Puppy changed mind 😭

[Mummy289]

After saving months for a £2000 Maltipoo I’m getting cold feet. Come here for different prospectives so please don’t hate me but tell me the truth, as I feel like a horrendous person..

Puppy is from a breeder, saw her at a week, lovely put deposit down. Very excited…
Puppy is 4 weeks old and still has the pinkest nose I have ever seen, I have googled the breed with pink noses and as shallow as I am it wasn’t something I really wanted and after saving month for a particular breed feeling a little upset. Mainly upset with my self that it bothers me.

I’m a previous dog owner last dog passed away earlier this year at 15. Dogs are fantastic and hard work, have a family and wanted like our previous dog to do everything together but worried about the amount of sun the dog will take before getting burned..

Im not fussed about liver colour, some pink etc. This is pig pink, dog is white too….

I know this is what you get for a cross breeds. I feel so many people have cross breeds and it’s not happened to them.
He is a beautiful put, but I’m concerned to get over the pig nose esp as his not cheap.

If he's not the dog you want don't get him.

Call me shallow and I wouldn’t deny it; I’m with you, OP. I wanted a fox red cockapoo with a red and white face and white belly and black nose and that’s exactly what I got. I am constantly stopped by people telling me how gorgeous he is.
I’d wait if I were you. There’ll be other maltipoos.

Yes, incredibly shallow!!!!!!!

I’m very involved in animal rescue. People like that are the reasons we have so many dogs in shelters and being put down.

Stop spending insane amounts of money for dogs. It’s just keeping puppy mills operating and so many dogs losing their lives over space in shelters.

There are perfectly wonderful dogs at shelters in need of good homes that make great additions and make families. Many are pure breeds that were cute as puppies, but were dumped in favor of getting a new puppy because they dared to grow up. They are the best. They know what they were up against. They’ve seen the other dogs get led through a certain door and not come back. I have nothing but rescues. Rescue is my favorite breed.

ALL dogs are crossbreed! I've heard it all now, nose isn't pink enough, is it to match your handbag? Ludicrous, if you want to be privileged to have a dog you only care about their temperament and the great home you can give them. What if the 'perfect pup' you desire has a condition which changes their looks?

I can’t get past the £2K price tag. If you’re genuinely paying that, get one with right nose!

Good grief.

I had a bill for £12k about 13 years ago when my dog was attacked. Cost me about £50 excess fee. Wouldn't be without it, would have had a dead dog otherwise. You are taking a gamble without it.

@Lolaandbehold thank you!

@CommonAsMucklowe omg is was sarcasm…. Always had insurance I actually said that!! So desperate to hear something bad and put someone down!! 🙄.
I only used mine once one a cherry eye, she got the finest treatment though 🤣.

love mn, must be great to comment on posts to make your self feel empowered and such a better person. Read it properly for god sake 🙄🤣

We have a spaniel cross that had a pink nose, it started to change after a few months and eventually went to fully brown about 2 years

You started the post about a pink nose. In my house you would be called an oxygen thief. Get the dog, don't get the dog, moving on ...

£2000 for a mongrel is bonkers, especially when there are so many lovely rescue dogs that need a home.

So you don’t want it because of the colour of its nose? Really? I don’t like that. My cats are not the best looking but I could not love them more, I don’t care what they look like it’s their lovely little personalities that make my day

Don't buy the dog.
Get a rescue instead and use the money for a lovely holiday.

A lot of people have some kind of aesthetic preference when it comes to dogs when choosing breeds and colours. Some people might prefer long haired, others short, even within the same breed. Nothing wrong with that and we all find different things attractive so it's understandable.

If OP had posted (and left out the poodle cross bit) that she was on the waiting list for a litter but all the pups turned out to be, say white, and she hadn't wanted a white dog, I'm sure not many would have berated her for changing her mind, it just as it seems like she's being over particular as it's nose colour. If you actually take the time to Google though, you can see in some dogs it does make quite a difference to how they look. It's not just the nose, obviously they then too have the pink pigment round the eyes, which gives them a certain look.

OP hasn't bonded with this dog and the little puppy isn't sitting there thinking about the lady that's visited it twice that's going to be it's new mummy, so she's doing nothing wrong by reconsidering. It certainly doesn't make her Cruella de Vil and she should never be allowed to own a dog, ever 🙄

@CellophaneFlower - people are expressing their concern that OP has chosen a dog for traits that it likely won’t have. A pedigree would be a safer bet - but she’s chosen looks over practicality.

Their expressing concern because she seems to have no idea about puppies and thinks she is capable of raising a puppy, four children (three of which are disabled and one of which is under five). Raising a puppy is hard. Raising a puppy with kids even harder - just look at how many people here struggle and need to relinquish their dogs. Let alone four kids, three of whome have additional needs - a poster recently couldn’t cope with one child with (minor) additional needs and a puppy and that was with her and her DH at home all day every day.

Their expressing concern that with four kids, and particularly OPs circumstances, a good breeder would not sell to her - which likely means her breeder is dodgy as hell and the puppy will be seriously sick and have health issues (half of which OP had no idea about judging by her responses).

They’re expressing concern that, despite the fact lots of people have made these points repeatedly, OP seems to think it’s all funny and dodges questions with ‘kids deserve a dog’.

