like our previous dog to do everything together but worried about the amount of sun the dog will take before getting burned..

Im not fussed about liver colour, some pink etc. This is pig pink, dog is white too….

I know this is what you get for a cross breeds. I feel so many people have cross breeds and it’s not happened to them.
He is a beautiful put, but I’m concerned to get over the pig nose esp as his not cheap.

You are seriously basing your decision to adopt a living creature based on the colour of their nose?

You seem fixated on 'teddy bear' appearance, that is a little strange. You are not buying a toy.

Also, do people actually put sunscreen on dogs???

You're not buying an accessory. The very fact you're spending £2000 on a random crossbreed because it looks like a 'teddy bear' says a lot. It's a dog, it's not a soft toy, a toy for your children, a teddy bear. Also no reputable breeder of dogs is charging £2000 for a crossbreed like this. They are fleecing people for what is essentially a mongrel (nothing wrong with mongrels at all, but you don't need to pay £2000 to get one). They just be coining it in out of these dogs. My pedigree dog didn't cost anywhere near that, and she has a lineage I can trace back, plus was health tested.

Have you seen the parents? Do you know the temperaments of both parents? There's no such thing as a hypoallergenic dog by the way, just ones that are less likely to aggravate allergies. Especially when getting a crossbreed, it's a gamble as to what breed traits are inherited from which parents. Some breeds are less prone to shedding, that's all.

I was just about to say this. £2000 for a mongrel is obscene.

Please research cross breeds and hypoallergenic.

£2k is not excessive or 'obscene' for any dog, regardless of breed - they are living animals and should never be cheap

If you have three disabled children, make a decision based on dog temperament and breed traits, not what they look like. You need a dog that is calm, biddable, easily trained, etc. Toy breeds are often not a great choice for houses with young children IMO.

I wonder how often puppies want to swap their owners, or wish they had been given a different family. 🤔

@Wishimaywishimight I have done a lot of research into the pink nose and sadly it will need protecting from the sun. Again it’s very pink, not a dark pink.
also why do people buy cockapoo, they are everywhere why do people buy a certain breed if it’s not they prefer a certain look?

That is an enormous sum for a crossbreed. Have you researched the breeder? You need to visit the puppy in the home.

I’d also really consider whether a puppy right now is a good idea with three disabled children in the house. Can you leave the children unsupervised while you stand in the garden in the pissing rain, including in the dark with a torch while you toilet train? Puppy pads are not a good idea. The puppy will also be very bitey for months. I’ve had 1 puppy and two older dogs but I wouldn’t have managed with a puppy when my disabled DC was at home and there was only one of her. Unless you have 2 adults in your household all day and your children will be able to leave the puppy alone, I think you’ll be hugely overstretched and it won’t be fair on the puppy or anyone else in the household.

Irrespective of size, puppies require a lot of training and consistency and undisturbed sleep. I’d check out the puppy threat on The Doghouse here on Mumsnet. People with less on their plate than you really struggle. Children always clamour for puppies but they lose interest pretty sharpish when the frantic biting and zoomies start and they almost always renege on all the promises about doing any of the work involved.

I’d be prepared to walk away from the deposit. The costs of vaccinations, working, insuring and caring for a dog will dwarf that sum before you know it.

Why not just get a teddy bear?

I was wondering if you're just not ready yet...no shame in that.
Just give it a bit longer ...

I spent £2000 on my youngest dog, but he is a very well bred working line German shepherd. I would never pay that for a cross breed, although I wouldn't actually buy a cross breed. Get yourself a Golden retreiver. Or a lab

They saw you coming 2000 pounds for a maltipoo wtf u can get cheaper then that. Yes you are shallow but it sounds like you want an accessory not a dog. I have 2 mongrels that I have had. Since puppies. One is nearly sixteen.The other one is nearly fourteen . When I picked my dogs up, I never ever look to anything what you're talking about? I was just happy they were dogs, because at the end of the day.That's what it's important

@SidekickSylvia see is the same and dont think I would ever walk past one and say aww how cute. However I feel bad choosing now. I assumed people choose the dog they liked tge look of 🤦🏼‍♀️

People who want a certain look don't buy mutts/mongrels as how they will look is never guaranteed.

Edited - or should I say they shouldn't buy a mutt if they want a certain look.

