Allegations against teenage boy

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Please can I sense check with you all about a situation my DS (15) is experiencing.

He has been accused of inappropriate touching at school but has denied this and I completely believe him. I won’t be going into the details here as I’m not seeking opinions on this. School are looking into this and he is excluded for now until they finish their investigation.

School mentioned there was another allegation the week before (different girl and boy) and it made me think….how often is this happening?

I know every allegation needs to be taken seriously and rigorously looked at, but it got me wondering how prolific is this, and how many of these allegations are false/unfounded?

Anyone with any insights or experience I would love to hear from you. I’m going crazy here waiting for meetings and outcomes and feel helpless. Thank you

False allegations are not rare among teenzgers

True, but then neither are sexual assaults and sexual harassment.

Ffs I just wrote out a whole message that’s been deleted!

There was a case locally (I hope it isn’t the same one) where the recently falsely accused 15 year old lad (proven by police to be falsely accused) was twice hunted down and beaten up, resulting in a broken arm and facial injuries. The lad who beat him has been prosecuted for a hate crime, as the 15 year old is autistic.

his reputation and confidence in tatters. An 18 year olds future in ruins, how will he get a job with a hate crime on his record… and she has faced little consequence :(

the reason for it? He had dumped her.

I don't understand how you can confidently quote a figure like this? I'm genuinely curious and am not trying to be difficult, or ignore maths. I'm trying to be objective without letting emotion get in the way.

The figure you quoted can't include a population of every accusation. So it follows that it is based on a subset of accusations- and that subset will be biased towards the true accusations as they are the ones likely to be recorded. I'd agree wholeheartedly that the vast majority of accusations are true but there are a number of false ones and some of them will be made by school aged young people and won't make it into whatever statistical population you're quoting from.

I absolutely agree that statistically such accusations are much more likely to be true. Nor would I disagree that there is a huge problem wrt to assault. However blanket inaccurate statements weaken the argument.. .

If he didn’t do it … he has nothing to worry about

Because no innocent people are in prison ever 🤪

This is a rather dangerous belief

Things have changed quickly, especially when schools and universities are tasked to investigate these accusations.

They really SHOULD NOT be in this position and if an accusation has legs, it should be taken to the police, not given to some random school staff member to adjudicate.

I am going through this right now. My son is a respectful shy boy that was dating a girl for a little while had kissed the girl on the cheek. When they broke up she accused him of assault this is ongoing and it seems like he is guilty with no way to prove innocents. She gave a vague 3 month period where this apparently happened but no specific date so we can't even look at school camera's to show she is lying. He was suspended from school and the mother has sent email after email to all the teachers making him out to be a monster.

What a disgusting thing to say, you're making judgement without even known the evidence. Your sons maybe like that but it doesn't mean all teenage boys are pervs.

Implied consent is NOT a thing! Taking your example- if a patient holds their arm out for a blood test the practitioner still has to ask permission before sticking the needle in their arm!