MAFS #6 Now Bez has gone, who will follow? Perhaps PaRaper the Rapper, Steve, who lives to deceive, or the polite misogynist who just wants to be loved..

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NO SPOILERS.

Hahahahahaha.
Are we though?

So glad for this thread with #teamSarah combating what feels like the rest of the internet that is intent to bring the poor woman to breakdown.

Funny how all the men hate her so much, largely for the way she looks.

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I’m not on social media, so I don’t know what has been said. Unfortunately this is the risk you take when you go on a show such as MAFS. Hopefully she decides to leave soon, she’s had her 15 minutes of fame.

The feeling is mutual.
Dean is a manipulative pig. I hope he gets chewed out for deliberately becoming fat and ruining their wedding by being so self centered and fame hungry.

Has anyone else noticed that this year they seem to be trying to match people with partners who share similar facial features? I’m sure some studies showed that we are meant to like others who we see ourselves in physically. Hot dog and April are a perfect example - they both have lovely strong jawlines and similar eyes and smiles. You wouldn’t be surprised if they were introduced as siblings in a totally different context.

Same with the Italian guy and the Lebanese/English woman (sorry, my memory for names is not good)

Joe and Maeve have a similar look with strong features too.

Jimmy Carr and the flying Scotswoman are also similar with slightly unusual but not unattractive non-symmetrical faces. (Would prefer less Botox though)

Sarah in that hushed moment of ‘privacy’ with her friend, desperately sending eye signals which screamed ‘Help me!’ was a bit heartbreaking. She must feel trapped - she needs to find the strength to leave, or at the very least, stand up for herself in front of the experts who are being appalling to her and call them to account for encouraging her to be physical with someone she is obviously repulsed by on more than just the physical level. Though of course if she did, they’d edit that out.

Nothing Steve says or does makes me think Nelly should be with him another second. He’s shown her what he’s capable of in the first couple of weeks - this can only get worse when there are no cameras about. He has behaved horribly.

And can you imagine if Sarah had called Dean a fucking idiot. She’d have been hung, strung, drawn and quartered. They are so cold to her.

Now THIS is hateful 🤣🤣🤣 ‘deliberately becoming fat’… okay 👍🏻 I don’t like Dean either but it’s a bit rich you moaning about men criticising Sarah’s appearance when you’re here making insults about him!

Something very weird is happening on MN currently.

He told us that - please actually watch the show or at least bother to read all 5 threads before pushing your views all over this one that you have so rudely jumped on with your pro-trans self righteousness.

Find a thread that suits that if you don't like where we as a group are, the internet is a big place and they all hate Sarah just like you do because she was honest. Go and throw stones at her elsewhere.

Dean said it himself!!!!!

I don’t know why you’re so angry and hostile. I am perfectly entitled to say my views here thanks, and I will do so without needing to resort to name calling and personal insults. I have already explained my views very clearly.

You do not get to control who posts here. Goodness knows why you think I am ‘pro trans’ and none of my posts have been ‘self righteous’. Kindly stop trying to argue with me and twist my words, hate all you want but leave me out of it.

I think he said it clumsy, when he was thin, he was starving but full of himself hiding behind a persona of the hot guy with attitude.
He has always been fat, he lost a lot of weight and it impacted his ego.
I think Dean is a dick, I don't think he deliberately got fat, he deliberately got thin for a short period in his life, he associated it with being a dick.
He refers to himself as the funny fat kid.
I know a few people who have said similar after a big weight-loss and regain. It's a defence mechanism.
He has always been fat, this show might help him work out that personality and body are not automatically the same.
I have never been over 8.5 stone, but I do find the fat jokes about Dean uncomfortable as I know someone on this thread will be overweight. Dean is a dick, leaving personal body insults out.

Thank you. I was beginning to think I’d missed an episode or something.

You are being self righteous and you’re at risk of spoiling a light hearted relaxing thread, about something that a lot of us use for escapism. Every corner of the internet does not need to be policed for wrong think.

Dean admitted that even his friends called him arrogant when he lost weight. But then is a self confessed ‘nice guy’ when he is fat. He isn’t a good man. The way he has said ‘of course I can touch my wife’ and things along the lines of Sarah will fall for him, it’s not if it’s when etc. He’s creepy and predatory as fuck and when he admits his ‘niceness’ is tied to his weight, it’s no wonder people are commenting on his weight. He is disgusting inside and out.

Get your dictionary and look up the word irony. And hypocrisy while you’re there.

I don’t hate Dean (or Sarah) but I actually don’t buy the lie he told about deliberately putting on weight. To be clear, yes he claims that but I don’t believe it is that simple as he says.

I was fat between 20-23, then lost 4 stone right out of uni , took me maybe 2 years. Men often lose weight quicker so wouldn’t be surprised if he did it a lot quicker. But the kicker is when you do it so quick you sometimes underestimate the challenge of keeping the weight off and don’t take the time to develop a long term habit . It’s a bit like the difference between going on a temporary diet and making sustainable changes to improve your lifestyle.

Despite having quite a big appetite and sweet tooth I was able to keep it off long term through my lifestyle of 15K steps commuting, working with kids and sporadic bursts of going to the gym. And while I wasn’t nibbling on lettuce (always had 3 quite large meals a day plus often sweet snacks) I did somewhat keep an eye on my food intake.

Many if not most people put weight back on within a few years. They just aren’t able to maintain the sometimes drastic changes they made, as they haven’t incorporated it into their lifestyle or dealt with underlying issues.

If Dean was more honest he’d admit that’s at least partly what happened. He failed to keep the weight off, because he didn’t manage to keep up with the changes he had made.

Because in what world does a man (especially one like him who is so keen for love or affection) lose weight, find out he gets loads of female attention, then actively CHOOSE to put on weight? Nah not buying it.

That rubbish about being slim made him a nasty person so he had to go back to being fat is silly. He isn’t automatically transformed into a nice person because he is fat
or a nasty person because he is slim.

He ACTS nicer now because he is fat and tries to ‘compensate’ for that by playing the nice guy, because he knows he can’t get away with what slim Dean got away with!

I mean yeah self sabotage does exist and it may have played a role subconsciously,and he may have felt overwhelmed at the new body image he has, but I believe overall he likely has a food addiction and comfort eats and he basically reverted to type.

I think we’ll find after this show he gets on WLI and goes back to the gym And maybe goes into therapy too.

The weight thing sadly, is very much part of the topic, because he is using it in a controlling way. It’s very bizarre.

I’ve not done anything of the sort so kindly stop accusing me of things I’ve not done, as all you are doing is creating unnecessary hostility and de-railing the thread.

This is a good analysis I think and I agree the fat jokes or negative comments any of the participants appearance are not great .

I’ve no need, thanks. ☺️

Reading the thread, when there has been a trans person on before, it’s no wonder people will wonder if there will be again. Someone commented on Aprils masculine voice, which April herself had mentioned. There’s nothing wrong with that. These contestants know they’re going to be talked about and all want to be famous as they wouldn’t be on the show.

Some people seem to think having gender critical views mean transphobia, they think women not wanting to share toilets with men is transphobia. Personally I wouldn’t watch the show if there was a trans person on as I think the ideology is harmful. Thats not transphobia either.

Exactly. He’s using it himself so people will comment. If people don’t like it, tough shit and maybe they should consider contacting Dean and telling him off instead of people here.

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False accusations are always projections.

Moving on, who do we think will be next to leave? Surely it has to be JR and Divarni. Somebody on Reddit called her friends the Siamese Twinks, which amused me.

@TinselAngel 👍🏻

You don’t need to @ me, I’m on the thread.