MAFS THREAD 10 where you will respect the forum and sit down. Take off your Anorak of Sulk and get your hands out their Uggs. For we shall wear our polo-necks of misery and janitor pyjamas of poetry.

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The rest of the thread title

"For it's not easy to not get lipsed on the down low without someone getting lippy. Casper is still dying of cringe and Shitlid sees no way out. For we are all scrambling for our dignity, whilst watching the utter mockery"

It was a joint effort by us all.

What sane person would go on this show now unless it was for fame!
you’re likely to get “matched” with an abusive arse, someone aggressive, or someone with intimacy issues who is not at all in a place for a relationship, or someone with a serious and enduring mental health problem.
oh and someone with 4 kids.
their “vetting” process is shit
poor Shannon, especially if that’s true about the biting!

It's just a load of shite now. You can see the producers handling out the rota of whose turn it is to be involved in aggro this week.

Oh bloody hell, poor Sasha, she has put up a good argument and not is in floods of tears when Lacy was dancing with all the guys, as well as sitting next to her fella!

Nothing much to say about last night's episode expect that I hate the way the 'experts', and others, say stuff like "Someone was really rude (Richelle etc) and the response is not 'You cannot be that unpleasant to someone." The response is 'What has that person done to deserve the way the other person spoke to them!"

Totally, wrong.

Seriously can only be for fame because it's clear now that the producers dont listen to what the person does and DOESNT want in a partner.
It's purely all about entertainment but they are playing with peoples lives here smh

I do feel quite sad that this programme, which could focus on genuine relationships and learning to react well to challenges etc, is all about made up fights, arguments etc and people being totally unpleasant.

Because of this I have warmed to Adam, who seems like a nice enough lad. I have always liked Casper. I wonder if Emma things she is in sixth form and has been thrown in with the infants! I wish Emma and Casper had really been able to build a friendship and take it from there.

In amongst all the crap behaviour and fights, it's so refreshing to see some positivity. I'd much prefer to hang out with her all day long if would be a happy day full of laughs

Sorry, only just seen this.

Basically that Paul’s excuse/reasoning is a total cop out.

That he should feel pissed off if the producers are editing it in such a way that they’re not showing the ixperts call people out for bullying. That it’s effecting his integrity as a ‘relationship expert’ and he should be annoyed about that.

And that basically people don’t buy his bullshit excuse.

If Ryan did bite Shannon they would have chucked him out and not let him speak to the others. I think there's more to it than what he said but think that what Shannon said is accurate. He wasn't in to her, he was acting and add a bit of his witnessed aggression to the pot and that's enough for them to leave before the next cc, or for him to be asked to leave. Biting would be criminal behaviour.

He BIT her??? I missed that! Jeez.

PolPot & Alex was horrible to watch (but entertaining!) both as bad/horrible as one another.

I'm still rooting for Caspar & Emma - I said 3-weeks ago I think they'll surprise us eventually and I'm sticking with it!

2K - they seem to be genuine and really hope they can work it out.

I agree. I actually find her really manipulative and too needy. The correct response to Alex is to pay him no attention, he's so horrible. So what is he called your jewellery fake? Either it is fake and you're happy to wear it or it is not fake so it doesn't matter what Alex says. I think this is probably what Ross was really thinking, but he's had to pretend to be bothered because otherwise Sasha will accuse him of not standing up for her again. Looks like the next dinner party is poor Ross having to confront Alex, but he really doesn't seem like he wants to.
The whole photo thing was utterly ridiculous too.

When Alex and Polly were going at one another the others should just have all walked out. Don't give it any fuel.

The producers on the other hand, they are the ones who should react to him, by removing him. There are so many red flags.

Omg i called it! Sasha us super immature. Ross Ross go fight Alex to show you love me. And Ross doing all the geatures to appease her. Wow she whipped him. It shows his actions are reactive becuase of her immaturity and tantruming.

I can see why they are all single. Really dysfunctional and damaged from their past situations.
I called it none of these relationships will be together after the show ends.

I dont understand why people wre not holding Polly and Holly to the same judgment as Alex.
Alex gaslights yes but aggression is on Holly wnd Polly they are so argumentative and drama filled. Alex is the only one it doesn't work on the other men, use that term looseley, arr too afraid to rock the bowt and say exactly how it is.

I don’t know about anybody else, but I’m feeling increasingly uncomfortable at the way these women who are generally nice. Being matched with abusive pricks…. I feel like I’m just watching a show where the women get picked on. I don’t think I’ll be watching any more series to be honest.

