There She Goes - anyone?

[hazeyjane]

Anyone watching?

Pissed Arsehole Syndrome

I'm hoping DTDad doesn't develop Adulterous Bolter Syndrome too.

The signs are there. But I hope not.

He's already leaving JHMum to do the lion's share.

Don't do it, David!

I really hope it doesn't go down that route.

I know lots of marriages suffer and breakdown as a result of the pressure of raising a child with complex needs, but there are many couple who work together and support each other. It doesn't have to be bleak.

I couldn't agree more, hazey. It makes a serious point about the pressures on couples and on parents as individuals. Looking around, it does seem to be mainly mums who are left holding the fort. We all - mums and dads - have to come to terms with the brave new world we have found ourselves in, and find ways of coping, in our own ways. I couldn't help noticing though that DTDad was disappearing off including to the pub with a woman colleague, which is sometimes not a good sign. When both parents work together, it's a beautiful thing. Parenting a severely disabled DC isn't a one person job - it's too much, having to fly solo.

I'll be shouting at the telly if he turns out to be a bad 'un.

Based on a true story, and as a couple they are appearing to be strong.

I remember my DP asking me to stop asking doctors if DS was ok/“normal” after yet another one had dismissed my fears. It was only by the time he was around 6 months old that they started acknowledging there was an issue. Made me a bit cynical, tbh.

And I should stress that DS’s issue, while leading to surgery and many many hospital appointments for many many tests at several different clinics at various hospitals, is nowhere near as severe as the little girl in this programme. So I can empathise but not really understand. It’s really good to have it on tv for all the norms to watch and see a tiny slice of what life can be like for parents whose children have a chromosome abnormality.

I don’t think it will end with him having an affair, if only because the dad is based on one of the writers. Also I liked the fact the female colleague was dating (instead of flirting with him) and telling him to pull himself together and get home to his wife.

My dh disappeared into his cycling when it was really tough, before diagnosis.

Lots of doctors told me she was fine, lots of children don't like change etc. True, but most 5 yr old don't violently attack their parents leaving bruises and bite marks.

I remember reeling that maybe I was imagining things, it was just my parenting.

Absolutely brilliant. Like watching my family (minus the drinking) on tv. DS2 has autism and severe learning disabilities. Finally a tv programme I can relate to.. dark humour as well that gets you through

My FIL told me there was nothing wrong with DS2 as well around 1 month before diagnosis (at 27 months)

When I voiced my initial concerns about ds development I had so many well intended comments from friends, some who had worked in education or had a background in Sen, 'he's fine, you know my brother/husband/cousin didn't talk till he was 3' and would point out why he couldn't be autistic, 'but he's so friendly and affectionate' etc.

I agree with previous poster that it was as if the family had only just met Rosie rather than living with her for many years.

They would have had more adaptions in place, and would know what worked and didn't work regarding communication and sleep.

But suspect it was done that way on purpose to highlight the differences between an NT child and Rosie.

I definitely recognise the feeling of knowing something is wrong but no one believing you. I'm still furious with my HV for being so dismissive and refusing to refer DS, and THEN speaking to my childminder behind my back to check up on me, because she thought I was making things up!!!! At least my childminder stuck up for me and DS!

Like watching my family (minus the drinking) on TV.

Watching it, it made me think 'hmm. I like their style. I should drink more!'

That's it: drink, but in plastic cups!

Will definitely be drinking tonight........had a day out at a National Trust place today....aieeeee

Aieeeeee!

Here in solidarity.

Sauvignon Blanc? Check.
Plastic cups? Check.

Up for 30 hours? Check. 🙇

Oh no....30 hours!

I am on a bottle of corona beer here (save on washing up!) The National Trust place was very busy, leading to a lot of shouting from d's (and lovely stares from the other visitors!)

The joy of plastic cups is that they go straight into the recycling, hence no washing up. A small joy.

We perform a public service by offering a staring-at option. We are considering charging a licence fee, like the BBC.

Tonight's little family life challenge is: WonderBoy unravelling a full kitchen roll, like the Andrex puppy.

We are shortly going to attempt sleep, which may range in minutes from 3 to 240.

An extra glass of wine - whilst much appreciated and needed, thank you - equates to me falling asleep whilst standing up, like a horse, but whilst changing a poopy nappy.

Night all.

My daughter laughs at seemingly inappropriate moments. Often when she is really wound up mid violent meltdown she will laugh. I don't understand what you don't get as out that scene.

It's not really helpful when parents of NT children say they don't know how they'd cope. You just do, you have to. We aren't heroes or saints. Just parents trying to do our best for our children, often getting it wrong like other parents.

Also thanks for expressing the fact that my son is having a crap childhood.

Yes, ds laughs sometimes when he is very overwhelmed, frightened or upset. It is like an emotional storm, with all his emotions jumbled up.

People cope with what they cope with....or don't, there is nothing special, heroic or different about cracking on with life (and sometimes cracking up)

I felt particularly sorry for the brother - crap childhood for him
Jeez, thanks. I won't pretend that things can't be hard for the siblings of people with complex needs....but shitting out the words crap childhood for him is just insulting and dismissive.

*Also thanks for expressing the fact that my son is having a crap childhood

um I don't know who you are let alone your son!

's not really helpful when parents of NT children say they don't know how they'd cope. You just do, you have to

Again, pardon me for having the audacity to post on a public debating forum!! Some parents put their disabled child for adoption, which is why there are so many children with disabilities available ,

One of my siblings has severe disabilities (Down’s and autism) and I absolutely did not have a crap childhood. What a crass thing to say.

bookworm14 and intentsand porpoises

Do you think every thread is about your family? This one is clearly about Rosie and her family.
It was crap for her poor brother always being let down, always being overlooked