Heartache after saying goodbye-support thread 2

[Helplessandheartbroke]

Second support thread for fellow MNers suffering the loss of a fury friend. I lost my boy in December and I'm truly heartbroken 💔

@Helplessandheartbroke i would need to get a puppy again too as i have 4 cats and I wouldn’t trust a rescue with them. When the poor dog was a puppy we had a grumpy 14 year old tabby would very quickly taught her her place in HIS house and she was always scared of cats so even when he died and we got kittens she was scared of them (even though they wanted to cuddle with her). When she was a puppy I didn’t work but now I do (even though DH and DD1 are at home all day) like you I don’t know if I can go through it all again.

@sweetkitty argh bless her being scared of cats. Mind you I'm more scared of cats than I am of dogs! Puppy stage is hard. I did work so he went to my FILS 2 days a week and we had a dog walker/trainer the other days and she sent me a pic one day where he had ate my couch! I cried.... you forget how hard the puppy stage is!

my little MInnie died this morning. She was a 3 year old pug x chihuahua and had a ill spell in july and was diagnosed with diabetes and her liver/kidneys were going downhill. Since then her blood sugars were fine, responding well to the insulin. She had a bad tummy a few weeks ago and started to not eat so vets gave paracetamol and that helped. Then the last 2 days she started to refuse food and go wobbly again like she did when first diagnosed, more paracetamol from vets but told she might not last long as she kept being ok then suddenly going downhill again so either keep her home and comfy or go to vets to be put to sleep.
Kept her home and yesterday seemed abit more active, able to walk up stairs and jump on bed fine. Went to sleep on DH as normal, DH went for a wee at 7:30 and she was breathing fine, came back and she'd stopped breathing in the same position as he left her. One eye open, one closed and her little mouth open (hoping it was quick and she just woke up and went)
DH was a wreck, kids havent been too bad (all 3 had autism so feelings is a hard one) I took the weekend off work as Ive been crying on and off. Little things like no one under my feet after the chicken I cooked for lunch or no one waiting outside the toilet for me keeps hitting me hard.
Im pleased she isnt in pain anymore but yesterday when I helped her out in the garden for a wee and a sniff I had a chat to her and told her it wasnt fair her being so sick and if she wants she can go and she did.
100% not getting another pet as I couldnt cope with having to pick up a lifeless pet again

@mummy3uk I'm so sorry that must have been awful. So young too. It's not fair at all. My boy was almost 7 when he was pts and I still doubt our decision now but deep down it was the right thing for him. Here for a handhold x

@Helplessandheartbroke thank you x Im still very teary today. Its my mums 9 year anniversary of her passing on the 19th september so im extra sensetive.
Its so weird not having little moo on my heels and cuddled up on the sofa with me. I keep looking to my left as that was where she would usually hang around me,or looking over to her spot on the sofa where she should be. I went for a walk around the area, through the fields and had a bit of a chat to myself/the world and a silent cry and feel abit better. Then I had a hot bath and said everything im feeling out loud and had a blub.
Tomorrow once the kids are at school im having a hunker down day. Just myself and rubbish tv on the sofa.

How was your chill day? Hope you're feeling a bit better x

much better, Im feeling alot more positive now and when I look at pictures and think of her, Im happy with the memories and not crying over them for now at least.

Give yourself time. I'm 9 months on and still occasionally cry

I’m in a very similar situation my dog died Monday from liver/kidney problems ultimately a seizure ended her my x3 youngest are autistic and developmentally delayed our dog was same age im hysterical she was a massive comfort to the kids but a HUGE one for me as you know how trying it can be with kids having these disabilities it’s lovely when your partners
out at work and the evenings cuddled up with the dog my heart is in absolute bits I can hardly breathe for crying xxx

💐💐💐For everyone here. Can't believe it'll be 4 weeks tomorrow since my beautiful pug was PTS. I haven't had one day where I've not cried. I came home a couple of days ago and I was convinced I had her her tip tap across the wooden floor 😭 Every morning I kiss her little casket 😭

It’s five weeks on Saturday since we said goodbye to our boy. It’s got a bit easier but the tears are never far away.

@mummy3uk Our boy was diabetic too so the strict insulin and feeding regime is another routine which we’ve had to adjust to losing. Or I should say having to adjust to losing as I still have it in my head when planning anything that I need to be home by 6, or someone else needs to be, to feed and inject.

Like I said yesterday, the tears are never far away.

Bill had cataract surgery two years ago and I emailed the eye vet surgery a few weeks ago to cancel his check up appointment for later this year. I had a lovely email back from the receptionist who’d picked up the email, sending their condolences, and then thought no more of it.
Today we’ve had a card in the post from the vet who did the surgery and saw him every few months to check all was well, she’s written such lovely things in it.
So yeah, the tears are never far away.

@MadisonAvenue that's lovely off them. I still cry 9 months on and that's ok it shows how mich we loved them x

I’m waking up all hours convinced I’m hearing Lady do the same 😭😭😭💔💔❤️❤️ We’ve bought another puppy ready in two weeks same breed different colour I just can’t cope without a dog I just can’t xxx

My OH couldnt cope. He was looking at dogs 2 days after losing Minnie. We've got a lovely grey staffy boy coming soon (hes 4 months and has lovely tiger stripes which should get more pronounced as he gets older, not seen that colouring before) We might be getting him friday if OH can get the day off work or at least a half day, we have a crate ready (hes been crate trained so will try to carry that on so when I out on school run he has somewhere secure to go to)
Im nervous of getting a new dog but he is lovely and so soppy and cuddly. I miss having a dog around so it will be nice to have one in the house again. Its only been 2 weeks on saturday since we lost her but it seems so long!

