NappyValleyMum what a good post. I love that this thread has a conscience and actually considers the real person behind the character, and their friends and family!
For me, it's lovely to find I can still get a 'crush' on an actor/s (must confess I have also followed the Benedict Cumberbatch threads!) and it's wonderful to find some like minded people to chat drool with.
I think as much as we are curious about an actor's private life - it's a fictional character we're drawn to, so it doesn't really matter if BA is gay or straight (to state the obvious - I may sigh wistfully but it's not like I stand a chance either way.)
It's all about the work, and what makes me appreciate an actor is how well they act, and to some extent their professional conduct.
richtea if you want to go, go! The Carol concert is a public, charitable event to which BA has chosen to lend his support, so nothing wrong with fans attending. Surely the whole point of him and others being there is to attract publicity and a wider audience for a good cause. More the merrier I reckon!
Shame I don't live anywhere near London - it would be nice to turn up and show appreciation for him bringing the gorgeous Captain to life. A job he's "bloody good at". 