Ultimately, it’s not about the pink nose anymore. It’s that OP has no business getting a puppy when she appears to have not considered even the most basic issues. Quite frankly, OP is a prime example of why the purchase of puppies needs throughly regulating but as long as OP and her kids are happy…I guess it’s alright.

A lot of posts are telling her to get a rescue though, which could potentially be even more of a disaster.

The majority of the posts are berating her for being picky over looks and that's the reason she shouldn't get a puppy, not because of her situation.

But lots of posts have explained the risk of genetics or her children and she’s ignored them or laughed at them - which then sets off other people about the pink nose issue.

I agree with rescues though - terrible idea. Worse than a puppy. But I don’t think a puppy is the answer either.

Only OP knows her situation and it's not for us to judge if she should get a dog. Plenty of people have puppies with young children and yes, she has disabled children but this shouldn't mean she automatically shouldn't get a dog.

If she was looking at some massive boisterous breed or one with potentially severe health issues, such as a French bulldog, then yes, that's a reason to steer her clear of the breed, but a maltipoo in general isn't known to be terribly unhealthy. Many small breed dogs are susceptible to luxating patella for a start.

@Killingoffmyflowersonebyone I have laughed at no one!!! The poster that said I would insure my pup is the only person!!
your so judgemental
a- previous pup passed away at 15- people telling me elderly dog with kids is different- actually it’s harder!!! It harder to have a elderly dog how do I know this…
-she was 1 when baby number 1 born and 2 when baby number 2 was born-she was still groomed, played with and brushed daily, still insured and jabbed. she was 4 when baby number 3 was born.
-my kids have managed to help and support a really poorly dog right to the end. They had to say good bye to a dog that has always been with us
-we never holidayed with out, our weekends were dog walking, she was one of us!!!!
-the nose changed the breed appearance
-I went for this breed as ITS GOOD WITH KIDS, less likely to trigger allergies, and shouldn’t (although my Havanese had boundless energy) be extremely high energy in the go say like a collie or spaniel.
-these people I hope they don’t pay for make up, their nails being done, nice homes, as it’s all shallow when we could be giving money to rescue centres.
-I have already said THE COLOUR OF THE DOG DOENST MATTRR, how many of you buy nice accessories for your pup?
-i have also said these maybe more deep feelings due to the loss of my prev dog and maybe I’m not ready. WHICH YOU IGNORED!! I have certainly not said over and over again my children deserve a dog. You’re putting words into my mouth!!
-I’m sick of the judgement-worried about nose colour which means apparently I won’t look after it and will give it up and won’t cope like what!!
I never have said it will be easy, never said well I’m getting ha ha!!!!
Actually not sure whose post you have been reading!!

Also my last dog was a havanese cross lhase, yes a cross, she was only £500 but that was nearly 16 years ago…..
she was the most healthiest thing ever! Had a cherry eye as a pup, at 14 was still walking 4-5 miles a day!! Jumping on the table and over stair gates 🤣🤦🏼‍♀️.
However her mind got old with dementia which was awful as her teeth were perfect and blood work perfect, which mad the decision even harder in my eyes.

I paid £1500 for my blue eyed pedigree.
Her eyes turned brown.Didnt give one shit.You get a dog for the dog it's a part of your family.

@PrincessHoneysuckle I totally agree once we have her she is one off us.
did you pick her for her blue eyes? Was there brown eye pups???? That’s the part I’m at??

I mean, you’re proving my point.

No breed is ‘good with kids.’

No po-mix is guaranteed hypoallergenic.

You got your dog when your children weren’t born and then had her as they grew up. So she was never a puppy around them. And now you have four including one that is three and you want a puppy. It’s very different.

Yes. Your dog came with you everywhere. So will the puppy. You’ll take it outside every twenty minutes and likely be up multiple times through the night. It’ll need to go everywhere with you at first as you won’t be able to leave it even for five minutes - poodles are notorious for SA as are Maltese. M

I currently have two fosters (17 who is totally blind and completely reliant on me, and 5 months). I can say in no uncertain terms, the puppy is much harder. They always are. Just look at all the threads atm about people who lost their elderly dog and got a puppy and can’t cope or are struggling.

I’m sorry for your loss, I really am, but you’re not taking advice on board from people who are trying to help and just getting angry - which I get, you’re mourning - but people are trying to help.

@Killingoffmyflowersonebyone no that was your first helpful comment!! Most have been hate and judgement that I won’t insure, won’t walk her and will just give her up!!
My elderly dog I will say was the easiest pup toilet trained very easy!
however- elderly was hard- she was up countless times at night, needed to go out every 30 mins and would stand out staring. Accidents up to 10-12 times a day. A fresh was bed daily, cooked chicken daily with prolin (this that’s the name). Also went on to gastro food.
baths daily at some points.
it was hard, and yes felt a lot harder than the puppy stage. On top of that that end stage you know is the end the stage. Puppy stage is the beginning of a new story…
maybe elderly dogs are different for everyone.
my last elderly dog (rescue). She had a bad heart and was on heart meds, however just passed away in her sleep. No extra care needs towards the end, and was really nice way to go.