A close friend of mine lost two still born daughters, so I can, yes just can, understand the trauma
No, Jane. You really can't.
I will not repeat everything I have stated over many threads now, but unlike you I did not find my true self until I transitioned. You had the loss of a baby; I "lost" 9 family members, including our 3 children, overnight who disowned me. My parents, who died over the last three years, both aged 88, never spoke to me again
You lost your family members because you made the decision to become a woman. That's very sad - but it is in no way comparable to having to deliver a healthy, growing, much wanted baby at 5 months fetal stage, because my female body - the bits that are meant to grow and deliver a healthy baby weren't working. My choice was to deliver the baby, knowing it had no chance of survival, to save myself or keep growing the baby to full term and we both die. I had two young children at the time, who needed me. Not much of a choice...
When a woman goes through a tragic event such as this they look to other women for support. Other women can not only sympathise but they can empathise. They may not have suffered this trauma but they know it could be a possibility for them and will know how it will feel if it happens to them. Not one of my women friends said, "Oh that's very sad. I lost my parent, grandparent, brother..." We all lose loved ones but it is in no way comparable to having to make the decision to terminate a baby's life to save your own. Only a woman would begin to understand.. Women with a womb, ovaries and cervix run the risk of cancer in these areas. Something you should be thanking your lucky stars you won't get, instead of the self pity you have shown because your lady bits are not the same as natal women's lady bits.
I appreciate things were very different back in the day and people who felt they didn't fit with the gender they were born into were given a hard time, as were people who were gay etc. Anyone who didn't fit societies "norms" were shunned. I get that. I really do. And I think you felt very strongly that you needed to be famale and went through years of pain and therapy to address this. I would prefer men who want to be women to go to these lengths. It sort of distinguishes the transwomen, that we know, from todays men who want to be women, sometimes. This is where the problem for women lies. If all men, wearing a dress or suit or jeans and t-shirt are allowed into women only spaces because they say they identify as a woman today, the safety of women and girls is greatly compromised. How does anyone know who holds a GRC and who are opportunistic perverts?
Today all children are encouraged to play football, dance, or do whatever they want to, regardless of their sex. Why is there any need for children to be given hormone blockers? There is no reason for anyone to change their outwards appearance. The UK is now inclusive of everyone. That doesn't mean we understand all the new terms around the various sexualities or gender differences.
But nobody is excluded because of societies norms now. Anyone can be who they want to be and do what they want to do. Gender is inclusive. Nobody is left out. I kind of understand an adult not feeling "adequate" unless they transition. But to hold back a child's puberty because a girl is experimenting with being a boy and vice versa is madness!
Anyway Jane ill leave it there now except to say posters are becoming angry with you because you keep trying to convince them you are a somehow superior woman, than natal women. Your overall tone suggests you are not a woman. Women can be bitchy , we all know that. Your tone isn't bitchy. It's hard, manipulative and angry. Much like a typical man when women don't bow down and give in to them.
I really can't see why you are claiming disibility allowance, when you are not disabled. You say you are happy with your new look - much better looking than some women (remember?) You have experienced trauma and mental health problems throughout your life. Haven't we all? No amount of money is going to sort your head out..