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Feeding DS’s girlfriend

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SalTtt · 21/02/2024 14:29

So my DS is 14yo and in year 10. His girlfriend of 3 mths is year 11 and 16yo. There’s a pattern developing where she spends most of the weekend at our house - no sleepovers but she’s here Friday after school, Saturday & Sunday afternoon to 8/9pm.
Naturally within that time we’ve planned to cook family meals but because she’s here we of course share the food we’ve prepared but we are a family of 5, we already spend a fair bit on weekly food shop. I haven’t yet bought more food bcos of her presence but I have to think whether we have enough for 6 of what I’ve planned to cook.
Also, DS makes her lunch when she arrives (soup & sandwich) and he took a flask of hot soup into school the other day for her - she gets Free School Meals but doesn’t want to queue so either doesn’t eat lunch or takes handouts from her friends.
She’s a lovely girl but we’re feeling the strain of having an extra mouth to feed! Any ideas how we tackle this one? 🤔

OP posts:
Notamum12345577 · 15/03/2024 07:55

Not sure why free school meals had to be capitalised?

Todayzname · 08/04/2024 08:44

Ucannotbeserious · 24/02/2024 11:51

Be aware that as your son grows you may well want him to remember that his friends and girlfriends are always welcome. If he doesn’t feel that he is the one who will spend time at their house and you may be the loser. This may or may not be a long term relationship if it is then you all could have a great and close future and she will remember your kindness. If it isn’t he will remember your kindness in welcoming his girlfriend and feel that he has the best family ever. We are a household of between 6-9 people depending on girlfriends and boyfriend. I love them all and love that they are comfortable with us. Planning meals can be tough but a small small price to pay.

This. Couldn't have put it any better.

A long ex (like 47 years ago) remembers my Mum and Dad for their kindness and welcome when we'd turn up out of the blue for a few days.

We've welcomed out 3's friends. partners etc. One stayed unplanned over one Christmas as his parents made him unwelcome. (Mormons + LGBT = not a happy mix)

Elhu · 13/02/2025 20:44

Get your son to walk her home?

Elhu · 13/02/2025 20:49

FSMs are not like they used to be:
All the kids have the same card, so nobody knows if it's topped up by parents or council.
When I was at school (80s)we were given raffle tickets. They were a really embarrassing badge of poverty.

LetItGoToRuin · 14/02/2025 12:37

@Elhu - I'm pretty sure things have moved on with @SalTtt and their problem, seeing as this post was from 10 months ago...

Elhu · 14/02/2025 17:24

You're still following it 🤷

Motnight · 15/02/2025 16:14

Elhu · 14/02/2025 17:24

You're still following it 🤷

It's probably come up in posts you are on, that's how it's appeared for me

mummytippy · 17/02/2025 14:58

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