Suitable punishment for lying about where she is

[jackstini]

Dd is 15 (16 in March)

Few weeks ago we had an issue with her being out in a city, then a park until about 11 then stayed at a friend's house, where we've let her stay before

Issue is she had told us she was at a different friend's and only admitted where she had been when really pushed (& I had screenshots of her phone location)

We grounded her for a couple of weeks (ended up being 3 as she caught Covid)

She's gone to a friend's tonight, for a Halloween sleepover. Her phone says she's there but a friend of mine thinks she's just seen her in a tram going into town

Not answering phone (although iPhone says it is at friend's house) Best friend not answering hers either. Mum at the house she's staying at not answering text

Ideas please on WWYD now...

Well done OP. It takes strength of character to take on board some comments and try to change and compromise. Its even harder to do when youre afraid for them, but they cant live according to our anxiety.
I hope things start to go better for you all.

@jackstini

excellent update, you did well.
I think your DH should read it too, anger issues or not, it would be valuable for him to see how his behavior comes across to total strangers and just how much worse it looks/is for his own family.
I can totally get that he was scared out of his mind, fear is the number one reason why people get angry!
He needs to take a good look in the mirror, draw a line in the sand and manage his emotions better.

Best of luck to all of you

Wow well done OP, that took guts! Your love for your dd really shines through.

Brilliant update OP. Sounds like you and your daughter are on track to have a much more trusting relationship..it's all shits and giggles parenting teens isn't it?!

Thank you for update OP, I'm really impressed with your response to the very mixed reactions on the thread, sticking with it rather than feeling defensive which wouldn't have been surprising!

And showing her I wouldn't have thought of that what a great idea. If nothing else it shows her that there's no book of rules for parents, loads of different approaches and she could have more relaxed parents but equally much stricter! I imagine it was eye opening for her and what a brilliant way to open a conversation. Laughing over the more extreme posts or sharing a wtf together!

So happy for you and DD, need to keep dh in check.

Really nice job

Very cool update. Sounds like you turned this into a real, valuable moment for you both.