Should I marry a murderer? Netflix

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Has anyone watched this? I have just finished it. Honestly I feel mixed about Caroline. Don’t want to say too much in case others haven’t finished it.

I remember the story being reported but didn’t know how much else went on in the lead up to the trial.

I’ve just watched this - it was interesting to watch after the Netflix documentary

No doubt that reality show will happen at some point 🤣

I watched this too, also slighty torn on my feelings. She was like two different people. I thought she was brave to do the documentary, and I understood how scared she must have been after reporting him to the police in case he found out it was her. I did think she was a very self absorbed person though - the constant filming 24/7, in every situation, the filters she always used which is a bit immature for a woman of 30. She tried to make the excuse that the stress of it led to the drink and drugs, yet in the first episode she said they were partying hard, drinking and doing drugs, before she ever found out about the cyclist.

I think the delay in going to the police was understandable. She couldn’t save the victim. One day she thought she was getting married and she had put the heartbreak behind her (obviously she hadn’t) and the next she was with someone who had covered up a death they had caused by drink driving - initially she didn’t know the full depths.

I sincerely hope that there was nothing new in this documentary for the Parsons family to learn. It would be beyond despicable for them to find out the awful details this way. I presume they had the information at the time but the way this case was handled, nothing would surprise me.

I listened to bbc Sounds Crime Next Door podcast which told this story more from Tony Parson’s family’s point of view.
There was little detail about the woman so I’m definitely going to watch this series.

Ooh going to have a listen to this - thanks

I watched this and also the BBC programme about the cyclist beforehand.
I found it really insightful in to how a witness (as that is what she is called) is treated and what they go through that you might not see on the surface - especially after watching the initial programme about the cyclist.

I got a bit annoyed with the way she kept saying ‘my brain….’ As though that meant she didn’t have to be responsible for any of her actions. Especially going to work for a week after he told her about burying the body. I get that she was in shock but it just seems an easy out to keep blaming it on how her ‘brain’ couldn’t cope with something.

Her self esteem was so low which made her very vulnerable. Ultimately she did the right thing and reported Sandy.

v odd programme. Can’t get past all the filming of herself .
I hope she’s doing well now

I cannot believe this woman is a qualified pathologist!

I felt she was blindsided by the first long relationship ending - most people have that in early to mid 20s and to have it happen just before hitting 30 when you realise fertility is limited and the good guys are taken is a complete nightmare (been there). I think she got very caught up in the whirlwind and with lockdown it would have heightened the 'end of days' feeling and enabled the feeling of taking more risks (drugs and booze while off work). A really bad combo and I do think it led to a breakdown of sorts. I was shocked the old guy said he didn't think she needed help because she was a Dr! Intelligence has nothing to do with how your mental health holds up under pressure! Men simply don't get how worried women can get about having a family around the age of 30 and that the pressure of that with full time work is enough to depress most women let alone someone discovering they are dating a murderer in lockdown!

I thought the decision to have the post mortem at the hospital she worked at and then tell her to not work was outrageous. She clearly had mental health issues but from her story you could see how each step seemed slmost logical at the time . When the “boys” moved to her flat the stress must have been unbelievable

Only watched two episodes but enjoying it. I find Caroline so odd though, she’s talking about it all almost as if it happened to someone else.

I’ve seen the other documentary about this so was interesting to see this too.

Oh God yes, I forgot about her being told not to work. She was treated absolutely outrageously.

This was all happening in that truly dismal winter lockdown of 2021 when most people were living in isolation; shops, restaurants and bars would all have been closed. At that age many of her friends would be in relationships. So fresh from being cheated on in a long term relationship and your future being ripped away, finding out your intoxicating rebound relationship was with a killer, reporting him to the police and finding out he was released immediately andyou were terrified he’d realise you were the one who reported him, the world is locked down and struggling with a global pandemic and you’re told you now can’t work at the job you love through no fault of your own.

It reads like a crime drama but it’s this poor woman’s life.

Just finished this. Wow. That was a ride. I was aware of the case, and how she had provided the police with the info that allowed them to solve it. But I knew nothing of her intense drama and chaos.

I thought she was a lovely person, very likeable. But wow she made some crazy decisions. I've never seen such a wild story.

I felt really sorry for her. The police clearly mishandled their interaction with her from the start, which contributed to her becoming increasingly vulnerable and erratic.

I hope she has been able to get her career back on track.

I saw this and became hugely irritated with Caroline . I think it was because she was a Dr and had a very supportive background and just threw it away with her stupidity , drugs , alcohol , smoking and Sandy himself was not a nice person . What did she see in him fgs. She was totally pathetic . .

Yes wish they'd not shown all those video selfies. Kind of undermined her. She did good reporting the crime and dropping that can at the spot.

Why, plenty of people who have good jobs and are academically intelligent still have messy personal lives, make poor decisions, drink, do drigs etc

I actually wondered if her job as a pathologist had traumatised her on some level and then this specific thing was laying more trauma on top of that, rather than it being simply about a previous relationship ending.

I also thought her male friend seemed a little contemptuous of her, even right at the start he said she passed her exams as she had a photographic memory almost not implying she wasn’t actually intelligent.

Just watched this, my god the police really did let this woman down. She tried to do the right thing and ended up being put in such a vulnerable position by them. Arresting the boys with zero evidence, coming to her flat and naming her as a witness while they were there, no support, stopping her from working, no wonder she had a breakdown. And that old guy....'She's an intelligent woman what did she need our help for'. I shouted at my TV at that one, patronising prick!!

She's a bit of a wild one and clearly needed some help, lockdowns would have played a part too

I liked the documentary ( just binged it). She was young, and brave to report it, and especially brave to record certain conversations. She was clearly off her face on drugs/booze for a lot of the time. I was pretty shellshocked at the sentencing (it definitely lacked imo). I wonder how much damage the documentary will do to her career, whatever that is now. It seems short sighted to create such a permanent public record, she is still young. Her mum and dad broke me a bit. They seem like lovely caring parents who really tried.

Felt the police let her down. She didn’t help herself but my goodness she didn’t deserve to be in such a precarious position.

And why did the case hinge on her so much? Turning it into a he said, she said, situation. I know it had been years but surely they could have found something to make a more solid case.

I felt this too, the prosecution didn't build a case at all and put it all on her word. Even without her breakdown it would have been easy for the defence to pick her to pieces. Police work was shoddy imo

Reading your response sort of makes me want terrible things to happen in your life and for you to treated with judgement rather than sympathy.
I felt so sorry for her watching how the police treated her. I am academically qualified to the same level as Caroline and if I had that all dumped in my lap I don’t know how I’d react.
I'm glad the Parsons family got closure and they seemed grateful for her bravery in going to the police.