I respectfully disagree and I believe you are being far too lenient in your analysis of what has happened. I also know a lot about grooming and my degree lent itself to a lot of studies on terrorism. I also hail from a country that has far more experience of terrorism than the U.K. has in its entire history. We have seen it all.
There is being groomed, through exploiting vulnerabilities and other aspects of a child’s mind yet developed, and then there are children like Shamima.
Ultimately, children from a very young age are brought up to understand the concept of right and wrong. She was not groomed to become a suicide bomber; or a physical terrorist which so often happens in grooming; she was influenced by local Imams initially, and then somebody on the internet to join an organisation which was widely broadcasted as violent and extreme. She initially sought them out online.
It is cold blooded and against human nature IMO to actually see the things ISIS were doing and still wish to join them. The kind of videos we all saw are absolutely stomach churning and most adults could not watch them. On that note, I would add I don’t think there’s any coming back for any child that is able to to watch this kind of thing and NOT feel upset or disgusted. It is an issue with them not an issue of grooming. If you look into the psychology of children who do not shy from death or violence you typically find them to behave similarly as adults.
The British media, as they do, sensationalised ISIS to such a degree that I don’t think anybody here DIDN’T know about what they were doing, and most of us unwillingly saw a lot more of what was happening than we wanted to.
Her parents, would have been very aware of what was going on in Iraq and Syria, similarly they, or her sister would have seen their daughter wearing ISIS memorabilia. Children throughout the school knew Shamima for trying to influence others to join ISIS. It was clearly common knowledge and parents in tight knit communities do talk. Are you seriously suggesting her parents didn’t know?
I don’t believe this is grooming, I believe she has grown up in an environment where it was NOT taboo to sympathise with aspects of what ISIS stood for, and this was a progression on from that. It is a serious problem in the U.K. and exists in pockets of the country on a very serious level. I believe everyone around her is also to blame for this (school, family etc)
I will not bore anyone with the ins and outs of terrorist recruitment, but typically vulnerabilities such as lack of money, lack of money for the family, past shames or hidden secrets are used to manipulate young children or adults into making decisions they will regret. In certain places money is given to the family of a ‘martyr’ for example, in exchange. Or maybe somebody has found to be a homosexual and this is used as ‘redemption.’ This was none of this at all. I think it goes much further than any of that.
So, for that reason, I think she is too far gone to be able to actually feel remorse for what she has done, aside from feeling sorry for herself. She is no different, in my eyes than any child growing up to become a murderer who presented signs from a young age (killing animals for example). A well documented phenomenon. There is something very clearly not right there.