We’re waiting a while. After Bill’s diabetes diagnosis three years ago we haven’t been able to get a proper holiday, our sons were able to look after him and give him his injections but with work and other commitments it wasn’t always convenient for them to stick to his schedule.

Anyway, me and my husband are going to LA in early March and once we’re home we’ll seriously think about getting another dog. I feel that my husband is reluctant whereas I don’t feel like the house is a home without one so there’s no thinking to be done on my part. Something he said that needs to be agreed to before we commit to another one is that our sons need to help if we want a holiday. Before Bill was diagnosed my parents would have him for the occasional night or if we went on holiday my mother in law would drive up and stay with him. Now there’s just my Dad left and he’s 91 so can’t be left to look after a dog.

Lovely I know how you feel and what you mean! Lady died last Monday so just over a week collecting new dog 5th of October! I miss lady soo muchhhh it hurts still so badly but we really need one my non verbal add adhd son who was coming on leaps and bounds has been spiralling behaviours gone bad like it was 2 years ago honestly! Ahhhhh I’ve never seen those markings??? Bet he’s gorgeous! Xxxx

Hes a brindle colouring, hes more brown then grey (depends on lighting!) hes doing ok, hes got his crate that hes been brought up in so is used to it, Ive got a doggy cam set up for school run which im nervous about. I shouldnt be as his breeder was a delivery driver so was out the house 5am-midday then back out again in afternoon delivering so hes used to being in there alone (but with other dogs near by) He's had a few accidents but hes only 4 months old so to be expected!
Its been really nice having someone here with me during the day. Its abit like having a baby again, making sure hes going out for regular wee breaks and not messing with things he shouldnt! He likes my sweeping brush bristles so keeps pinching that.
My 11 year old boy is autistic and selective mute and wasnt sure about getting another dog but he has said he doesnt mind Rolo which is a good sign 😉

Oooo this gives me so much hope my girls ashes still aren’t back yet I’m sure il
feel much better once they are back! I miss her sooo much and I hope the puppy will bring some much needed uplift to the household as it’s all doom and gloom at the minute as you know what that’s like ❤️ I’ve got a crate ordered coming this evening soo strange going back to a crate as lady had been out of one for over 2 years she was just like a piece of the furniture never did any wrong no incidents nothing ever! 💔💔💔 xxxxxx

We got Minnies ashes, paw print and bottle of hair back yesterday, they did say it could take a few weeks depending on the crematoriums schedule. So it was just under that for us. Its so weird to think thats all thats left. My mum died in 2015 (her anniversary was 5 days after Minnie died) and she was cremated and I have a lock of her hair in a baggie from the hospital and it still hits my thats all thats left of someone.
Back to dogs - Im not a crate person really but I will carry it on with Rolo. He was fine in his crate on the school run, just led down and cuddled his toy duck hes taken a shine to. I was checking the camera every few minutes just to check but he was fine.

So glad youve both found a new fury friend. I look after my SILs occasionally that's all I can do at the min and even then I feel guilty as she jumps on the couch and I didn't often let my boy as he would malt a lot where SILs doesn't. It is horrible to think that's all that's left of them in a box it's awful isn't it

bless you I haven’t got my new pup yet not till next weekend I wake up filled with dread and doubt at the thought of a puppy and how my emotions will be but I’ve seen and heard so much advice to get a new one as soon as possible really to help never to replace, the thing is the way I see it was Lady was soo loved well absolutely worshipped tbh! And I really do love dogs in general another dog would benefit from that love we have to give some dogs end up in quite frankly horrible situations or not very loved and we are very much so a dog is for life people so I don’t feel guilty knowing that another dog will experience a very nice life with us and never face abuse or rehoming ❤️ I know there’s no way I couldn’t ever have another dog it was inevitable so I’m trying to see it as well what’s the difference in the time? I could sit with a massive hole in my heart and feeling lost for a couple of years to respect my beautiful lady and not have that joy of what a dog brings to me ….Lady was such a amazing dog she’s made me never want life without a dog in it that’s how perfect she was to me 💔

@Babsexxx you're so right Winston was much loved and so what if he weren't always allowed on the couch... (he ate the first one we had!) I'm not ready because I've got an asd none verbal 4 year old so couldn't rescue and I don't think I could do the pup stage again right now. I do miss having a dog in the house so I'm envious of all the new pups 🐶 😍 please share some pics

Hi all, just wanted to pop on and send my best wishes. It's 1 year today I lost my boy. Emotional day and the last of the firsts x

Just popping in to give you all my very best wishes for 2025.

On December 15th it would’ve been Bill’s 13th birthday, he loved getting presents. He also loved to see the Round Table Santa and sleigh on our cul de sac, every year he’d go out to see Santa so I had to go out when I knew it was due. I was able to put a Christmas tree in the bay window in the family room this year, I tried it once on his first Christmas and it lasted a day before he knocked it over. I’d much rather have had him here and not had the tree there.

Last night was hard, the thought of leaving him behind in 2024 was heartbreaking. Not sure if that makes sense.
Tears are still never far away.

We’re going on holiday, me and my husband, to LA in early March. We hadn’t really been able to go away due to Bill’s diabetes but had booked LA before he was diagnosed but it was cancelled due to Covid. He was then diagnosed and we weren’t able to rebook. When we come back we’ll be looking for a puppy. I’m surprised we haven’t got one yet, it’s only the holiday that’s stopping us, but our son drives past a Dogs Trust centre everyday on his way to work and it’s taking all of his strength not to go and have a look. I half expect him to walk through the door with a dog one day.