Should I marry a murderer? Netflix

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Has anyone watched this? I have just finished it. Honestly I feel mixed about Caroline. Don’t want to say too much in case others haven’t finished it.

I remember the story being reported but didn’t know how much else went on in the lead up to the trial.

I was about to answer "no you shouldn't" then I remembered I was no longer scrolling through AIBU

https://open.substack.com/pub/glosswitch/p/could-you-just-try-being-less-traumatised?r=1sgf8z&utm_medium=ios

This poor girl, what an absolute ordeal.

She reminded me of a friend who is bipolar.

She was completely unsupported, I thought the police came over dreadfully.

#TeamCaroline

I felt incredibly sorry for her. It’s your worst nightmare come true when you think you’ve finally found love. So brave to actually tell the police and can’t believe they arrested them without any means to charge them so just let them free. if the police had actually looked after her properly she would never have felt the need to go back to her flat and let the parson twins move back in with her.

i’m not surprised she turned to drink and drugs in the absence of any real therapy offered to help her deal with 1) the instantaneous loss of her fiancé 2) realising someone she loved could kill.

Even the day of the court case I find it bizarre that given she was a vulnerable witness she was expected to just drive down on her own to court - why if the twins tried to get someone to hurt her so she didn’t testify.

Ofc she made awful mistakes - but it wouldn’t be on Netflix if she did the straightforward right thing would it - but ultimately the family have had some closure and justice thanks to her. The people who we should be talking about coming across badly are the people who killed a man.

She’s a brave woman, having the presence of mind to drop her Red Bull can and record the conversations. The flip side of that kind of audacity are things like the tractor ride.

I found it quite uncomfortable to watch as you can almost feel her mania in the videos. I’ve been in some situations in the past where a combination of shock, trauma and stress made me act in very unpredictable ways. You disassociate and are fuelled by adrenaline, you are incapable of making rational choices and become very impulsive. Nothing to do with intelligence, good upbringing etc can prevent that.

All the videoing was weird but some people like to share every little bit of life online, she seemed like she had adhd too which explains the energy a bit. No matter how in love I was I would never go back to a murderer. Hanging out with them in the middle of nowhere for months when they know you’re there one who got them arrested!

Just watching the vanishing cyclist on BBC.
It gives a more rounded view of the whole case.

Agreed. I understand that she had to play along a bit, to protect herself. But I don’t understand why you’d move back in with him. The police massively failed her though.

Spoiler alert.

I think her not turning up to court was a calculated move to allow her chap to plead guilty to the lesser charge. I’m not buying her getting wasted and looking for the bike at all. They planned it.

Why would you not turn up to court. A man has been killed. His family deserves justice.