DS 14 has had sex-i'm quietly freaking out

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What do I do?

He's year 10, been with his GF since the summer. She's 15, he's 15 in a few weeks.

We had LOTS of conversations with him as soon as they started dating, covered every topic including WAITING until they were 16. That part has fallen on deaf ears.

He's told DH that they've done it. He used a condom.

Where do I go from here? It happened under our roof (when dh was at work and I was walking the dog).

I've not said a word, as far as he knows, I don't know anything.

It's so ironic, I'm eye rolling at my past self. He was born with one testicle and another problem which needed corrective surgery when he was younger. I worried myself sick that this would affect his relationships. We did a lot of work on his self confidence, we talked openly and honestly about finding the right person and it not being an issue etc. I now think we went too far.

He's 14!!

Do we think in 20 years we will all just be living online?!

Yes, so many relationships are conducted online these days. My 15 yo dd has a few boys interested in her. She likes a couple of them but so far meeting up seems difficult to arrange. It mostly consists of sending snaps - ie photos of themselves of what they’re doing, the odd message. Not racy ones btw. Posing in front of the mirror, sat on the sofa etc.

She and a friend sent a few messages to one of the boys and tried to meet him in town - bring a friend, that sort of thing. He said it was moving too fast and this is despite him having pursued her a few months ago and her ignoring him as she was dating another boy at the time. She only met up with this one once in 3 months after the initial meet as he lives a 45 min drive away. She now likes another boy from the same area. Gah.

All I can say is so far, this is great contraception but taking all the fun out of life. She’s incredibly good at networking but all online.

Life seems to have changed so much. I haven’t been out for a while due to very poor health but managed to go out for a short while on NYE. I expected it be heaving being NYE and all but it was not packed at all. Maybe a combi of no under aged drinking and life being conducted online with an element of people choosing house parties over pubs.

I absolutely fucking hate everything about this post.
What arrogant, entitled nonsense. Just how blinkered are you?

I absolutely fucking hate everything about this post.
What arrogant, entitled nonsense. Just how blinkered are you?

In fairness the poster apologised for it.