And as in real life, the nice men just stand by wringing their hands. It’s very depressing and probably indicative of what happens IRL

They could almost all do with lessons on how to behave from not screaming at each other to keeping what happens in the bedroom, in the bedroom.

From listening and responding thoughtfully to moderating their hate faces.

Have to say a couple of them do seem to be sharing the same single brain cell but Amy and Nafe are at least peaceful and non-reactive, non-shouty and discreet.

I’m a bit terrified that if I ever make it to Birmingham, Alex will DRIVE PAST ME IN HIS RANGE ROVER.

What a strange threat.

But trying to be balanced:

It was a bit naughty of Sasha to make out that Alex had targeted her new bracelet in his comment which was much more general and more about her jewellery choices overall rather than that piece itself.

The mention of Swahili by Polly and the ‘I am above you’ comment by Sasha were both uncomfortable as, whether or not they were directed at him in a racist way, they could have been interpreted as such.

Shitlid’s reaction to Polly telling him what Alex said about her husband not finding her attractive was very, very awkward. There really isn’t a spark there. This has to be about wanting to stay on the telly for a bit longer.

Alex was pulled up on his aggressive language - swearing - but the women are more than giving the same aggressive vibes back. Glass houses, stones etc.

Gaston being the go-to person for Sasha was interesting. He does seem emotionally intelligent and kind generally but Sasha specifically choosing him to cry on rather than fellow woman Polly was unexpected. She definitely seemed to enjoy being enveloped in his big armed hug though. Well, who wouldn’t.

Casper’s feelings about Emma most probably do reflect how many men would feel -sadly - about her level of outward confidence and her emotional walls which have almost got a boarding school survivor type vibe about them. I wonder if I’m misunderstanding what he means by wanting to see the vulnerable side of her - not that he wants her to be less confident, just a bit more honest. I think she would probably be happiest with an older man who has his shit sorted out and sees how undemanding in terms of drama she would be if she’s treated with love and respect. I can see her being a great mum and perhaps step-mum someday with the right man.

@Tittat50 "All I can think about is Gaston farting on the toilet. It's all I think when confronted with someone with such disproportionate muscles"

Now this. This I need to know more about. Where does the idea come from?

I would be so interested to watch Richelle argue with Alex, she has such a knack of calmly emasculating men.

And my last observation this morning:

Alex played on the idea of the ‘bro code’ which he pays strong lip service to when he made that pronouncement about Adam not fancying Polly. Polly said something like that was 3 weeks ago and Alex agreed but with a huge non-verbal subtext that he knew differently but would never say it out loud because of the bro code. it fits with his ‘snake’ insult - on the surface, you never grass someone up (but it’s ok to let them know non verbally what you know if it adds fuel and hurts.) So he could say - I never said nuthin’ bruv’, knowing that the arrow he fired had hit its target and stung like hell.

I hope that makes more sense to you reading it than it did to me writing it! I think I know what I mean!!

Last night was the first time Shitlid really came to life, most tellingly when Polly wasn't around. He was loving his time with Lacey and was far from his usual subdued self. Polly on the other hand was her usual toxic self when they were separated.

That was the pits of telly. What next? Filming them actually brawling? Shitlid dancing was the only good thing.

Let's be clear: when Alex said he would drive past Sacha in his 4x4 what he meant was that he would leave her behind in his wake, that she is not in his league. It was nothing more sinister than that. This is important. It is so common that people single out the only black person in the show to represent them as "threatening" and "aggressive". Alex should be more careful about the way he behaves - he is old enough to know the way that black men are perceived by the public. Sad but true.

I would add that the way some people on reality shows sometimes treat people of colour is reprehensible. If any of you watch MIC...I saw Maeva and her husband treat Miles Nazaire as though he is subordinate to them, demanding an apology from him. He stood his ground. Good for him. Producers really need to be alert to this shit.

Sorry to derail the thread, I will shut up now.

Bloody hell the pathetic “jealous” nature of these people. Someone fancies your partner or has a picture next to them and all hell breaks loose. To give Polly her only props at least she laughed off the dancing. Sasha is unhinged!
I feel slightly bad for Alex- yes he was a bit rude in how he responded to Sasha but that vileness that is Polly comes at you and because you’re a man you’re supposed to just take it- nope. Polly is desperate for others to fail as if that makes her marriage a success, it won’t!