As someone who's just adopted an ex breeding dog, your post is bad in so many ways. People who breed for money are in my opinion and experience, horrible humans. And it's a mongrel not a cross breed.

Yeh don't get the dog. Simple it's what everyone is saying, walk away and wait for what you'd like.

A "maltipoo" isn't a breed, it's a cross breed.

You're being robbed by a puppy farmer.

Go to a rescue or a licensed breeder of health tested dogs of a breed of your choice.

Plenty of puppies in rescues up and down the country at the moment that are suitable for rehoming with children (typical when I'm looking for an older dog!)

There's no such thing as a hypoallergenic dog.

If the dog is white with a pink nose I'd also be concerned about deafness.

If you want a teddy bear, buy a stuffed one.

People do choose a dog they like the look of but if you are buying a crossbreed this is the problem - you actually don’t know how it will turn out because there are no guarantees . For £2k I’m sure there were plenty of pedigree dogs you could have chosen and at least you then know what you are getting .

Pedigree dogs from a bloody good breeder too. A friend of mine has a champion line of a particular breed with titles won all across Europe and even they don't charge that much for a puppy. They do have a hell of a waiting list though.

I had one litter of pups , similar breed , each adoptee had to fill in a questionnaire to see if puppy ownership was for them.
I see you have had a dog before and I am sorry for your loss , my husband wasn't ready to have another dog and he felt guilty getting another , could this be the case?
I think if you don't want this pup then don't look around for another , just don't get one at all.
With dogs it's personality that's important.
If you would be upset to see this pup with other owners then get him and give him the best life because you have committed to it by putting down a deposit.
Our pup owners didn't get their deposits back as it was written in the contract.One wanted to go on holiday for 2 weeks instead of collecting their pup and another changed their mind on coat colour.
Breeders put alot of time and love into rearing their pups and it's really not in to mess them about , so tell them today if you are unsure.
Good luck .

is a puppies nose often black and by week six or eight. I have two poodles, both of which had pink noses as small puppies.

I'm surprised you think people choose a particular breed...OR a particular puppy...just for the look tbh.

We have a Springer from working lines. We chose the breed because it's everything that suits us. Great family dog, good with kids, medium sized, minimal grooming (working lines have shorter hair), intelligent, biddable, active but very relaxed at home (as every well trained springer I've met is). I love how they look but the personality and attributes of the breed were more important.

Even when choosing the puppy, I didn't choose on looks. It was a litter of 8, 2 reserved so 6 to choose from. I viewed them at 6 weeks. I sat on the floor and played with them. I discounted the smallest for obvious reasons. I called them a number of times and kept my eye on which ones responded and which ones ignored. Two of them returned to me every time. Out of those two I chose the calmest, so the one that came to me every time but didn't jump all over me**

I can't personally understand choosing a puppy at a week old. Seeing their personality is so important imo.

**Edited to add. As a two year old, ddog displays the same natural behaviours as she did at 6 weeks. She's very biddable and keen to please, outstanding recall, likes people and will always approach them if called...but she is naturally reserved and slightly wary of strangers. So she will approach closely but remain just a hair out of touching distance, just like she did with me at 6 weeks old. Certainly no jumping over them. I don't think it's chance tbh.

@Poodlemania i have honestly been through a mix of emotions. At one point the thought of a new dog ever I couldn’t stand, then the last few months, I have felt “dog broody”. We saw the dog and put the deposit on and was so excited, been looking at training videos bought training books even bought some bits. However this last week I have felt really anxious and not sure if it’s me not feeling ready. Now. So gutted. Our dog was such a big part of our lives and the most gorgeous thing (to me I should imagine).
Also not knowing the dogs personality is hard, I feel I have so many what if questions in my mind.

I have a cockerpoo so I'm not judging on the "crossbreed/mutt" point. Part of the reason I picked her was because she was pretty, but more so because she was confident, outgoing and from good lines.

@Mummy289 , one thing to remember is puppies change, and anything with a poodle in the mix may be subject to fading anyway. I know a cockerpoo who started with a pink and brown spotted nose, very cute, but full brown by the time they were a year old. In any event if you are out all day in strong sunlight you should be thinking about suncream on the dog's exposed skin.

However, the way you are thinking is shallow.and suggests you may not be ready to get a dog, or you are picking for the wrong reasons. Please let the puppy have the chance at a home who will give him the life he deserves and take some time to really reflect.