It frustrates me - I'm dyslexic, and even when I proof read I often miss stuff (I notice it when it's posted because it's on a coloured background for my own posts and it's easier to read).
HOWEVER - in the interests of full disclosure I should confess that I was typing like a maniac and not checking anything, everything was moving so fast. 😁
But yeah - you're right. Total narc. Even when he felt emotion it was ALL about him. "Becky made ME feel normal" etc. "I forgive you" (for stopping me murdering my son/ arresting me for murder, kidnap and rape/ not letting me burn myself alive). Everyone and everything is just an adjunct to himself - and that includes Ryan.
My heart ached for the child that Tommy once was, but the man he became had no sympathy from me. What is both heartbreaking and terrifying is that there are so many innocent children - so much potential for good and happy lives, contributing to society (Tommy was very intelligent - what could he have been if his early life had been different?) - so many children living lives like little Tommy; unloved, neglected, brutalised. This really is the "sins of the others" being passed down to the umpteenth generation, isn't it?
If Tommy had got away he would never have changed. He was overcome by a wave of sentimentality (and self-pity), but self-obsessed narcissist Tommy would have re-asserted itself very quickly. The first moment someone disagreed with him . . . criticised him . . . looked at him "funny" . . . He said himself that he was cruel to Becky when she effectively asserted herself as an individual with her own needs and wants. In many ways he was trapped in a very early "baby" stage of development - other people are an extension of himself and he needs to control them, use them to serve his own wants, and just become enraged and frustrated when he can't - toddler behaviour.
He still never asked for forgiveness or accepted any of his own horrific behaviour. It was all, in his mind, "Poor Tommy, Poor ME, how I have suffered." And he has - but he's made others suffer, too. There is a darkness in his soul that would never be lightened.
Catherine had the opportunity to stop him immolating himself again - and this time she didn't. She extinguished the flames, but she made no attempt to stop it or talk him out of it. I don't blame her.