MAFS THREAD 10 where you will respect the forum and sit down. Take off your Anorak of Sulk and get your hands out their Uggs. For we shall wear our polo-necks of misery and janitor pyjamas of poetry.

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The rest of the thread title

"For it's not easy to not get lipsed on the down low without someone getting lippy. Casper is still dying of cringe and Shitlid sees no way out. For we are all scrambling for our dignity, whilst watching the utter mockery"

It was a joint effort by us all.

I agree- although unfortunately for him he’s also argued on camera with women. That Ryan is way more scary and unhinged but because he only argued with men the back lash was minimal.
As for the Range Rover comment in no way was it sinister- completely dickish in the I can afford a big car (on finance) than you but not sinister

You would think the “best” couple would be awarded a prize or something, by the way they are acting. Am I right in thinking there is no other gain here than the fame a lot of them seem to crave? It’s my first mafs in a long time

Yes some people think being able to afford range rovers make them a better person somehow. So strange

Respect for Nath. Polly was about to break into a 'who's that wanton hussy wrapped around my husband's nether regions' rant, when Nath breaks into a huge smile and announces as proud as punch "That's Lacey". He seemed so genuinely happy that she was having a good time.
I'm sure we will hear more about the dancing from the strangely puritanical faction.

I didn't think there was anything sinister about the driving by, it was a part of the I'm better than you, you don't even have a car and I have a big car, etc.

I stand by him being a walking red flag. The women in the group didn't pick up on Ryan because he wasn't going for them. If he'd been around for longer they might have noticed he was a wrong 'un. It's going to sound like bullshit but I genuinely have not been thinking about his colour although thinking about it now that's easy for me but I promise you any and all negative feelings I have for him are down to his aggressive misogyny. The edit won't be helping but as with Polly and Sacha and Stephen and Ryan and Eve and Richelle, the edit can make it worse for you but if you've not played the irredeemable arsehole then the edit has nothing on you.

I'd like to explain all of that a bit better but my cat's arse is now in my face demanding breakfast. He's an arsehole too but totally redeemable.

He is a nice person (if a little vacant). I can't understand why anyone would be jealous or mistrusting of Lacey. She is pretty straightforward and I would think she's the last person who would cheat or even flirt.

He’s a walking red flag, he’s aggressive and the way he shouts people down is awful. He also uses his face and body language to intimidate women, which is frankly awful to watch.

In the news it’s clear an ex accused him of abuse. He ended up in military prison because he went AWOL from the RAF, he also implied he was a pilot in the first episode, which he isn’t.

Some of the women are shouty and annoying but they don’t have his dangerous energy.

Orson isn’t aggressive, Paul (ixpert) isn’t aggressive.

I wondered if Sasha choosing Luke to comfort her was because off screen they have bonded in the gym.

A bit like on MAFS Australia when so many conversations take place off screen in the gym. I'm always 'put a bloody camera in the gym pronto' every year without fail

What am I reading??

They asked for an apology due to Miles' actions. Nothing to do with his skin colour.

I find it odd how you could even come to that link? Did you see the disrespectful video he posted, do you know their history? Very strange.

@FootbalIslife I try to stay away from the news so I didn't know that about Alex

I think it's fair to say Alex's behaviour singles him out, not his race.

I did wonder though whether the prolonged grinning was spliced in for effect in. Perhaps he was smiling at something funny for part of it.

He seems very blocked and in a rush to get the inevitable fight over with. Can't seem to see an alternative.

He doesn't listen, doesn't feel listened to because he doesn't explain himself clearly, it's all point scoring, doesnt grasp the other person's point because he hasn't listened and then quickly reverts to personal meanness and anger when the tension escalates.

It's very circular. I hope he does a lot of work on himself.

Sionnain and Ryan. The only times I can think of a couple being kicked off are Brad and Shona and Jay and was it Luke? I hope he hasn't hurt her.

The value of shows like this can’t be underestimated, where behaviours can be examined and discussed out in the open.
I feel a bit shaken but also vindicated by all the discussion around Alex’s behaviour - so many things he does remind me SO MUCH of how my partner can be 😔 it’s so subtle that it’s hard to identify, but is definitely controlling and full of barely disguised aggression.
The worrying thing is that the ‘experts’ and most of the group aren’t recognising and calling out how intimidating his behaviour is.

I can't imagine why Casper and Emma want to be on this Jeremy Kyle style car crash TV. I am surprised this hasn't pushed them closer together!

I was appalled at the ixperts advice to Hollie that she shouldn't raise her objections , disagreements with Alex at the dinner parties etc. and keep those discussions private. That seemed to me to be setting up the means for Alex to isolate and control Hollie.
Their advice was particularly weird given the whole premise of the show of opening up the "marriages" to the group (and global tv 🙄)

Ryan also made me really uncomfortable from the start. He never seemed natural or relaxed. Always on edge, actively controlling how he came across in public. It felt like a front, but not one based on anxiety or low self esteem. Based on him controlling the narrative.

I hate Alex with every fiber of my being - utterly utterly vile little man. Loved Sascha going for him.

Gaston is hilarious!

That would be great viewing!

I was a bit surprised at this late stage Caspar still blaming Emma and vice versa. She's tried after a huge humiliation and he's tried after a huge physical ick (sistergate). I thought they might have seen how bonkers the others are, agreed it was a bad hand but could've been worse, drawn a line under the romance and sex and agreed to show one another solidarity and friendship for the rest of the filming.

YES! She is exactly the kind of woman he should have been put with.

She would see through his rubbish and stay totally ice-cold and articulate, whilst verbally slapping that smug look off his face.

Though tbh, not very fair on her to be put with him.

I totally agree with this. For the one and only time in this series I was thinking "Go Polly!" she didnt let him get away with anything.

Oh god yes, THIS… my heart was racing watching that scene 😔

Richelle would have dug out Alex's AWOL from the RAF situation within hours.

Probably would have made a military arrest and marched him to the brig.

😂

It's weird looking back how Nafe is nothing like he seemed. Up to the honeymoon he came across as overly cocky and self assured, like when he was bragging about his suit costing a grand. Actually he's a total sweetheart, if not a deep thinker, and is a completely different person to the one first impressions suggested.

My face is free of cat arse! I'd forgotten the "Am I talking Swahili?" comment. My fleeting thoughts were "Why that language, Polly?", "Internalised racism?", "Does she realise what she's said?", "Am I making something of this when there's nothing?" and then it moved on and the thoughts were too fleeting to stick/remember so I forgot.

Anyway! It was slightly dodgy at best and an uncomfortable moment.

@Jimbalaya you're so right. At the wedding I thought he was going to be a bog standard teeth and tan influencer, totally in love with himself, nice to look at but appalling to be around. So very wrong.