Heartache after saying goodbye-support thread 2

[Helplessandheartbroke]

Second support thread for fellow MNers suffering the loss of a fury friend. I lost my boy in December and I'm truly heartbroken 💔

Collecting her ashes instead of walking out with her….one of the hardest things I have done. I spent most of this weekend thinking the phrase about how you would do it all again was so darn true. I wish I could take her for more fun rambles . I used to take her for daily walks of two to three hours over heaths woods, streams, fields, footpaths, canals. We walked miles together. I would not wish the increasing limitations she faced as her severe oz reached end stage since Sept on anyone. It was my choice to ensure she had the best pain care possible from the vets knowing doing so would shorten her life but it was the right choice for her as it protected her quality of life upto the last three days of her life when everything slipped almost at once. I miss her but I am so glad I had her.

@triballeader I have so many regrets of short walks and not enough cuddles etc. Hindsight is a wonderful thing.... we did our best and having 2 hour walks a day is fantastic! X

How is everyone x

It's my boys birthday today x

Hey is anyone still on? Hope you're all well x

Hi,
@Helplessandheartbroke aww happy birthday wishes to over the rainbow bridge. The firsts are going to be the hardest I guess. Hope you get through the day ok, are you doing anything to mark the occasion?
I'm still here, feel like I'm sounding like a broken record, yes still miss him, still heartbroken, 8 weeks tomorrow. I always thought myself to be quite tough, I don't cry easily, although oddly suffered anxiety over the years, but this is the hardest thing ever. It just shows how special our little friends are to get into our hearts like this, we were lucky.

There's been talk of getting another dog but I'm struggling with that, maybe one day tho.

Hope everyone's doing ok x

@Zandra123 hey! No didn't do anything to mark the occasion. I always bought him a couple of toys and a big bone (toys would literally last 30 mins) and have a good walk with him on birthdays so it was a sad day.

It's been 3 months for me and I'm still crying a lot. Keep beating myself up over daft things like telling him off when he would bulldoze passed or for short walks on week days etc. I don't know why I do it to myself. He was well looked after and loved but you might understand being a fellow anxiety sufferer.

How is your ds now?

Only look when you're ready for new fury friend x

Helpless, in honesty not my greatest week. Miss tripping over and standing on the daft fur-ball who thought is was her life mission to be as close to me as was possible.
I put together a montage of photos of her when she was a bit younger and fitter to remind me she did have a good life, she stole food, raided the compost heaps, dug up the garden, chased squirrels, fell in the pond, went of lovely walks, had luxury stays in a heated five star kennel whilst I slept in a tent. It’s the last three months when she moved from elderly to frail that were hard and made me forget she had had nearly ten years of fun and the focus of our families life. I found that helps as she knew how to be happy and really live.

@triballeader I'm sorry you're having a rough week too. We defo need to focus on the positives rather than the negatives. Vent here whenever you need to x

Hey how is everyone doing?

Is it just me or does it still not seem real to anyone?

Hi you.

With all bereavements it doesn't seem real. We think we see them walking by all the time. With our dogs and cats its even worse because we think we see a little dog or cat walk beside us and it isn't happening. It is our brain's way of comforting us but it's awful when we realise it isn't happening.

It is a horrible fact that they aren't walking with us any more. But it is a fact, unfortunately. It will reach you but until then, maybe these moments are your little girl or guy tugging on your trouser or skirt and saying hey, I'm here for a bit longer, you've got me.

You know the infamous line which so horrifies Harry in HP? There where your treasure is, let your heart be also? Your treasure is where your loved ones and there is your heart is. Don't let it depress you, let it comfort you.

Hey @CeciledeVolangesdeNouveau lovely words thank you. Hope you're ok x

4 months on, Im still saying "I can't believe he's gone". I lost my parents when I was aged 22 then age 31. This is worse. Not one single day has passed that I haven't either sobbed or choked up and nearly sobbed. He really did lead a charmed life, rarely alone, home cooked food, benefitted from our love of walking, snuggling on sofa and our bed but, those last few weeks of illness, vet visits, tests and discomfort really haunt me. Sending love and comfort to all of you. X

@MaMisled I'm sorry you're struggling too. Sounds like he had a fantastic life! Similar to my boy pre baby.... keep reminding yourself of the happy time x

Sending sympathy to all. Still in disbelief here. The grief has left me breathless. The house is hollow.

@strawberriesarenot sending best wishes at this sad time. Do you want to vent? X

It will.soon be a year since I lost my beautiful boy, I still struggle but right now it feels that it worse as we are so close to the anniversary. I dont know if I will ever be ok again,.I can talk about him now and smile but when I'm alone I still become overwhelmed by grief again. I have decided to change vets as they keep putting me in the room I was last in with my boy and standing at the table where I held him and said goodbye is too much. I had to go in there a couple months ago when I took Puppy to be spayed. They walked out the room and left me standing there alone the same as the day when my boy went and I thought I cant do this anymore I need to go somewhere else.

@Tara336 I'm sorry to read that it's tough! Definitely change vets x

Hi everyone, weeks are just going by aren't they, like time does. But the pain does not get much better. Still a day at a time and trying to remember the good things, but goodness I miss my little pal. I wish I knew the answers. Hope everyone's doing ok

I would have gone with her if I could.

I hear you! She wouldn't have wanted that though x

Hey @Zandra123 it still hurts a lot. Still doesn't feel real. Worst time of my life. Hope you're ok x

She would. She hated to leave me. the thought of her alone is unbearable.
i am so sorry for all of us. I have lost humans and parents but never felt such pain as this, nor seen such patient suffering as hers. And although I leave the door open and call her and make her bed and fill her bowl she will not ever ever come back. I wish I could go after her. I would.

@strawberriesarenot I'm a strong believer in the afterlife. Picture her on the rainbow Bridge playing with all her friends, until your time comes and you will meet again x

We lost our 15 year old on tuesday - she was old but we didnt see it comming
i am recovering from surgery and had an hospital appt later the same day were I had to listen.
I am in the middle of recovery from surgery and terrified to cry as it may hinder the healing- which I must do - surgery was a week ago only

When my df died I did what i needed to do - cry - rant - but i am in the middle od recuperation and what feels like intense grief and I don’t know how on earth to cope .
my chest hurts , my throat hurts . i want to sob and sob - but am told not to do anything to raise blood pressue.
any advice would be so appreciated .