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Teenage twins spoiling holidays

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mickey54 · 09/04/2023 15:53

I am currently on holiday abroad with my husband and teenage twin boys. They are constantly fighting each other they won’t listen to a word me and my husband say. They are being disrespectful to us. They have me at my wits end. Feel like staying in the hotel room and crying. They are used to doing their own thing at home with friends x box etc. no idea why when we come on holiday they turn like this they did it on last holiday and I said I would never take them again. They are 13. Just ranting and crying xx

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ShippingNews · 09/04/2023 15:55

Have you taken them somewhere they wanted to go ?

Cherrybl0ssm · 09/04/2023 16:03

Get your DH to deal with it. Sometimes boys need their Dads to lay down the law.
In the mean time take a book/podcast find another pool or quiet part of the resort and take an hour or so to yourself

Muchtoomuchtodo · 09/04/2023 16:06

Were they involved in planning the holiday? Did you ask their opinions before booking?

we took our slightly older teens away last year but they had a lot of input into where we booked. They wanted a separate bedroom to us, a gym, WiFi, right on a beach and they asked for AI too but we were planning that anyway.

we took our time to find somewhere that everyone liked the look of and we had a great week.

just taking them somewhere that you think is nice and that they should be grateful to be without considering their wants / needs is a recipe for disaster.

Firstshoes · 09/04/2023 16:09

I think they should be bloody grateful they are getting a holiday. A lot of 13 year olds have never been away. They sound quite ungrateful.

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mickey54 · 09/04/2023 16:17

We’ve come on a city break. Which I booked a pool in hotel although not quite warm enough today. I try to do things they will enjoy.

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mickey54 · 09/04/2023 16:19

Yes potentially it’s a nice place an.d hotel with a pool and planning on the beach and boat trip . Nice meals etc. maybe it’s too much my idea 💡

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mickey54 · 09/04/2023 16:20

Yes I feel totally the same, a lot of there friends aren’t away and we go a lot . My husband tells me they are 13 all kids are ungrateful ?!….

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Firstshoes · 09/04/2023 16:09

I think they should be bloody grateful they are getting a holiday. A lot of 13 year olds have never been away. They sound quite ungrateful.

Quite.

A couple of these responses! 🙄

Luckystrikesun · 09/04/2023 16:44

Mum of twin girls age 13 we had this last year exactly the same and because of this we not going on any holidays.

GettingThereCharleyBear · 09/04/2023 16:47

Bloody hell. I’m gobsmacked at the PP whose kids dictate a pool, Wifi, AI?!? My kids wouldn’t dream of producing a list like that for our holidays.

No wonder the sense of entitlement is so insane in this generation when their every whim is catered too 🙄. They can have all that when they pay for their own fucking holidays 🙄.

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mickey54 · 09/04/2023 16:49

Oh dear so we aren’t on our own then. X

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mickey54 · 09/04/2023 16:50

Lol I didn’t ask ours this I booked a hotel with pool as thought they would like it. But that’s it really.

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Lcb123 · 09/04/2023 16:50

sorry but they sound very spoilt. I never went abroad until I went on school trip as late teen. They need a serious talking to about how lucky they are.

Easterfunbun · 09/04/2023 16:53

Teenagers definitely are twats on holiday though aren’t they? I mean I was a good teen overall but there’s some spectacular footage of me at about 14 raging and having some sort of tantrum because I couldn’t untangle my hair from the pool that day. Honestly I just don’t think I’ll bother when mine are all teens.

GingerPigz · 09/04/2023 16:54

Wont be taking ours abroad again for this very reason - our summer holiday to Turkey last year was ruined by their terrible attitude. You're definitely not alone.

Skybluepinky · 09/04/2023 16:58

Sounds like they have no structure at home and allowed to do what they want. This in turn means when they rnt doing what they want they play up.

Did u take their likes into account when u booked?

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mickey54 · 09/04/2023 16:59

Yes I have said the same to my husband we have spoilt them with holidays and now they seem unappreciative of going anywhere 😭

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Tiswa · 09/04/2023 17:00

Easterfunbun · 09/04/2023 16:53

Teenagers definitely are twats on holiday though aren’t they? I mean I was a good teen overall but there’s some spectacular footage of me at about 14 raging and having some sort of tantrum because I couldn’t untangle my hair from the pool that day. Honestly I just don’t think I’ll bother when mine are all teens.

Yep same - I remember by parents taking me to New York and stropping about how awful Trump Tower was the gold against the homelessness (I had a point but I was so stroppy with it). Or the time they wanted me to do a guided walk up a mountain and I stormed off leaving two teenage boys in my wake

it is what they do

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mickey54 · 09/04/2023 17:00

Never thought of it like that. They do have structure but they do spend a lot of time doing what they want and yes maybe this plays in to it.

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mickey54 · 09/04/2023 17:01

lol 😂

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Fibonacci13 · 09/04/2023 17:09

I had a holiday with my teens (I was a single parent at this time) where one of them (dd) cried almost every day because they hated it so much. I remember saying at the end of that holiday how I never wanted to take them away again.

They are now adults and we went out for dinner with their partners the other day and we were all talking about favourite holidays as a family and dd told everyone what a wonderful holiday it was and how she loved every minute 😂.

They will probably come back and tell everyone it was great. My advice is to ignore it and try and relax. I wish I had done at the time!

2bazookas · 09/04/2023 17:09

I've got a better idea.
First , read the riot act. Shouting; glaring, arms akimbo;Mother tells brats

"This is MY holiday, I earned it looking after this family and you won't ruin it for me. You have ruined YOUR holiday, I'm off to enjoy mine " Then you storm out.

Leave them in the hotel room, you go off and have some holiday fun (with or without DH) .

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mickey54 · 09/04/2023 17:11

Yep good idea 👍 I need to rise above it as my husband says x

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mickey54 · 09/04/2023 17:12

Oh dear ! See how we go !

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Firstshoes · 09/04/2023 16:09

I think they should be bloody grateful they are getting a holiday. A lot of 13 year olds have never been away. They sound quite ungrateful.

Yep. That’s what came to my mind too.

Its not like the OP didn’t think about them at all either.