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Do I let my 14yo daughters boyfriend come on holiday with us?

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peachie82 · 26/04/2025 07:08

My daughter is 14 and has a boyfriend of 4 months although they have been friends longer . He’s a nice lad and they seem to get along very well. They spend a lot of time together either just the two of them or with their wider friends groups.

at May half term we usually go to a caravan park at the coast for a few nights. She’s asked if he can come this time. The caravan has three bedrooms so he would have his own room but it’s right next to what would be her room. I feel they are at the stage where things might happen, certainly if it was up to him. She does seem very comfortable with him and so far he seems to have been respectful and takes things at her pace, but I’m sure she doesn’t tell me everything.

i just want people’s options about if you think we should take him with us or if you think it’s a bad idea. She loves the idea of them having a little holiday together and they are old enough to go off for walks etc together as it’s a very small and safe place, beach, arcades, shops, places to get food etc.

I haven’t asked his mum yet, she might say no anyway.

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Odin2018 · 28/04/2025 21:34

40andlovelife · 28/04/2025 21:30

You have really lost me now. Yes I am aware teens have relationships as did I at that age. Not a scooby what that has to do with the price of fish. Very odd.

You would blow your stack if you saw what actually gets reported in a school!

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Teachers get on with teaching the kids. It's a wonder why so many schools are failing them.

Arancia · 28/04/2025 21:35

peachie82 · 26/04/2025 07:08

My daughter is 14 and has a boyfriend of 4 months although they have been friends longer . He’s a nice lad and they seem to get along very well. They spend a lot of time together either just the two of them or with their wider friends groups.

at May half term we usually go to a caravan park at the coast for a few nights. She’s asked if he can come this time. The caravan has three bedrooms so he would have his own room but it’s right next to what would be her room. I feel they are at the stage where things might happen, certainly if it was up to him. She does seem very comfortable with him and so far he seems to have been respectful and takes things at her pace, but I’m sure she doesn’t tell me everything.

i just want people’s options about if you think we should take him with us or if you think it’s a bad idea. She loves the idea of them having a little holiday together and they are old enough to go off for walks etc together as it’s a very small and safe place, beach, arcades, shops, places to get food etc.

I haven’t asked his mum yet, she might say no anyway.

Absolutely not. Why is a 14 year old even allowed a "boyfriend" in the first place?

SummerDaysOnTheWay · 28/04/2025 22:04

@Aranciafirst of all don’t quote the op!!
Second of all, you can’t tell a 14 year old not to have a boyfriend!!

Blondeshavemorefun · 28/04/2025 22:38

So as bf isn’t coming , can dd take a female friend

SouthLondonMum22 · 29/04/2025 01:35

SummerDaysOnTheWay · 28/04/2025 22:04

@Aranciafirst of all don’t quote the op!!
Second of all, you can’t tell a 14 year old not to have a boyfriend!!

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You don't have to encourage it either.

Lulooo · 29/04/2025 01:45

Besides my own, I wouldn’t take any child under the age of 16 on holiday with me unless it was a niece or nephew. Too much responsibility for someone you haven’t known for that long.

peachie82 · 29/04/2025 05:53

Blondeshavemorefun · 28/04/2025 22:38

So as bf isn’t coming , can dd take a female friend

Of course, if she wants to

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Odin2018 · 29/04/2025 10:08

peachie82 · 29/04/2025 05:53

Of course, if she wants to

Depends on the parents and whether they have trust in their daughter. Trust goes a long way to build up a child's respect for parents. Understandable if you know your child and think she is a follower, easily led and pressured or a person who is confident and values herself and dignity. Some teenagers are, others not. Some relationships between parent and child are very open and honest and trusting of each other, some are not.

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